08/11/2023
文/ Dr Blue
我看过很多妈咪为了哺乳到处奔波,到处购买不同的挤奶器,到处寻找泌乳专家教哺乳,花了很多钱,但最终哺乳1,2个月就喊停,然后说自己没有奶。
方法错了。
其实,哺乳是一项最自然不过的事。生了孩子,就自然喂孩子吸奶。孩子饿了,就喂。奶水太多,就挤一点出来。喂孩子喂多了,奶水就自然越来越多。
千万年来,哺乳就是这么自然的一回事。
很多妈咪不愿意哺乳,说不会,那是因为挤奶器选择太多太多。反正用挤奶器就好了,亲喂多麻烦,孩子也不要吸。
这个挤奶器不好用,再买。那个挤奶器颜值高,再买。朋友买了个A品牌,我也买。脸书群组很多妈咪用B牌子,我再买。
反正买来试看奶水会增加吗,结果没有增加奶量,千错万错都是挤奶器的错,妈咪自己没有错。再买,再买,再买。买到几十个,就去脸书群组炫耀自己是挤奶器达人,其实妈咪自己根本不明白哺乳是什么,挤奶器是什么概念。买到没钱了,没关系,买二手的,或者卖掉那些没用的挤奶器。
结果,妈咪放错焦点,焦点本来在哺乳,哺乳多了,奶水就会多。可是焦点变成到处买挤奶器,到处找泌乳师,本来该做的基本本份不做,反倒希望别人或工具(挤奶器)来帮你做。
有的妈咪到处买挤奶器到处道听途说,可能因为焦虑。一直担心没有奶,所以到处求神拜佛看看谁可以打救她。结果因为焦虑,搞错了焦点,最后在慌乱中寻觅的忙碌,导致没有专心哺乳,真的变成没有奶。
现在是后资本主义的时代啊,人工智能时代啊,所以什么都要快,要好。什么产品都有。什么仙家都有。妈咪要有辨识的能力,到处花钱是为了什么,自己要很清楚。
如果需要挤奶器,就买一台好的,事半功倍。如果不需要挤奶器,根本不需要买,亲喂就好了。
还有,很多妈咪很热血,也很多仙家很勤劳,然而经验是很个人的,每个人不一样,所以经验分享不能当作秘笈。
把基本做好,一步一步慢慢越做越好。
哺乳,没有捷径。育儿,也没有捷径。
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Written By, Dr Blue
I have seen many moms running around, buying various breast pumps, searching for lactation experts, spending a lot of money, but stop breastfeeding after 1 or 2 months and then claim that they have no milk.
The approach is wrong.
In fact, breastfeeding is one of the most natural things in the world. When you have a baby, you naturally feed the baby with breast milk. When the baby is hungry, you feed them. If you have too much milk, you can express some. The more you feed the baby, the more milk you naturally produce.
For thousands of years, breastfeeding has been this natural process.
Many moms are unwilling to breastfeed because they think it's difficult, but that's because there are too many options when it comes to breast pumps. They think it's easier to just use a breast pump, and the baby doesn't have to suckle.
"This breast pump isn't working well, let's buy another one. That one has a better design, let's buy it. My friend bought a brand A breast pump, so I'll get one too. In Facebook groups, many moms are using brand B, so I'll buy that one as well."
The mindset is that if I keep buying breast pumps, will my milk supply increase? When the milk supply doesn't increase, it's the fault of the breast pump, not the mom. So, they keep buying more and more breast pumps. When they have dozens of them, they go to Facebook groups to show off that they are breast pump experts, even though they don't understand the basics of breastfeeding or what a breast pump is conceptually. When they run out of money, it's okay, they buy second-hand ones or sell the ones they don't need.
As a result, moms focus on the wrong things. The focus should be on breastfeeding – the more you breastfeed, the more milk you produce. However, the focus shifts to buying breast pumps everywhere, seeking lactation consultants everywhere, and the basic responsibility of breastfeeding is neglected. They hope that others or tools (the breast pump) will do the work for them.
Some moms buy breast pumps everywhere and listen to hearsay, perhaps due to anxiety. They are constantly worried about not having enough milk, so they seek help from anyone who might be able to save them. As a result, because of their anxiety, they lose focus and end up in a state of panic, leading to a lack of concentration on breastfeeding and actually causing a decrease in milk supply.
We are now in the post-capitalist era, the era of artificial intelligence, so everything has to be quick and good. There are products for everything, and there are experts for everything. Moms need to have the ability to discern why they are spending money and be very clear about it.
If you need a breast pump, just buy a good one, and it will make things much easier. If you don't need a breast pump, there's no need to buy one – direct breastfeeding works just fine.
Also, many moms are passionate, and many experts work diligently. However, experience is very personal, and everyone is different, so sharing experiences cannot be taken as a secret recipe.
Get the basics right, and gradually improve step by step.
Breastfeeding has no shortcuts.
Parenting has no shortcuts.