17/07/2026
I had a great laugh earlier this week when I received a message through my band’s website. It was from a “fan” who wanted to share some dieting tips for the guitarist, me, who he says has gotten fat.
To me, the message was hilarious.
I learned many years ago that when someone tries to sell me their story, I have the power to choose whether to believe it or override it with my own.
In that moment, years of hard work on self-validation, self-love, worthiness, and personal power, not to mention my lifelong dedication as a weightlifter and athlete, kicked in like a program and said, “This guy is crazy. LMAO.”
I shared it with a couple of friends for a good laugh, and one comment made me pause and want to share this.
I’m not writing this to seek validation. I’ve been giving that to myself for years. I don’t need it from anyone else.
I’m not writing this to humiliate this man. His comment says far more about the lens through which he sees the world than it does about me.
I’m writing this for all the women out there who let themselves get down about their self-image, their bodies, or aging.
I want you to know that you are worthy and lovable no matter what you weigh, how you look, or how old you are. You are so much more than what others see visually.
Every day, I stand in front of a mirror and tell myself all the amazing things about me. I look at my imperfections and tell myself how much I love them. Like updating my apps, I have to make sure my confidence and self-esteem programs are running at full speed. This requires daily maintenance.
It started when I was 15.
My basketball coach used to take my best friend and me out for dinner to talk about sports psychology and strategy, something we both loved. One day, he looked at her and said she would never have to struggle with her weight. Then he turned to me and said I would have a lifelong struggle with mine.
I was 5’5” and weighed 120 pounds at the time.
I decided, right then and there, to change the meaning of the story.
Yes, sir, you were right! I did struggle with weight… at the gym!
It’s been three decades, and I will never stop struggling with heavy weights because I absolutely love what it has done for my mind, body, and soul.
Ladies, hear me well.
Never give your power away by allowing someone else to write your story.
When you adopt someone else’s story, your emotions become triggered, and before you know it, you’ve written a script in your own mind that says, “I’m not good enough.”
To be powerful is to become the observer of your life. Discern between fact and story. Actively write the new script in your mind. Lower the importance of any comment that invites you to hand over your energy. Realize that someone else’s story about you is just that… their story.
No amount of inner work will ever stop these types of comments from happening, but what makes the biggest difference is how you respond.
That is the key to mastering yourself.
Be the powerful goddess that you are. Take your power back and decide, from today forward, that you are beautiful, lovable, and worthy.
Today, I challenge you to notice one story you’ve been carrying that doesn’t belong to you.
Ask yourself:
Who gave me this story?
Is it actually true?
What story would I rather believe instead
Then start living from that one.
If you want help with creating your own stories and overriding old programs, send me a DM.
