Candela - Thirties Coach

I’m not just doing this for me.
I’m doing it for them.

For the girl I used to be.

The one who never fully felt seen or loved.
The one who thought she had to be perfect to be chosen.
The one who silenced her needs to keep the peace.

The one who was terrified, heartbroken, uncertain… and still chose to believe in herself anyway.

She’s still inside of me, watching every choice I make.

And then there’s her—the future version of me.

The woman who is deeply in love with life.
The one who looks back at this version of me with so much gratitude because I kept going.
Because I took the risks.
Because I chose myself even when there were no guarantees.

She knows how beautiful our life became.

How full it became—of love, adventure, abundance, opportunities, joy, freedom, and so many different versions of ourselves.

And every time I choose myself, trust my path, keep showing up, try again, fail again, start over, take the leap… I’m doing it for both of them.

I used to think healing was about fixing what was broken.
Now I know it’s about becoming the woman I needed… and the one I dream of.

And maybe the most beautiful part is that I’m no longer waiting to become her. I’m already meeting her in every choice I make. 🦋

Sending you so much love,
Cande.

For the longest time, I thought alignment meant being consistent.

Doing what you say you’ll do.
Having discipline.
Sticking to a plan.

But the more I’ve grown, the more I’ve realized…

Alignment is so much deeper than that.

It’s not just about coherence between your thoughts, your words, and your actions.

It’s about direction.

It’s about asking yourself:

“Is the life I’m building actually aligned with what I value?”

Because the truth is—
most of us want the same things on paper.

Love.
Health.
Success.
Peace.

But what actually makes your life feel aligned…
is what you choose to prioritize.

For years, I prioritized growth above everything else.
Becoming better. Doing more. Expanding.

And lately?
I’ve felt a shift.

Connection started to matter more.
Sharing life started to matter more.

And that forced me to ask myself:

What does alignment look like for me now?

Not 2 years ago.
Not based on what I “should” want.

But in this current season.

Because alignment is not static.
It evolves as you evolve.

And if you don’t allow your priorities to shift…
you’ll end up building a life that looks good
but doesn’t feel right.

So if you’re feeling a little off lately this might be why.

You’re not lost.
You’re just being asked to realign.

🦋

If this resonates, comment “ALIGN” and I’ll share something that will support you in this phase.

I used to think loneliness meant something was missing.

Like I was in the wrong place,
with the wrong people,
living the wrong life.

But lately I’ve been experiencing something different…

You can be building a life that once felt impossible—
traveling the world, meeting incredible people, growing into your dream self—

…and still have moments where you feel completely alone.

And that doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong.

It just means you’re in between versions of love.

Between the people who have always known you…
and the ones you haven’t met yet.

Between the life that felt like home…
and the one you’re still creating.

I felt it so deeply when I arrived in Bali.

After months of being surrounded by so much love—
family, friends, people who get me—

I suddenly felt this emptiness.

And instead of running from it, I let myself feel it.

But I didn’t stay there.

I set an intention.
I put myself out there.
I opened myself up to new connections.

And slowly… love started finding me again.

In new faces.
In small moments.
In unexpected places.

That’s when it really clicked:

You haven’t met all the people you’re going to love yet.

So if you’re feeling lonely right now—
this isn’t the end of your story.

It’s just a transition.

Your people are not missing.

They’re just not here yet.

🫶🏼

If this resonated with you, comment “LOVE” and I’ll share something special with you.

Something shifted for me when I realized this.

I’m the type of person who gets excited over everything.
Animals, sunsets, random little moments most people overlook.

And for a long time, I didn’t think that meant anything.

Now I see it differently.

The way you experience your life isn’t small.
It’s everything.

It shapes how you feel, how you connect,
how much love you actually let yourself experience.

Most people are waiting for love to come from the outside…
but they’re completely disconnected from their own life.

And that’s why it feels like something is missing.

This is the work.
Learning how to experience your life differently. 🫶🏼

March looked like this 🫶🏼

A dream I’ve had for so long… finally real.
Africa, safaris, seeing animals I’ve loved my whole life right in front of me.

So much beauty everywhere I looked.
Sunrises, beaches, moments that made me stop and just take it in.

Cape Town… easily one of the most amazing cities I’ve experienced lately.
Wine, good company, penguins, life feeling full in the simplest way.

Then Argentina.
One of my best friend’s weddings.
Being surrounded by my people again, so much love, so much emotion… the kind that stays with you.

And the truth is…
none of this happened because I “figured my life out.”

This is what the ‘in-between’ can also look like.

The part where things don’t fully make sense yet.
Where you’re not where you used to be… but not fully where you’re going either.

And I used to think this part meant “pause.”
Wait. Hold back. Figure it out first.

But this month showed me something different.

The in-between is not a place you need to wait in.
It’s a place you live in.

It’s where life is still happening.
Where love is still available.
Where beauty doesn’t ask for certainty.

So I stopped holding myself back from it.

I let myself fall in love with my life as it is.
I let myself open my heart again.
I let myself experience everything that’s here… even without having all the answers.

This is what choosing yourself looks like too.

Not when everything is clear.
But right here.

In the in-between. 💜

For the longest time, I LOVED the idea that
“what’s meant for me won’t miss me.”

It made me feel safe.
Like I could just trust… wait… and everything would magically fall into place.

But if I’m being honest?

Some of the best things in my life only happened
because I stopped waiting… and started showing up.

I met the guy I’m dating because I said yes to an event
I could’ve easily skipped.

I’ve met the most aligned, inspiring people
because I put myself in rooms where I didn’t know anyone.

I created opportunities in my life
because I made bold, uncomfortable moves—
moving countries, starting over, putting myself out there.

None of that came from sitting at home
hoping “what’s meant for me” would find me.

And this is the part we don’t talk about enough:

You can believe in alignment
AND still take responsibility for your life.

You can trust divine timing
AND still take bold action.

Because the truth is
a lot of what’s meant for you
is waiting on the other side of your courage.

Not your comfort.

So if you’ve been telling yourself
“it will happen when it’s meant to…”

Ask yourself:
am I actually creating opportunities for it to happen?

Or am I hiding behind that belief?

If this hit… it’s probably your sign.

And if you’re ready to stop waiting and actually become the woman who goes after what she wants,

that’s exactly what we do inside my program.

DM me “READY” and I’ll send you all the info. 🦋

There’s a version of me who went to London that weekend.

And for a long time, I didn’t think much of it.

It was just a decision.
A “not now.”
A “maybe next time.”

But the more I’ve grown, the more I’ve realized…

it was never about the Laver Cup.
Or even about seeing Roger Federer play.

It was about hesitation.
About overthinking.
About choosing what made sense over what I actually wanted.

And I see this pattern all the time now—not just in my past self, but in the women I work with.

We don’t always miss opportunities because we can’t.

We miss them because we don’t trust ourselves enough to say yes.

These days, I live by a different question:

what would I regret more?

And the answer is almost always the same

I’d rather regret going or trying
than regret not doing it.

That single shift has changed how I move, how I decide, how I show up in my life.

Less overthinking.
More self-trust.
Way fewer “what ifs.”

And if you’re being honest…
you already know the thing you’re currently talking yourself out of.

If you’re ready to start choosing differently,
my DMs are always open. 🫶🏼

Nothing about this trip made sense on paper.

24+ hours of travel.
A lot of money.
One week back home.

And still… there was never a doubt.

Because I’ve learned this the hard way:

The moments that matter most in your life will ask something from you.
Your time. Your energy. Your comfort. Your money.

And a few years ago, I almost said no to one of those moments.

I almost skipped a wedding because it was ‘too much.’
Too far. Too expensive. Too inconvenient.

But I said yes.

And that decision gave me my last birthday with my mom.

So no… I don’t believe it’s “okay, don’t worry, next time.”

Some things don’t come back.
Some moments don’t repeat.

And the life you love?
It’s built in the times you choose to show up anyway.

Even when it’s inconvenient.

With love,

Cande.