The Rebooted Man

What are your weekend plans guys?

I remember the time when I was wishing my weeks away to get to the long bank holiday weekends and have a breather.

Usually full of ideas and expectations, only to spend most of it hung over and lying in till mid-day doing sweet FA.

Getting outside - unappealing
Exercising - no chance
Time to reflect - avoid that at all costs

Don’t waste this weekend

I know you work hard all week, but work harder on yourself this weekend.

Make time for yourself other than watching the footie on the sofa.

Get outside and appreciate nature.

Move your body.

Enjoy yourself, but don’t destroy yourself.

Have a good one guys

My daily standards

🎯 Hydrate first thing
🎯 Quiet time with a coffee
🎯 Move my body
🎯 No phone in the bedroom
🎯 Time spent outside in nature
🎯 No caffeine after 2pm
🎯 Create something
🎯 7 hours sleep
🎯 No alcohol

These are the non-negotiables I’ve created for myself because I know I’ll feel and show up better, creating a sense of achievement each day.

Something the old me never had.

Do you have a set of standards you’re holding yourself to?

Are you waking up with intention or dread?

Mornings were never my thing.
Especially Mondays

Snoozing my alarm 5 times whilst the dread was hitting me like a ton of bricks.

Further fuelled by

Listening to the news
Checking work emails
Scrolling socials

Waking up was painful.

Another day of chaos, with no purpose or any sense of achievement to fight it.

But things look different now.

I had to create a reason to wake up.
I had to gain some control.

Getting up a little earlier over time, making small changes to reboot my mornings.

The actions sometimes change, but never the intentions.

Hydrate
Reflect
Prepare
Move

Mornings have become the calm, rather than the storm.

It’s not about the perfect Instagram routine.

It’s about being in control and creating that sense of achievement early in my day.

Are mornings painful for you? What one change can you make this week?

Have a strong week guys.

Attention Jersey Men

Come join us for an epic morning out on the kayaks, enjoying Jersey’s coastline.

This meet-up is perfect for those who love the water and want to meet new, like-minded guys.

All skill levels are welcome, whether you’re a beginner or a seasoned pro.

Kayak Nomad will provide the gear and be our guide.
So just bring yourself some sunscreen and a sense of adventure!

We will likely meet up earlier for breakfast and grab coffee afterwards.

Take some time for yourself, get it in the dairy and make it happen.

Details are

Saturday, 17th August 2024, 10am - 12pm
Location TBC (Depending on weather/conditions)
£45 Per Person

9 places available.

DM me to book a spot or for more information or questions.

What are your favourite /goto Alcohol-free drinks?

Here are my thoughts on a few widely available options.

Have a good weekend guys

And as always, enjoy yourself, but don’t destroy yourself.

Cheers

I joined a run club last night.

And I picked hill sprints as my first session 😅

It’s good to mix things up.

I love being around like-minded people, but at times, I still find myself not making an effort or letting fear/anxiety stop me.

I thought I’d be rubbish
I thought I’d be sick
I thought my knee would give in.
I thought I wouldn’t be welcomed

All utter BS stories my brain was telling me to stay safe and comfortable.

Is there a run/bike/golf/paddle/abc club or group you’ve been thinking about joining to meet more people?

Make it happen today guys.

Have a strong finish to the week.

You’re sitting there beating yourself up about everything you “should” be doing.

I should be exercising more.
I should be getting more sleep
I should speak to her about xyz
I should tell my boss no
I should start that business
I should find more time for abc
I should really sort my s**t out

We all have a long list of things we think we should do

But in reality, there are only a few things you MUST do right now.

It’s my job to help you do this

To gain clarity
To get you out of your own way
To prioritise what actually matters

For your health
For your relationships
For your peace of mind

I’ve been where you are

Beating myself up daily and doing nothing about it

It’s hard
It’s frustrating
You feel like you’re a failure

Out of desperation, I finally seeked guidance and support.

Now it’s my turn to do the same for you.

DM me “REBOOT” right now

No more s**ty shoulds that aren’t happening

It’s time for massive imperfect action on what must happen.

My IT career sucked the life out of me

Most of the time, it’s a thankless job, with the only news usually being bad when something isn’t working.

I was trying to control everything and everyone so that things would stay on track and not fall apart.

Keep boss happy
Keep clients/staff happy
Keep projects on track

This took its toll on me because I put so much of my self-worth into who I was at work.

And when things went wrong, I took it personally, and that it reflected badly on me.

I neglected so many other areas of my life, which just fuelled the vicious circle until I hit burnout and my mental health rested on a knife edge.

I had to quit my job twice to realise the changes I needed to make.

A drastic step that many of you can’t afford to take.

But I wish I knew what I do now that with some small, focused changes and support, things can be different.

Focusing on what I can actually control.

Getting clear on what was actually important and why.

I thought that I knew this (in my head), but it was only once I started saying it out loud that things became clear, highlighting the obstacles that were holding me back

Then, with clarity and accountability, I could finally start taking action to make sustainable changes rather than just quick fixes.

If your career is sucking you dry, and you don’t know how to change it, then

DM me “REBOOT” right now.

It’s time for action, and I’m here to help you take it.

Great to be invited to the CSC wellbeing event in Jersey on Friday.

Challenging mindsets around

▪️Not having enough time
▪️Managing work/life balance
▪️Looking after yourself so you can show up for others

It’s great to see CSC raising awareness of services and local businesses available for their staff to support their wellbeing.

Are you looking to host a similar event?

I’d love to come in and talk more about how I can support the men in your business.

Especially with Movember coming up later in the year.

Reach out if you want to know more.

Have a strong week guys

It’s that Friday feeling, and you’ll probably have a drink later. I know I will, but it will be an alcohol-free beer.

There's something about finishing work and having that first beer, isn't there? It’s a bit of a reward and a signal that the weekend is starting, especially if the sun’s out.

But when I look back, the enjoyment didn't last that long, maybe 2 beers max. Then, it’s easy to get sucked in. You start telling yourself a few more won't hurt, ditching those plans you made. Next thing you know, it snowballs into other bad habits, wrecking all the hard work and good intentions from the past week.

After 3 years of being alcohol-free, I now realise how much drinking sabotaged me. But I also understand the parts I enjoyed and how I can still get the same pleasures without it. A lot of it was psychological.

And a decent alcohol-free beer gives me that. Holding a cold bottle or can that looks and feels the same, that cold crisp taste signals it’s time to let go and relax. The social aspect of not feeling like you’re missing out, but with none of the downsides.

Why don’t you try an AF option this weekend? Tell yourself that’s what you’ll do and own it. If anyone asks, be clear about it: “No, I am not drinking this weekend.”

Have a great weekend, gents. Enjoy yourself but don’t destroy yourself.

Cheers

PS: What's your favourite alcohol-free drink? Let me know in the comments.

3 years, no beers

Alcoholic ones, anyway.

Yup, 3 years today, I gave up alcohol, and it’s been one of the best things I’ve done.

It started as a reboot I needed to make after freshly out of a breakup and letting myself go.

But I never attended to stop entirely.

I told myself I don’t have a “drinking problem”

But drinking did give me problems.

Hangovers (obvs)
S**t sleep
Beer fear
Gut issues
Brain fog
Poor judgement
People pleased due to fear
Snowballed into other bad habits

I drank to fit in, to take the edge off or as a reward to myself.

But the 5 minutes of pleasure often resulted in days of pain.

I needed to work on my mindset and get clear on my priorities.

I had to ask myself why I was drinking and what benefits it was providing, and I now know that drinking does not support who I want to be.

Plus, there are so many decent AF options now. (NOT BECKS BLUE)

I’m not judging anyone who drinks.

It’s just not for me.

PS: Are you alcohol-free or thinking about quitting? Let me know in the comments 👇🏼

You’re aware that you’re not happy.

But you don’t really know why

And worse, you’re not sure what the hell to do about it.

It’s just this nagging feeling that everything isn’t ok.

That you’re not where you should be

Going around in circles

You’re stuck in No Man’s Land.

I’ve walked this path.

DM me REBOOT to be guided out.