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“Stop praying like a zombie… You will lose the real move of God and end up with a show.”



What Pastor Ogbueli said sounded like an attack on one young apostle. But I need you to understand that there is an important correction he’s giving to us as an elder.


If you look at it closely, Papa is actually correcting us to pray with dignity, even though at the beginning he sounded harsh. Papa took it a little personally and lost the steeze.

These were his words:


“Whoever taught you guys how to do kabababa, kababa, shut up! Shut up! When it is time to receive, you shut your mouth. Has that your kabababa helped you? Then let it help you in your house. Shut up!


When a man of God calls you to receive, stop making noise.


Some of these young people that are rising, training young people, train them well.
There is noise everywhere, but life is empty.
I went somewhere to preach. I invited young people to pray with me. I saw some of them, the way they were twisting their bodies to pray, and I was just looking at them. I wondered what was going on. Who taught them this one? Some of them looked like people having epilepsy.


No, no, no. It’s not an evil spirit you’ve got. It’s the Holy Spirit. Carry yourself with dignity.
There are times in prayer when the spirit of travail comes upon me and I feel pain in my tummy like a pregnant woman delivering, and I cry out in the spirit. Yes, there’s a place for that. There’s travail.


But this thing young people are doing is not travail, they are copying something they saw someone doing. Everybody now becomes a zombie. You lose the real move of God and end up with a show.”


The words sound too personal and almost like an attack, but perhaps the move really did look disturbing.

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THE LIZARD TAIL-FIGHT PHENOMENON
(Is your buttocks your weapon ?)

Think about it for a minute, when two lizards fight, they often turn tail to tail so they can use the tail as a weapon to strike their opponent.

I like to call this the "LIZARD-TAIL FIGHT PHENOMENON"

For lizards to fight, they often turn tail to tail with each other. The image in this write-up may not show it well enough, but it gives you an idea, it creates a picture that can help you imagine and remember where and how you see this play out in society

Today, our young ladies and even mothers are gradually getting into this LIZARD-TAIL FIGHT PHENOMENON, as their major competition these days is whose butt is bigger.

Our streets replete with the unfortunate images of young unmarried girls to more mature ladies up to married women who need to prove a point by turning their back; tail to tail with each other saying: "MY BUTT IS BIGGER"

This may not always be heard in statement form, nor will you always see two ladies backing themselves and saying verbally that "my butt is bigger" but you can see from their everyday actions, dress focus, clothing pattern and even walking style that that is the statement.

Our young ladies, mothers, singles and married people spend hours in the gym, use pills and other medications, as well as stomach guard in order to make this statement.

Wait a minute, before you pelt me with stones, I like to note that not all ladies engage in body building to engage the lizard tail fight, but a good number of them are in this fight.

When you walk our streets today, from high and top ranking government officials in administrative sectors, to our schooling systems, to our economic/financial/market sectors even to our religious and spiritual sectors, the environment screams with women (young and old) saying "check out my own" "have you seen me" "take a look at me" "I am married but I am still s*xy" "I have not lost my shape" "I still got it" "I have figure 8" "MY BUTT IS BIGGER."

It's a crazy fight in a wacky, zany, crooked and whapped-up society.

Ladies look out for others, checking out if they are more bootylicious than the other one.

This is the "THE LIZARD-TAIL FIGHT PHENOMENON"

Wake up our young ladies, wake up our mothers and middle age singles, wake up!

For a woman's life consisteth not in the abundance of the weight of flesh she is carrying behind her. You are not a LIZARD, your weapon is not behind you (your butt) and you do not have to turn back like the lizard to fight nor do you have to turn back to compete.

There is beauty locked up in other areas of your expression, discover them, and flaunt them!

For some of you, it is actually your natural beauty, for some of you, it is your colour, for some, it is the smoothness of your skin, but for some, it is your voice, for some, it is your intelligence, for some, your carriage, your confidence, your speech power, your eloquence,your simplicity, your tenderness, your motherly nature, your loyalty, your creativity, your peaceful personality, your smile, your hard-working nature, your skill, your energy and more.

Discover your weapon WHICH MAY NOT BE YOUR TAIL (I.e your butt), turn it, NOT LIKE THE LIZARD this time, and fight with it.

The truth is if you are bootylicious as a lady, enjoy it but don't weaponize it, because if as a lady, all that YOU THINK that there is to you is a big behind (your butt), then you are not different from a cow with a good body, and what do we do to cow with good bodies ?? We eat them! It simply means if all of your strength is only in your physique, you may not be better than a cow needed for its meat alone (i.e s*x). Once you are laid, the best of you has been realized.

Defy that narrative!, say to yourself "I AM NOT A LIZARD" I do not have to turn my back to use my weapon. My life will not tell the LIZARD TAIL-FIGHT PHENOMENON.

I am a bag full of weapons, plus MY BUTT (minus it, for those that don't have it big) AND MORE. You are beautiful despite.

I challenge you my lovely doe, you are not a lizard,don't fight like one!

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If you’re the only one calling, checking in, apologizing, and trying to keep things together… pause for a moment.

That’s not love, that’s emôtional exhàustion wearing the mask of hope.

A healthy relationship doesn’t make you feel like you’re begging to be seen. When it’s mutual, effort comes naturally. Communication flows, care is consistent, and love feels safe, not stressful.

You shouldn’t have to chase someone just to stay in their life. The right person won’t make you question your value or fight for crumbs of attention.

Sometimes, we hold on because we’re afraid to start over. But peace is worth more than a forced connection.

A godly relationship should bring you closer to Christ, not closer to tears.

So take a deep breath and Re-evaluate.

If you’re the only one holding on, maybe it’s time to let go and that’s not fàilure, it’s freedom.

You deserve a love that’s steady, mutual, and God-centered not one that drains the life out of you.

Pastor Abby

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Earlier today, I watched a video where Pastor Nathaniel called Apostle Joshua Selman "My brother."

The tone of his voice as he said those words was dripping with warmth and sincerity. You could feel the love, the honor, and the deep bond that years of friendship had built between them.

Then he went on to say so many beautiful things about Apostle Selman.

They are always there for each other.

They always look out for each other.

When one is weak, the other strengthens him.

When one falls, the other helps him rise again.

In fact, according to Pastor Nathaniel, that very morning, Apostle Joshua Selman sent him such a huge amount that his phone got hot. He couldn't even count the zeros. 😅

As I watched the video, I kept saying to myself,

"Kai! What a friendship!"

Sincerely, I was deeply moved. I envied their relationship, not with bitterness, but with admiration.

As I listened to both of them speak, I just kept smiling, my heart swelling with warmth.

Then I paused and asked myself quietly,

"Do I have such friends? At least one person?"

The truth is, relationships like theirs don't just happen overnight. They are built, nurtured, and watered with love, loyalty, and sacrifice. It was never one sided. They worked it out, probably long before fame and crowds ever came.

Neither of them neglected the other.

They invested in each other. They prayed together, cried together, lifted each other, and stood by each other through thick and thin.

Their friendship has stood the test of time. And honestly, I envy them again. Oh yes, I do. 🥰🥰🥰

But sadly, many of us today aren't ready to build such relationships. We only want to receive, never to give.

We won't sow into the friendship.
We won't show up for one another.
We won't pour our hearts out to make it work.
We hide opportunities from each other.

Instead, we envy one another. We secretly compete. We tear each other down instead of lifting one another up. The moment someone among us achieves something worth celebrating, jealousy creeps in and poisons the joy.

We cheer for celebrities who don't even know we exist, yet we can't celebrate our own friends.

We attend big programs and ignore the small ones hosted by those who truly care about us.

Oh, how we've lost the beauty of genuine friendship, the kind that uplifts, the kind that heals, the kind that reminds you you're not alone in this journey.

Honestly, as I write this, I don't even know what more to say. My heart is full, yet my words feel empty.

I pray we find such friends.

If you read to this end, could you be my friend? Let's patiently build from this level. Just be willing to give your best. As for me, I assure you that you will have my 100 percent best.

Tomorrow, we would become the next Pastor Nathaniel and Apostle Selman people would talk about.

I love you.

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S*X MADE ME LOSE MY MARRIAGE

Dear Women in Marriage,

I wish to share my story as a testimony to all of you walking through this sacred journey called marriage. My name is Sofia, I am 39 years old, a divorcee after 13 years of marriage, and a mother of three beautiful children, two boys and one girl.
I got married when I was 23 years old. At that time, I was young, inexperienced, and too naïve to fully understand what marriage truly meant. My husband was a good man of caring, home-loving, and responsible.
Yet, in my youthful ignorance, I mistook my desire for freedom as strength, not realizing that marriage itself requires maturity, patience, and understanding.
By the age of 31, I already had three children. Life became a routine of motherhood and house management to caring for my husband, tending to the children, and ensuring everything ran smoothly.
Two of my children were already in school, and the youngest was under the care of our nanny. I finally had some freedom to move around, go shopping, and do things on my own.
Then, one ordinary evening while shopping, something happened that changed my entire life.
As I reached for an item, I felt a gentle touch from behind. Turning back, I saw a man smiling warmly at me.
He greeted me politely, and we exchanged a few words.
He was charming, well-spoken, and carried himself with confidence. When I was done shopping, he insisted on paying my bill and walked me to the car. I felt seen, admired, and appreciated.

Later that evening, I couldn't stop thinking about him.
His kindness reminded me of what my marriage had been missing or at least what I thought it was missing.
Two days later, he texted me, asking if we could meet for coffee. I agreed. We talked for hours. He was attentive, understanding, and seemed to say everything a lonely woman longs to hear. By the end of our conversation, he suggested we go somewhere private to continue talking. I didn't resist. We booked a room, and that evening, everything changed.
The intimacy we shared made me feel alive again. But what I didn't realize was that moment of pleasure would cost me everything I had built for years. When I went back home, I started comparing him to my husband.
His words, his touch, even his presence. Suddenly, my husband felt boring, weak, and unfulfilling. I began to avoid him and withheld intimacy, believing that the man I had met was what I truly needed.
Our affair continued until the man I was seeing asked me to leave my husband so that we could start a new life together.
Blinded by emotions and lust, I caused fights at home and finally walked out of my marriage, believing | was walking into happiness.
Today marks three years since I left my home. But I can tell you this from the bottom of my heart — there is nothing special out here to celebrate.
The man I left my husband for turned out to be nothing close to the man I abandoned.
After just three months of living together, he began coming home late, avoiding me, and entertaining other women. He even started reminding me that I had children with another man.
The same person who once made me feel wanted began to make me feel worthless.

I have suffered greatly for the choice I made that evening in that shopping mall. I lost my home, my husband, my children's respect, and my peace of mind, all for a moment that was never worth it.
Dear women, if you are married, please value your marriage.
Do not be deceived by attention, flattery, or momentary pleasure.
The man who can make you a wife is far better than the one who can only make you a girlfriend.
If you have challenges, work on them. If you feel lonely, talk about it.
But never destroy your home because of what looks exciting outside.
It fades quickly.
I don't know if my husband will ever forgive me, but l've made peace with God and with myself. My story is not to seek sympathy, but to warn and guide others who may be standing where I once stood.
Learn from me.
Protect your marriage.
Value your husband.
And above all, guard your heart.
With love and truth,
Sofia

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S*X IS AN ACT OF WORSHIP!

S*x is a holy act design by God to build intimacy between a man and his wife, the more a couple spend intimate time together, the closer they become.

God deliberately created the male organ to be different from the female organ for the purpose of s*x.

God created The human spirit in His own likeness, and the house of God likeness (the human body) can only come into existence through s*x.

When a man and his wife have s*x, they become a co- creator with God. They create bond in God' first institution on earth and also co-create human body.

God can create a human body without s*x anyway, because He did it with the baby Jesus and with Adam and Eve. But he chooses to use s*x to co-create the human body and uses good marriage to raise godly children.

The bible told us that our body is the temple of God, in physical temples we gather to worship God, when you engage in this bodily exercise call S*x, you are in worship.

Each time you have s*x with your married spouse, you are giving glory to the God that make that institution and created your s*xual organ, also you are fulfilling the purpose at which you s*xual organs was created.

S*x is another major secret to get your desires meant, a man and his wife can use s*x as a force of agreement to speed up their answers prayers.. Because every obedience to God's law is an act of worship to Him.

Satan knows s*x is an act of worship, that was why in the city of S***m and Gomorrah he was offered s*x as a worship.

Adultery, fornication and homos*xualism is pure Satan worship. Each time you engage in those act,; you join Satan to mock God, "saying see how I mess with what you intended to be holy".

A lot of people don't know why they remain single for a long time, the bible tells us that "marriage is honorable to all",
you can not be mocking God and worshiping Satan with your body and expect God to bless you with the honour and the blessing that comes along with marriage.

God created s*x to be holy, when Satan make you do it outside of the court of holiness (which is marriage),it become unholiness to God and become worship to Satan that created that institution outside of God's law.

S*x is an act of worship, who you do it with, determines who you give the glory and worship to.

A wise woman give good s*x to her husband like she gives good food to him, because a man is always ready s*xually. A man’s need for s*x is one of the strongest needs imaginable. It is part of his makeup that gives him great fulfillment. A wife needs to recognize this need and consciously satisfy it.

There is no amount of prayers that can win your husbands heart to you without s*xual satisfaction.

Hunger makes the temptation of eating outside much harder to resist, than when you are full, Make your husband full at all time.

To deprive a man for s*x as punishment is foolishness, When there are cheap competitors outside,Be a wise woman.

Make a decision never to worship Satan with your body so God can give you the desires of your heart.

Say No to pre-marital s*x and s*x outside of a man and a woman's marriage.

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Do not partner with the devil through your fears to speak smallness into your life.

Fire purifies. So you need fire to be pure and stay pure.

Poverty doesn’t make you holy, and riches don’t make you evil. Money simply influences the state of the heart that holds it. A poor person with a corrupt heart will still do wrong; a rich person with a godly heart will still do good.

Your financial state is not the true test of your righteousness. The real test is what’s inside you when circumstances change. If your character can withstand both lack and abundance, then you’re truly grounded.

Paul speaking in Philippians 4:11 said, “I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances”.

Build that inner stability, it’s worth more than any fortune.

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“YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE IS DYING BECAUSE YOUR S*X LIFE IS WILD”

Some of you are not under spiritual attack —
You’re just trying to mix holiness with horniness.

Let’s talk like men 👇🏽

1. YOU CAN’T PRAY FOR POWER AND WATCH P**N AT NIGHT

What exactly are you expecting?
Heaven to bless you while hell is clapping for you?

You pray for purity, then scroll Instagram to find temptation.
You beg God for destiny, then chase someone’s daughter to a hotel.
You cry in worship, but moan in fornication by evening.

That’s not warfare — that’s contradiction.
You’re not growing spiritually because you’re feeding your lust more than your soul.

2. S*XUAL SIN IS A SPIRITUAL LEAK

It drains your authority, boldness, and closeness with God.

That’s why after s*xual sin:

You feel distant from God
You don’t want to open your Bible
You avoid real men of God
You justify what you once preached against
You struggle to worship like before

It’s not punishment. It’s separation.
Sin weakens your spiritual voltage.
You can’t sin boldly and still pray boldly — it doesn’t work.

3. YOUR FIRE IS OFF BECAUSE YOUR ZIP IS OPEN

The Holy Spirit does not dwell in a temple that keeps inviting lust every weekend.

You can’t cry “Lord, use me” when you keep using your body to please strangers online.

Every time you watch p**n, you plant seeds of guilt.
Every time you ma******te, you fuel addiction.
Every time you sleep around, you dilute your spiritual oil.

Your anointing is not lost — it’s just buried under s*xual compromise.

4. YOU CAN’T CHASE GOD AND GIRLS AT THE SAME TIME

One will leave.

It’s either:

You die to flesh and grow in Christ
OR
You live in pleasure and die spiritually

Let’s be real:
Most brothers don’t lack calling — they lack consecration.

You want prayer and p**n.
Fasting and flirting.
Spirit and s*x.
👉🏽 That’s a recipe for spiritual paralysis.

5. GOD IS NOT THE PROBLEM — YOUR LACK OF DISCIPLINE IS

You cry, “God why don’t I feel you like before?”
But last week, you were on TikTok drooling over half-naked girls.

You ask, “God, why is my fire low?”
But you haven’t gone 3 days without “releasing” into your palm.

This isn’t spiritual warfare. This is self-destruction.
You’re killing your own intimacy with God — and calling it a “dry season.”

6. SOME OF YOU ARE NOT WEAK — JUST SPIRITUALLY DISCONNECTED

Because your s*x life is out of control.

Result?

You’re losing your authority
Your dreams are filled with lust
You’re no longer bold in the Spirit
You battle guilt, shame, addiction
You no longer hear God clearly

And it all started with that small “just once” moment.

One p**n clip.
One ma********on session.
One sneaky hookup.

Now you’re hooked.
And your fire is gone.

7. FREEDOM IS NOT IN “MANAGING IT” — IT’S IN SURRENDER & DISCIPLINE

You don’t manage lust — you kill it.
You don’t reduce p**n — you delete it.
You don’t play with s*x — you flee.

Practical steps:

Unfollow lust pages
Block sneaky links
Avoid the midnight texter
Cancel “Netflix and chill” traps
Confess struggles to brothers who’ll hold you accountable

It’s not shame — it’s survival.

-⚔️ FINAL WORD
Brother, you’re not dry because God left you.
You’re dry because s*x has become your new savior.

But s*x doesn’t save — it steals.
Lust doesn’t build — it breaks.
P**n doesn’t relieve — it destroys.

👉🏽 Come back to fire.
👉🏽 Come back to purity.
👉🏽 Come back to spiritual sensitivity.

Your calling is too heavy to live with a careless zip.
Your family, your ministry, your purpose — depends on this war.

Win it!

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Many relationships don’t collapse because of one big storm,
they break slowly, as a result of the small silences and ignored conversations. All in a bid to avoid quarrels.

💔 They don’t talk about money, until debt and secrets breed mistrust.
💔 They don’t talk about s*x, until distance and temptation create emptiness.
💔 They don’t talk about in-laws, until boundaries are crossed and bitterness enters.
💔 They don’t talk about purpose, until life feels like two people walking in different directions.

Silence may feel safe, it may feel like peace, but it’s a slow poison. A storm just waiting to hit

Marriage, courtship and every relationship isn’t about avoiding hard conversations, it’s about learning to have them with love, patience, and wisdom.

📌 Talk early.
📌 Talk often.
📌 Talk with respect.
📌 Talk with God at the center.

Because what you refuse to talk about in peace will rear it's head during conflicts.

✨ Singles: build the habit of healthy communication now.
✨ Courting couples: practice honesty, it sets the tone for marriage.
✨ Married couples: never let silence steal intimacy.

Live in honesty lives, let love flourish. ♥️

With Love
©Pastor Abby

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