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Recent research has proven that yelling at kids has the opposite of the desired effect.

If you have noticed, most times that you yell at kids, what you want is not what you get. It mostly worsens their behavior.

Moreover, here's the catch.

Do your best to understand your kids. To manage your emotions,try to have an action plan already before they get on your nerves.

Practical things you can do also include:

⛔Walk away when necessary

⛔Take a deep breath

⛔Teach the lesson later

⛔Give the punishment later also to avoid ambiguous threats.

I hope this helps 😊

How do you want to handle that child when you don't really know anything about her.

Ooh🙄, are you surprised?

It is very possible to give birth to him and yet you don't really know him.

You don't even know the corrective measures that work for your child, that's why you keep beating Junior and still get little or no result.

Infact these days he helps you with the cane. His body has gotten use to your floggings,yet you still dey flog am.

Just dey play😒

She learns with activities around her or by practical examples but no, you don't know that one. Ooh I forgot you don't even have time to teach them,how do you want to know their learning techniques.

By now,you should know that this is a very important issue in your parenting journey.

Have a good evening 🥰

What we are passing through now in Nigeria are all results of parenting.

That is to show you that parenting goes a long way. It's beyond I am now a father and I am now a mother of six.

The way you parent your child now will affect the society negatively or positively in the future.

That is why as parents,you have a lot of work to do. You need knowledge as your children grow. You have to keep learning, unlearning and relearning.

Singles, after preparing for marriage, parenting is just another journey you must prepare for and it's good you start building your foundation now.

The earlier you start building yourselves with the right tools with which to raise an army and a generation void of societal ills and vices,the better.

The Choice is yours.

Wherever you find yourself,do not make the environment toxic and uncomfortable for people around you.

As a mother you are constantly shouting. That can't be good for your children.

Being a boss doesn't mean you should make the environmental uncomfortable for your workers by always nagging and finding faults in what they do.

As a teacher, your children can't express themselves freely. You are that aunty they don't like.

In essence,do not be the reason people are uncomfortable around you.

In another news,If the tension and the anxiety of the election is too much for you,it is actually okay to turn off the television,if possible leave social media,take out time and find some peace and quiet.

Avoid too much talks and arguments. Be mindful of the kind of words you utter.

Remember as Christians,bitterness,hatred and anger should not be found among us.

Relax and be calm while praying for a better Nigeria.

Stay Positive.

Nigeria Will Be Great Again.

If you don't know, children are human beings too and they have emotions.

Why is it that anytime Obi comes to tell you that he is displeased with something, you immediately frown your face like he has no right to be displeased with anything?

Getting angry is not only meant for adults you know🌚

One pertinent thing that is important in parenting is allowing your children express their feelings. You don't shut him up when he's trying to say he is not pleased with something.

Your job is to teach him the best way to express his feelings, especially when angry and not to shut him out.

Moreover,when children are not allowed to express their feelings,they tend to bottle it up and trust me continuously doing that in other not to get into trouble with mummy,daddy or teacher will eventually lead to an emotional problem.

It becomes a habit and it will be very hard to break out of it. Even when they become adults,it tends to affect built relationships.

So the next time,you want to shut Jude up for trying to pour out his feelings, remember you are causing more harm than good.

I hope this helps🥰

We are most likely to focus on the person than the problem.

Instead of seeing that he's a good girl that just did something stupid,you see and label her the stupid one.

So, when your child starts acting like what you labelled him or her to be,you will still complaining.

Immediately you start focusing on the problem and not your child. You have saved yourself a lot of emotional stress.

Next time, when your baby girl does a naughty thing,just know she's a good girl doing a naughty thing

This applicable to not only parents but to everyone who has children under their care.

I hope this helps 😊

One of the things most parents do is to say what they cannot do. Make threats they cannot carry out.

For some,it has become a regular thing. I mean Chidinma already knows that when mummy says that screen time will be reduced if the dishes are not done, she's just making an empty threat.

I am sure you know what is going. She don't take you seriously anymore. Your words are taken for granted.

This is why,you should think before making any statement,giving punishments and making threats.

Whatever you say,make sure you follow it up.
in other words,If you can't follow it up, don't say it.

I hope this helps 🥰

It's not easy being a parent. We must not be perfect but trust me we can get better and good at it. I see you and I appreciate you for all you do to be a good and proper parent.

I'm rooting for you♥️

Just because you didn't get the chance to become a medical doctor,you want to impose it on your innocent child, maka why?

You want to be called mama doctor.

You mean,you want to trade your child's destiny and happiness for "nne lawyer"😒

Check this thing naa mummy Junior.

Please,do not impose your visions and dreams on your child and then destroy his or her own dreams and aspirations.

That's so unfair 😭😭😭

Anyways your child said I should talk to you and those planning to perpetuate such wicked act,🙄your unborn child sent me to you too.

Yes naa, I am their advocate,what do you expect?😏

Thanks for stopping by😊

Enjoy your Friday 😍🤭

This is a sincere plea.

Leave your children out of your fights,quarrels and misunderstandings.

Trust me,they don't need it. They won't be able to handle the sight of it.

With all due respect sir and ma do not stress those innocent children cause of your insensitivity.

I come in peace🥰

Lighten up mummy,relax. Sometimes have fun and play with your children. You don't have to frown your face everytime daddy.

Even When correcting Junior and Princess, it's very possible and okay to smile and crack jokes. At this point you have reduced tension and made your correction more effective,cause they are more relaxed with you.

No one made a rule,that you must squeeze and frown your face to correct a child,so the child can take you seriously or not take you for granted.

Even if it is a rule,you can break it ooh.

However,I'm not saying at some point you don't need to frown your face but let it not be your everyday method.Find a balance. Add a little bit of spice😊

I hope this helps.

Good morning and have a beautiful day🥰

I come on behalf of the children and especially the last borns in the house.

In your giving of gifts and celebration, please parents and elder siblings remember us☺️. We need to be showed some love too. Don't you think?😌 At least for all the errands that we don't have the strength to go for but we still somehow manage to go.

I'm not on my own on this matter,I am just the spokes person.🤩

Anyways, let's not forget that God is love and he has showed us the highest kind of love.
I am sure you know what he did🌚🥰.

If you don't, check John 3:16.

Enjoy the rest of your day🥰

Do you know that it is beautiful to be decent and modest?

When we say parenting start with you,it does start with you. You can't be indecent in your dressing and expect less from your daughters.

Mother's teach your daughters to be decent and modest in their dressing. Let them know that you can be decent and still look flawless, amazing, breathtaking and beautiful.

It is also best they know these things from an infant stage. When buying clothes for them,get beautiful and decent clothes. Start now that they are still growing up to inculcate good dressing habit into them.

Moreover, while you at it, practice what you preach, because some of the problems we have with indecent dressing started from mother's.

Future mother's remember that the upcoming generation needs someone to look up to. Do not be a bad example.

Finally,whoever told you that exposing some part of your body makes you look ravishing lied to you. Yes,I said so.

Again,you can be DECENT AND BEAUTIFUL🥰