Demystifying sex education

ARE YOU GOOD IN BED FOR YOUR PARTNER?
Here are some non verbal cues that tells you whether your partner is enjoying your bedroom prowess.

I am going to write this from a woman's perspective cos i don't have a sausage 😌🙈😋, but i have often asked feedback from my partner so i will include his input as well.

1. THE ART OF SEDUCTION.
If your idea of fore play is just two seconds of kissing, a second of b**b sucking and half a second fi*****ng, you're poor in bed.
Seggz when it comes to women is largely starts at mind.
So yes a touch here and there is alright but if her mind isn't turned on, you will have the most loud but faked seggz ever.
The art of seduction is the idea of making your partner want you before you even lay a hand on them. It's why women wear lingerie for men. So how can a man seduce a woman ?
Try by learning what turn her on, is it conversations? Is it catering to her? Now throughout the day seduce her, if she likes food, feed her, get her a gift, get her ready for her bath. Do this small things that the only thing ringing in her mind is how her man handles thing, i can assure you by the time you're getting in bed, it will be a rodeo and you won't even have to ask.
You can't go to bed with unmet expectations and still expect bomb sessions .

2.FOREPLAY.
Learn how to kiss, i cant believe at 30+ you're still a lousy kisser. Its not just opening your mouth 😔. Learn how to play with your lips and your teeth and your tongue.
First of a dry kiss is terrible. Moisturise your lips. Brush your teeth and your tongue!
Now try this,
✅ learn how to tease. As a rule of thumb, the guy take the upper lip while the woman latches on the lower lip,
✅ angle faces away from each other you want to make sure noses are not colliding and you can breath if the kiss is long.
✅ Start at the corners moving towards the centre, once the noses meet you can disengage slightly breath in then now start again at the centre moving towards the corner.
✅ In between you each are alternating sucking or flicking the lipd that you are having. Finding a rhythm is the key point here. You suck, i suck. Like a see saw. Itd give and take. Make it slow, you're not rushing anywhere, savour the moment.
✅You can decide to close your eyes or not.
✅Now learn different types of kissing. Different kisses expresses different emotions. In bedroom as a man you need the one that says am about to ravish you. The kind that is dominating.

Touching.
Yani there's someone who still doesn't know how to fo**le. Learn if your partner likes lights or hard touches. Learn their sensitive spots and concentrate there.

Now here is where the non verbal cues comes in.

When one is aroused, their pupils dilates, the breathing changes and the mouth is more relaxed basically the whole body goes lax. That's why in really intense session sometimes you don't even know how you were able to switch positions. Its that relaxed state that makes the body nimble and flexible. So if your partner isn't flexible, they're likely not very aroused.

For a man, their body is more taut, his breathing elevated as he tries to compensate for more oxygen in preparation to the intense work out he about to under take. You can clearly see the veins and pupils dilated. There is the precum and of course the er****on.

Now here's the tricky part, if they don't hold eye contact, i will say less. If they likes it in the dark, well.
If they only prefer a seggz position that makes them climax faster 🤪. He's not into you. And you're definitely not good in bed for them.

As a man how a woman moans can tell if they are into it or not. If its not rhythmic to your thrust ✌️she is faking it.

There are positions that are more painful than enjoyable, where are her hands, is she pushing you closer or away?
If its away, then adjust where your dingly is hitting chances are she is not very comfortable.

Dry pussé is a good indicator to take a break. Every woman while well aroused turns into a river. So if that dries up, well. Either start fore play again or introduce lubricant especially if the seggz is more than 30min, saliva is not a lubricant!

Look out for part 2

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How easy we all wanna skip all the work and go straight to this mood, who lied to you? S*x like every other activity is only rewarding if efforts were invested in it to begin with.
Tend to each other emotionally, psychologically, socially and financially before you can start on the physicality of it.
The harder the work, the more rewarding the pay

When is the appropriate time to breach this conversation?
How do you go about it?
What do you wish to communicate to the kids in question?

We value you....more than that we love and acknowledge all the work you put in to making sure we feel safe, provided for and taken care of... You are heroes in every sense of the way. Even on the bad days hold yah head high dzaddies you strong. I believe in you💼⌚🏡

Women,
You've been talking for sometime now, the chemistry is out of this world. He is easy on the eye and after the "90" day rule(or one who really counts?🤔)and countless coffees y'all you feel its time for dessert and you're on the menu.
Baths and body work you prepare the body like a burnt sacrifice, marinating the cat with steam yoghurt and God knows how many pineapples you eat that week prior to THE WEEKEND. The cat is now sparkling clean and ready to be stroked, you can hear it mewling in anticipation.
There is one problem though, you are on the choir and it has been drummed in you whatever you're planning with your cat is a sin. You know about contraceptives, you walk into a chemist but instead of ordering condoms which you really want you order asprins, six chemists later you have enough drugs to start a chemist of your own but no closer to buying what you really need.
You decide eff it let me pick some in supermarket where no one knows me, you pick a cart and fill it with things you dont need then hide the packet in between packet of chips. Braving the walk to the counter, before its your turn, the devil whispers God is seeing you and you carefully put everything on the counter except that packet.
Just like that you leave your life to fates, you look and test each other with eyes before passing the clean bill of health on each other, and the cat is eaten RAW.
The next month you're on your knees swearing you will never repeat that again, bargaining with God if only He mercifully remembers and forgives u, you wont mind washing even the whole mattress if only He lets you wake up with the city painted red. How you will never miss choir practice again. Meh
The anxiety, the worry, the anger,then the anxiety again.
All this mental trouble for avoiding 5MIN of uncomfortable conversation to buy Protection.
You're willing to trade 5min for the rest of your life.
Who are you fooling?

S*x and hygiene
Have you tried to go down on someone and you instantly regretted that offer due to the smell that hit you?
How do you tell your partner that they have an odour down there?
S*x and hygiene go hand in hand from baths and body works that get you smelling like edible snacks to yoni pearls and V-wash(i cant swear by them though)
Women learn to monitor your cycle and discharge familiarize yourself with symptoms of the likes of candida, Bacterial vaginosis, yeast and any type of UTI as some of these have no discomfort but the odour(even the fish smells better compared)
Before you accuse him of not going down on you make sure you're healthy and clean down there
Men,
You need to love water more, you dont expect your woman to deep throat you yet you are smelling like a urinal, the least you can do is ensure you grab a quick shower before.
As for how you tell your partner about body odour, be kind and courteous. Offer to take your woman for check up, women show your man how to shower/wipe. Most importantly be considerate to one another. Good s*x comes down to how you're left feeling after the deed is done rather than how high you go during the deed.
So go ahead invest in good soap, body splashes and mists
No one wants to be f*****n with no fish😉

Lets learn,shall we😊?
Meanwhile do click the like button,find your book and a pen.(goes without saying practical partner)
Lets demystify This taboo whisper spoken word.
Relationships and marriages are breaking over it.
Time we(technically I😊)talked about it .

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Disclaimer: this is not an erotic Page😊(working on one though) this is purely educational and for therapeutical cm counselling only and vulgar language in comments shall not be entertained.