04/06/2024
This is a testimonial I received after two sessions on Emotional Well-being with a client. This is one among the classes I offer in the Fixing the Queen's Crown program.
I am so grateful for the opportunity to impact lives and excited for her growth!
"I have struggled with anger issues, trust issues and low self-esteem that have affected how I relate and work with people. I have had very little patience and tolerance with those who don’t meet my expectations to the point I have no one I’m mentoring to carry on the work I’m doing now. I have very few friends and many of the people who would be my friends have offence issues with me.
Coach Maureen Bett was introduced to me at a timely season when I was going through a very trying season that was going to bring a lot of offence in my life. One thing she made me understand was that emotions are neither negative nor positive but are supposed to help me create boundaries. Wow!
She taught me how to check my thoughts because what I think affects how I feel, and how I feel affects how I behave.
My thoughts have been my driving force, sub-total of my behaviour and decisions.
In this short time I can clearly state that I have been helped. My testing came when I was vetted for a promotion, and the things that were said about me would have made me explode with anger and burst out crying. I would have had difficulty sleeping thinking over and over what so and so said. But none of this happened.
I was preparing for a mission when all this was happening; I went and had a very successful mission and I’m already preparing a report to give this Sunday.
I’m trying to reach out to the people I offended and who offended me and so far I have succeeded with two. But I’m getting there.
I thank God for Coach Maureen Bett for her timely help and I want to recommend her so highly to anyone seeking emotional wellbeing coping skills. Her kind heart, patience, and non- judgmental attitude really appealed to me."
29/02/2024
This is the last day of February 2024 and a 29th to top it all off! We have an extra day this year 😊 What are you thankful for?
20/05/2022
THREE MYTHS ABOUT FORGIVENESS AND THE TRUTH
When it comes to forgiveness, let me share some common myths that affect most people:
1. Forgiveness means forgetting: Or forgive and forget. People like to throw that in especially when someone is still going through the pain of the hurt. It is cliché and doesn't help many times.
The pain is there for a reason and telling someone to simply forget is like trying to pretend a wound doesn't exist even when it needs attention.
When you truly forgive, you will forget the pain. You will still remember what the person did. When you share about that experience later, it will be from a pain free perspective.
2. Forgiveness is a day's event: Don't we all wish it was?
Forgiveness just as healing takes time. You can't wish away the pain, the betrayal, the breach of trust, the backstabbing or whatever it was that was done to hurt you.
Especially because those who hurt you aren't strangers. They are close people. Those you expected more from. Those you gave yourself to wholeheartedly.
This means they can still potentially hurt you if it is an ongoing relationship.
It will be a process, you just have to keep going back to your choice to forgive every time. You may need to set some boundaries, but that's a whole other discussion.
3. Forgiveness begins with an apology: Wait for it then forgive, right? Wrong. The truth is that you can forgive and move on from the hurt without an apology coming first.
Ask yourself, what if the apology you seek isn't forthcoming? How long are you willing to carry the pain with you?
Some people are clueless about what they did to hurt you. Others don't care. Whichever the case, you are the one who needs healing and choosing to forgive will give you that & more!
I wrote all about forgiveness in my books Awakening Joy and The Freedom of Right Relationships. I also contributed to the Social Intelligence (Relationships) Chapter in the Secret Brilliance book. You can order your books today.
16/05/2022
KNOWING YOURSELF
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken," said Oscar Wilde. If we are not trying to be someone else, we are busy living other people's lives unknowingly.
I was the sorry girl before, picking blame for other people's mistakes even when it wasn't in my job description. I didn't have a NO bone in me, I was the YES girl - I'm not sure if you've met those ones yet! Well, I needed a self awareness class to call me back to reality.
You and I have the unique opportunity to know ourselves and be our own greatest students. Don't allow anyone to out-know you! You can be your best student.
Here are some pointers to consider in your quest to become more self aware:
📌 Are you finding yourself or discovering yourself?
I've come to the conclusion that the work of self awareness is not so much a searching process as it is a discovery one. And it does take a lifetime. If you've started, good for you, belt up for a long enjoyable ride ahead!
The truth about you is within you. And it is not lost. It is just somewhere waiting to be uncovered, DISCOVERED and recovered.
📌 Where is your true identity?
Your true identity isn't a myth, it isn't a mystery. You can unlock it and live it to the maximum.
It is hidden in God and what He made you to be. He has the manual for your life and the operator's instruction. You were designed uniquely for a purpose that is clearly defined.
📌 Which tools can you use to be more self aware?
I will share two that I find quite helpful and simple to use. The SWOT analysis and the Johari Window.
📌 How does understanding your personality help in self awareness?
Your personality is part of the packaging that God designed you with.
You may be the outgoing kind, the aggressive one, the one who loves to be alone and quiet, the detailed one or the one who prefers a backseat.
Understanding the way you are wired is a real gamechanger. It gives you the keys to live authentically and with clarity about yourself!
I wrote a Chapter on knowing yourself in my book Awakening Joy and it is one of the sessions I offer in my program Fixing the Queen's Crown. You don't have to fumble. You can be your best student and live unapologetically!
20/05/2022
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