Boys and girls Brigade of Nigeria State Senior High School

Strengthening the Bond of Love

A strong relationship or marriage doesn’t just happen — it’s built through effort, consistency, and an unshakable commitment to grow together. Love is the foundation, but what keeps it standing is the daily decision to nurture it with patience, respect, and understanding.

Every man secretly dreams of being with a woman who initiates intimacy because it makes him feel like he is desired for who he is rather than for what he can provide.

What awakens a man isn’t the act itself, it’s the energy behind it. When she reaches for him out of raw desire, not obligation

In that moment he isn’t a provider, protector, or role.
He’s a man, wanted, chosen, seen. That feeling rewires something deep in his spirit forever.

Most men want to feel desired, not just useful. When a woman initiates affection, it tells him he’s valued for who he is, not just for what he gives. It’s not about ego, it’s about emotional balance.

Every man wants to feel chosen, not obligated.

Samson's parents had known the secret of Samson's strength since his birth, yet they told no one (Judges 13:5). The day Delilah heard of it, she told Samson's enemies and brought Samson down to ordinary (Judges 16:17,18) THREE LESSONS FROM THESE VERSES: 1. Everyone qualifies for your love, but not all the people you love qualify to know the secrets of your life! Because, some cannot handle it and others cannot wait to trade your secret for personal gain! 2. The enemy that will destroy you, will not come with a sword but with a smile! 3. Learning to keep your friends' secrets is not only about trust, but destinies are at stake. Nothing can be more dangerous and painful than to share your secrets with your enemies thinking they are your friends! THERE ARE THREE CATEGORIES OF FRIENDS: (a) CONFIDANTS - They will walk with you no matter how hard it gets. You need to be grateful if you have one (b) ASSOCIATES - They team up with you to achieve a common goal.....most of the time they compete for the same prize/goals with you! Be very careful with these kind, they may push you down in order to win the prize (c) COMRADES - They team up with you just to fight a common enemy. They will be gone once the enemy is defeated.....you should not be worried when they leave, they were there for a season. Always remember the saying that, "some friends are like a shadow; they appear only when the sun shines." I hope your day is going on well?

NOWADAYS TRUTH ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN GUYS AND LADIES!

1. Guys Will Always Be The First To Text A Girl, But Once That Lady Spreads Those Legs For Him she Would Be the one texting Him Every Time.

2. Most Guys Will Say Its Not A Must We Have S*X But Truth Behind it is Why don't We have It Every time we are Together.

3. Most Girls Will Say Have DATED Two Guys Which Is A Lie She Has Dated More than that.

4. Most Guys Will Say I Want Us To be together Forever But Once He Got What
he Wants From her Then Problems Starts Break ups Every time.

5. Most Ladies Give in To S*X Just keep that Relationship Strong But to Guys More You Give in To S*X the More you Become Cheap and useless To Him

6. Once s*x is not yet involved in relationship, the dating is always strong but once s*x occurred , relationship problem that will lead to break up will occurred.

7. People always fall in love with those who don't even value and appreciate their effort.

8. Almost all women date for material things and money but hoping the dude will marry her . Most Guys primary mission in dating is s*x before thinking about marriage.

9. Everybody desire to taste true love but we keep getting heartbreak.

10. Men and women are Pretenders in boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. A lot of fake life and lies.

TRUE OR FALSE?

ADVICE TO MEN ABOUT THEIR PREGNANT WIVES...
Men, today I want us to discuss about PREGNANCY.
Do you know that certain things you do when your wife is pregnant actually contributes to state of health of the mother and unborn child?
Listen, it bothers me a lot when I see men showing no concern to their pregnant wife or fail to adjust to some temporary changes.
It's just 9 months, not like it's forever. Pregnancy is not bought in the market, neither is it a software downloaded from the internet. It's a seed planted by you germinating. There has to be a carrier of that seed while it grows, and women have been given the responsibility to carry it.
Pregnancy is preparation to welcome a new member into the family. Pregnancy is a journey fun filled, amazing etc.
Women differ in body changes. Although Pregnancy makes women do certain things in common.
■Once in a while she would nag
■Once in a while she would request for things unimaginable e.g she wants to eat okro and bread
■Once in a while she would get so lazy to make you your meals
■Once in a while she would want to stretch her legs on your laps. Please pardon her... carrying the baby ain't easy.
Her needs may be unsatisfiable at times.
The first Tri_mester of the journey can be so annoying. Like I say women differ from each other during pregnancy.
●While most women are busy vomiting.
●Most of them sleep like water leaf, they sleep off anywhere with the slightest chance even in the kitchen.
●While most women have fever.
●Most women be looking cranky and dry like Dustin powder.
●While most women add up weight.
●Most women appear like burnt offerings.
●Some even go round with White handkerchief spitting in it. ALL THESE ARE STILL YOUR WORK.....
Please tolerate this, it's beautiful afterwards.
Her attitude becomes annoying, most times you cant stand her. But I get annoyed when I see men neglect their pregnant wife. She's not an abomination, neither is she a curse. I must say, it's not an easy journey for all.
The last Tri_mester is when you need to be extra patient, loving, enduring and understanding.
NOTE...
1) Always observe your wife's feet while pregnant, it swells often. Please give her a basin of water to soak her leg once in a while, it's one of the best treat women enjoy during pregnancy.
2) Ask her regularly how she feels and how the baby is. She's the carrier so she feels him/her move.
3) Tell her how beautiful she looks during pregnancy e.g " Honey see as the pregnancy make you fine, I will be impregnating you every month ooo" or even "is it my child that makes you fresh like this pass normal" Even if she has grown bigger in size cause of the pregnancy, celebrate her.
4) Don't be upset if she ever wakes you up by 2am to help massage her feet. You need to feel little of her discomfort and pain. She shouldn't carry it alone, it's your baby you need to carry it together. (I don't mean physical carriage though).
5) No rule book stopped s*x during pregnancy, in short it's the best sef.... do it. It's not like the va**na stopped working during pregnancy. o boy continue the work that brings the pregnancy.
6) Don't be ashamed to take her out. Take her out once in a while to those lovie dovie places you used to go together. They love it...
Most times I wonder what crosses the heart of men when they see their pregnant wives. Carrying a child for 9 months isn't easy.
I urge all men to get closer to their spouses during pregnancy because that's one of the times she needs you most.
A big shout out to all men who fully stand by their wives during pregnancy. God bless you all.... Kindly like and share for all men to read and you may save a breaking Home today..

Ladies S*x isn't enough...
It's very possible for any man to ask for s*x in a relationship, but is left for you as a lady to know that s*x, can't keep him..( S*x isn't enough)
There are two major factors ladies complain about s*x in a relationship:
√ After giving him my body he left me..
√ He left because I refused to have s*x with him..
NOTE: Both those who gave and those who refused to give are complaining...
( Was the difference)
Ladies Listen, S*x isn't enough, its not the only thing you can offer a man.
If You Don't Have Anything To Offer A Man Outside S*x, Please remain Single...
A man can't stay with you because his having s*x with you....
Relationship is not buying and selling.
There are much to life than Monkey style, Doggy style, Missionary style, Apple n juice style, step pillows style, etc ...
Are you sound intellectually? Spiritually? Physically? Mentally? Emotionally?
Men love intelligent ladies...
Men love ladies with ideas..
Men love respectful ladies...
S*x is very cheap these days, anybody can buy it.
You need to build yourself beyond s*x.
Leave make ups and be a productive lady.
Men are looking for ladies with ideas and solution not those who paint their faces with different colours.
What a man wants is beauty with brain not make ups with b***s or hips....

THE POWER OF *I AM SORRY.*
*I am sorry,* a short but mighty sentence!
If you wish to live long, don't joke with this short sentence, *I am sorry.* Do you know how many people who had gone to early grave because they neglected the therapeutic power of *I am sorry.*
Single sorry can stop a war, n prevents millions of men, women including children from dying!
Most of the troubles in most homes are heightened because wives are too big to say *I am sorry* to their husbands and you can trust the ego of husbands in saying same to their wives.
Quarrel lingers between friends because no party wants to say *I am sorry.* Each says or asks, why should I be the first to say *I am sorry?* He or she would beat his or her chest and utter the ego phrase, *a whole me!*
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the part of the world where saying *I am sorry* is a hard nut to crack while curses are easily unleashed.
Welcome to the part of the world where people refer to a person who says *I am sorry* in a midst of a rift as a *weaker s*x*: one who is not man enough; one who is foolish.
Welcome to Africa where saying *I am sorry* is tougher than forcing a donkey to pass through a needle hole.
All of us are victims of this discussion. We have lost valuable assets, money and even lives because of this cheap and affordable sentence *I am sorry.* It simply cost only a breath of speech.
Have you ever wondered why domestic violence is less pronounced in the western world? It is simply because they understand the efficacy of *I am sorry.*
Husbands say it to their wives and even children whenever they err, wives and children do the same and life goes on fine.
Friends, this is simply a piece to encourage us to cultivate a habit of saying *I am sorry.* It is difficult but readily affordable.
Learn how to say *I AM SORRY* even if you are right.
If this message offends you in one way or the other, *I am sorry*
My apologies.

WHY MEN ARE CALLED "GROOM”, AND THE WOMAN “THE BRIDE” ON WEDDING DAY?..
Why is the newly wedded man called groom and the woman called bride? A friend of mine got tired of his wife just about six months after wedding. He complained bitterly to me about her and told me that he has concluded to break up with her; he went on to say that he was sure that he made a mistake. I did not respond immediately because I knew I must tell him that right thing, so I went home. And that is
what birth this message. Many men have broken up with their wives because they end up not being the wife that they have dreamt of. But they have forgotten that on their wedding day was when the man was commissioned for the new task.Nobody calls the woman wife on her wedding day but bride,because it is the man that will groom his bride to become the wife.That is why the man is called ‘bridegroom or groom’ and the word grooming has to do with patiently nurturing, teaching, tending and helping someone to become what he or she should be.It is therefore believed that a man that takes a woman to the altar of marriage is matured enough to patiently groom his bride to become the wife. The man is not supposed to just expect the bride to automatically become the wife, she must be groomed. It is clear that many of us men have unnecessary expectations when we were getting married, we want some magic to happen to our wives, we want them to become what we have had in mind about who we want our wives to be; not considering the fact that the woman does not know what is on your mind except you teach her.
Our expectations are often too unrealistic, because we don’t remember that change takes time and we can only expect something from someone that knows what we want. So before you think of breaking up, have you groomed her? Have you given her time to understand you? Hope you realize that a turtle will never become a hawk? God often brings people that are opposites of each other together in marriage so that they can help each other in their place of weaknesses. If your wife is weak where you are weak, then where will you get the strength that is needed? The problem with many of us is that we don’t accept people before attempting to change them. Of course, our wives are not from our backgrounds, so it will take time for them to adjust. Stop trying to change her, accept her, love her, teach her and be patient with her; that is what grooming is all about. She is going to be your wife but she is your bride now, so groom her. Stop complaining about her, she may be a turtle and you a hawk, she cannot fly so be patient with her. I don’t believe that your marriage can’t work, be patient and allow God to help you

Ekpo Richard Rhyno Leonardo
A woman went shopping. At the cash counter, she opened her purse to pay.
The cashier noticed a TV remote in her purse.
He could not control his curiosity and asked,
"Do you always carry your TV remote with you? "
She replied " No, not always, but my husband refused to accompany me shopping today because of football match, so I took the remote."
*Moral: Accompany and support your wife in her hobbies.....*
The story continues....
The cashier laughed and then returned all the items that lady had purchased.
Shocked at this act, she asked the cashier what he was doing.
He said, "your husband has blocked your credit card.........."
*MORAL: Always respect the hobbies of your husband.*
Story continues....
Wife took out her husband's credit card from purse and swiped it. Unfortunately he didn't block his own card.
*Moral: Don't underestimate the power and wisdom of your WIFE..*
Story continues...
After swiping, the machine indicated, 'ENTER THE PIN SENT TO YOUR MOBILE PHONE'.......
*Moral: When a man tends to lose, the machine is smart enough to save him!*
Story continues....
She smiled to herself and reached out for the mobile which rang in her purse.
It was her husband's phone showing the forwarded SMS.
She had taken it with the remote control so he doesn't call her during her shopping.
She bought her items and returned home happily.
*Moral: Don't underestimate a desperate woman!*
Story continues....
On getting home, his car was gone.
A note was pasted on the door
"Couldn't find the remote. Gone out with the boys to watch the premiership match. Will be home late. Call me on my phone if you need something".
Dawn... He left with the house key too.
*Moral: Don't try to control your husband.
You will always lose

True love makes you do things you never imagine or thought of doing.
You can reach to a point of breaking principles, learning how to sacrifice.
It can also make you learn how to apologize, how to care, how to appreciate and even know how to compliment.
True love can shape you into a better person, it can make you learn different things i.e a new language if both of you are not from the same country or tribe, it can also make you grow healthy.
If you have someone who truly loves you, love and appreciate that person in return.
Such people are a rare gem.
Accept the positive change they bring to your life.

MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS ............w
“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know crewhat I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? You know
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Remember love is the richest of all treasures. Without it there is nothing; and with it there is everything. Love never perishes , even if the bones of a lover are ground fine like powder. Just as the perfume of sandalwood does not leave it, even if it is completely ground up, similarly the basis of love is the soul, and it is indestructible and therefore eternal. Beauty can be destroyed , but not love.
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