Florina Maria IGBF

Mexico was a whole vibe 🇲🇽🌴🌊🏖

Call me Alice, because I’m definitely in wonderland.

Take a walk with me in beautiful Gdansk.

I really enjoye watching Liz's videos. She's inspiring, straight to the point and honest!
The big sister we all needed

Heartbreak and failure is your superpower

Getting sick 🤒 when you're employed
vs
Getting sick as an entrepreneur

👊it Hits DIFFERENT

I'm in between extremes:

✅ IT'S FINEEE if I don't post, organize, schedule, contact, create content

❌ or You're the worst, you didn't prepare for this, you forgot about that, everyone already forgot you exist

I’m try to interrupt these thoughts with self-compassion, hold soace for them and even dig deeper.

But it’s mooore trying 🪫. Guilt does not benefit healing ❤️‍🩹

I wish I had some solutions to share, but this time I want to ask you for some.

How do you deal with getting sick if you have your own buisiness?

I’ve been sick for a week and I hate it.
But here’s what I’ve learned:

✅ if the symptoms last more than a day, I start seeking mom-like support & care 👩‍👧

✅ I crave comfort foods that are nutrient rich: veggie soup🍲, chilli sin carne

✅ It’s the only time I feel loved if my parents start giving me advice: stay in bed, do a steam bath, wear warm clothes🧤🧣

✅ suddenly, priorities change: 🛌 > 🧳

✅ I prefer being sick in Tuscany to being sick anywhere else, especially in winter time

✅ a walk always makes me feel better ❤️‍🩹

Also, since I’ve started posting on linkedin and FB more often, I noticed that I question life transitions in a different way.

There’s always a question of “hmm, what did I learn from this?”

It makes me more aweare of life stages, my own needs and lessons.
Did this happen to you too?😅

When we pick someone to pour our soul to, or tell a problem… or vent.. It’s a gift 🎁

Them giving us a solution... is like rejecting our gift because they have a “better one”

That's a bad way to receive a gift.

When a colleague is struggling and you are not sure what they need...

Ask this:

- Do you want empathy or a strategy right now?

Kate Kenfield came up with this and I'm never going back to assuming

I remember how it felt when I was the person who needing empathy, and instead got solutions:

➡️ It felt yucky, and I pretended I'm good so they stopped

When we ask, we throw the ball back in their court ⚽️

✓ They check within
✓ They see you care
✓ They open up

When we ask instead of assume, we give people the opportunity be vulnerable, instead of isolate

This might also surprise you by turning into an impromptu brain storming for ideas and solutions ✨🙌

Last year around this time I was lost, confused and in pain.

Now, I know what having purpose feels like.
I know what self worth feels like.

So I introduce you to 2022 me.

This is someone who grew in one year more than she did in 5.

This is someone who cares deeply about people, that's why she puts herself first.

This is someone who learned from the mistakes she made. The mistakes were required.

This is someone who is sensitive, empathetic and strong.

This is someone who no longer abandons herself to please others.

This is me ♥️
Happy and ready for new opportunities, me!

If I could send a message to myself from last year, I'd say:

- I know it feels impossible when you're in the trenches, but you do get on the other side, and it's peaceful, and it's warm and filled with love.

What's something you'd like to tell your past self?

When someone tells you to "take a walk"

Listen.

Sharing my evening walk with you, come with next time ♥️

No time to do what you want to do?

You might suspect it's poor time management. In fact...

It's permissive boundaries around time.

In her book " Set boundaries, find peace", Nedra Glover defines time boundaries as:

✅how you manage your time
✅how you allow others to use your time
✅how you deal with favor requests
✅how you structure your free time

Even if it's 15 minutes a day, allocating "me time" changes your mood, your outlook on life and your patience level.

How do you make sure you get “me time” on a daily basis?

Signs you've agreed to do something you don't want to do:

▪️you instantly regret it
▪️your hands get cold
▪️your cheeks get hot
▪️you're coming up with good excuses
▪️you’re mad at you for saying yes
▪️you said yes automatically, with little thought, and now you’re going ahead because you don’t think you can back out
▪️you’re almost praying for a catastrophe to come along so that you’re spared from having to do the thing 🤦‍♀️

One thing I do differently now, is wait before I give an answer. I say:

- Thank you so much for the invite, I’ll get back to you with an answer.

How can you tell when you’ve agreed to something you don’t want to do?