Christian Single Parents Forum from: Asotun Raymond

REASONS WHY YOU MAY CONSIDER MARRYING A SINGLE MOTHER.

Most folks, especially Nigerian men, do feel they are doing women favour when they marry them as single mothers, but it's a paradox and a social myth that must be educated.
90% of single mothers are BEST wives in the marriage market .

Firstly, why do women become single mothers?
Some are DELIBERATE, some are TRAGEDIES (widows) while some are MISTAKES. So if you happen to like a single mother, investigate her motive before you configure the drivers of your feelings.

If it was a MISTAKE OF TRAGEDY, trust me she can be the best WIFE you can ever think of.

1. Single mothers that made mistakes do bring total SUBMISSION to the table of marriage once they know that the man is honest and sincere, because they will see marriage as a classroom where they must correct the mistakes they made in the past.

2. If you want to WIN her, love her child first, and you will see that she will LOVE you with her last breath and blood.

3. Don't forget that as a woman that has put to BED before, there's 85% assurance that she will conceive without toiling from one prayer house to the other to conceive; the baby is evidence of her fruitfulness.

4. Single Mums treat their husbands as LORDS for the sacrifices they make, and easily forgive them no matter the gravity of what they err.

5. If you marry her, do not discriminate the child in your children's budget, see them as equals so you don't sprout the seed of jealousy.

6. If she is a single mum as a widow you may not have problem but if the child's father is alive, both of you should have an agreement from the beginning on welfare and information management. Don't deny the father access to his child but put a password before he can have access to your wife; it implies the gateway should be defined while you monitor the parameters; trust me, the child will grow up to love you as the man that made his/her mother happy more than the biological father.

7. Ensure the child is in the s

BIG SECRETS IN MARRIAGE!

Secret 1

Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength.

Secret 2

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

Secret 3

Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.

Secret 4

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

Secret 5

To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
Ignorance
Prayerlessness
Unforgiveness
Third party influence
Stinginess
Stubbornness
Lack of love
Rudeness
Laziness
Disrespect
Cheating
Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

Secret 6

There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

Secret 7

God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials

If you think your situation is worse, think about someone who is still paying wedding loan after divorce.
Sope tieee

Having a blissful home is a gift from God and it is also depends on how we are able to understand our spouse,
May God grant us the grace to maintain a blissful home now and forever in Jesus mighty name... Happy new month to my fans,....

To Every Member & The Intending Members Of The Group, This Is To Remind You About The Annual Thanksgiving Of The Group Which Will Be Coming Up On 21St January, 2018
Time: 3:00 pm
Venue: White House Hotel, Abule Egba, Lagos

DO YOU KNOW?
* If you marry the right Person, everyday will seems Valentine's day
BUT
* When you marry the wrong person/spouse everyday seems martyr's day
** Marry a lazy person everyday & every hour is for labouring & toiling trying to make two ends meet

*** Marry a rich spouse, everyday will seems as if you're celebrating Christmas/ the birth of a new born baby

*** Marry a cheater or a liar, it is then you will discover that APRIL FOOL is everyday & not once in a year

*** Marry an immature and see how in laws become an unpaid advocates, because the immature partner will keep reporting you to his/ her parents

***Marry a spouse that understand your feelings, everyday will seems as if you're celebrating children's day

*** When you choose not to marry, then everyday will seem to you as if you're celebrating independence day because no one to caution or control your freedom

*** Above all, marriage is not a do or die show & it is not the certificate/license to heaven but yet it shows how responsible you are in the society

Happy Weekend To You My Groupie

When you look round and when it seems as if no one cares for you try and care for yourself
* When you take a walk in the street and nobody seems to recognise you, try to recognise yourself
* When you feel sad and troubled in mind and no one is available to give you joy, look at yourself and smile it over
* Frowning and squeezing your face always can even make you look older than your age, so best therapy for good looking and long life is smiling
Have a wonderful new week ahead friends and members of my group

Where there is love there is always silence, peace & no commotion because the two hearts are very close to each other, on the other hand in a home where there is no love there will always be noise, disagreement & commotion because the two hearts are very far from each other. Have a blessed week ahead all my friends & the family of this group

Every Marriage Needs: Understanding, Wisdom, Trust, Forgiveness, Peace, Frequent Communication, Tolerance & Total Commitment Of The Heart To The Spouse & Only The Wise Ones Can Apply These In Their Homes & The Fools Will No Alternative Than Changing Matrimonial Homes Every Year.... Happy Homes To You All Friends!

THANKSGIVING SERVICE :
ACHIEVEMENTS:
The forum has been able to unite and bringing together the scattered homes,
** Removal of a thing veneer of frictions and feuds in marriages by putting and end to what appeared to be vociferous in relationship
** Creating a viable homes vis-à-vis matchmaking and counseling to couples and intended couples
** Restoring families joy from parlours States by reuniting the children and the two parents together, etceteras
Thanksgiving service in honour of Almighty God on the occasion of the 5th Anniversary of : CHRISTIAN SINGLE PARENTS FORUM- Raymond Asotun:
All glory and honour to Almighty God that has been forum sustaining the forum and to be able to accomplish the goal and purpose of setting up the forum also big thanks to the following friends & family members:
APPRECIATION:
Pastor S.A Kolawole, Barrister (Mrs.) T.A Ishola, Pastor J.T Afolabi, DR. & Mrs D.S Ibrahim, Pastor L.O Ime, Barrister ( pastor ) C.K Felix, Pastor Anyanwu S.A,and other friends that can not be mentioned here due to oversight and my brethren in the Lord, thank you all for presence, supports and your prayers

The Chief Executive Officer of this forum ( Christian Single Parents Forum ) use this medium to thank all members of this forum for your support & your kind gesture during my 50th Birthday Anniversary, may God in His infinite mercies guide, protect, provide for you in all your endeavors, God bless you all, In Jesus Name Amen