Coach Valerie Greene: Deepen Your Love Relationships

What if conflict in your relationship isn’t proof that something is wrong… but an invitation to grow?

In my conversation on the 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐈𝐬 𝐔𝐬: 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐀𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 podcast, we explored:
✨ Anxious + avoidant dynamics
✨ Nervous system regulation in relationships
✨ Why passion fades
✨ Recurring conflict cycles
✨ Attachment wounds
✨ How to communicate without blame or defensiveness

One of the biggest things I shared:

Most couples aren’t struggling because they’re incompatible.
They’re struggling because they were never taught how to repair, communicate vulnerably, or create emotional safety together.

And sometimes the hardest moments in relationships become the doorway to the deepest healing.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same patterns, disconnected from your partner, or unsure how to create deeper intimacy, I think this episode will really resonate.

🎙️ Listen now on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-is-us-real-conversations-about-love-and-change/id1669082620

✨There's a version of your life you perform.
And then there's the life that's actually yours.

Most of us spend years getting very good at the performance — without ever stopping to ask which one we're living.

I sat down with life coach Zerina Derveni on the Soul Shaking Love podcast, and we went somewhere real.

We talked about what it genuinely takes to come home to yourself — not as a concept, but as something you actually live.

Here's what we covered:
🌸 The 5 stages from awareness to living authentically
🧠 Why most people get stuck between unlearning and exploring
💛 How your nervous system knows the truth before your mind catches up
🦋 The difference between a boundary that protects you and one that isolates you

If you've ever felt like a stranger in your own life — like you've been following a script you didn't write — this episode is for you.

🎙️ Link here:
https://youtu.be/-oQcEYV8rSM

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What if the life you built was based on blueprints you never actually chose?

So many of us learned who to be, what to tolerate, and how to earn love long before we were old enough to question it.

Then one day, we wake up and realize:

I’ve been living someone else’s script.

In my new Soul Shaping Love interview, 𝐉𝐨𝐧𝐢 𝐖𝐨𝐨𝐝𝐬, author of Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever, shares her journey of breaking free from childhood wounds, emotional control, painful relationship patterns, and the beliefs that kept her stuck.

We talk about:

✨ The hidden blueprints shaping your relationships
✨ Why you keep repeating the same patterns
✨ How to recognize emotional control
✨ What it takes to finally choose yourself and thrive

Because healing isn’t just surviving what hurt you.

It’s creating a life that finally feels like yours. 💛

🎧 Listen now via the link:
https://youtu.be/8A8Xe0DAWo4

Life isn’t getting any slower or less stressful, so on this Earth Day, I want to share something that’s been helping me stay grounded and open-hearted. 🌍

This photo is from a family trip to the Galleria Borghese in Rome, where we saw Bernini’s sculpture of Apollo and Daphne. I’ve been working with this myth in my own healing, and it changed how I relate to pressure. 🌿
In the myth, Apollo chases Daphne with urgent, grasping energy: “I need this NOW.” But Daphne doesn’t fight back and she doesn’t run forever. She transforms. She roots down into the earth and expands into a tree — branches reaching wide, grounded and open at the same time.

What moves me most: Apollo stops chasing. He looks up at what she’s become, and he’s so moved that he makes the laurel his sacred tree. The thing he couldn’t catch by pursuing, he honored by surrendering. ✨

I used to tighten my body under pressure: clenching, rushing, trying to push through. It left me more stressed and depleted. Now when I feel pressured or rushed, I think of Daphne. I root down by feeling the bottoms of my feet on the ground. I widen my collarbones and expand my heart outward, like branches reaching in every direction. 🌳
The tree doesn’t fight the storm. She grows through it.
And that expansion is what makes her sacred.

May we all remember: we’re not separate from nature. We ARE nature. And when we root down and expand instead of tighten, we become something even pressure can’t chase down. 🌸

He didn't apologize. He didn't defend himself.
He just took her hand and said: "𝐘𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐰."
That was the moment everything shifted. ✨
Healing in relationship isn't about going to therapy together (though that has its place).
It's about the small moments — when your partner gets curious instead of defensive. When they hold your tender spots instead of bumping them harder.

And here's what most people don't realize:
👉 You don't have to be in a relationship for this to matter.

Knowing what this kind of love looks like — BEFORE you're in it — means you'll choose differently. You'll recognize the person who meets you there.
This is exactly what I help my clients with — both couples doing the deep work together, and singles who are done attracting the wrong people and ready for something real.
Read the full story on the blog:
https://coachvaleriegreene.com/how-to-help-your-partner-heal-without-being-their-therapist/ 💛

And if you're ready to go deeper, my free 𝐁𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐨 𝐋𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐒𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 is open. Let's talk.

Happiness is an inside job. 💛
We've all heard that. But when the world feels heavy and uncertain… how do you actually live it?
That's exactly why I sat down with Anil Gupta — known as ""The Love Doctor"" — to talk about his Happiness Formula.
Here's what stopped me about Anil's story: in 2008 he was feeling suicidal. And not only did he find his way through it — he dedicated his life to distilling a formula so that anyone, in any circumstances, can choose happiness from the inside out.
In our conversation we go deep into:
✨ Why so many relationships fail — and how to harmonize them
✨ Why dating feels so hard and how to actually enjoy the process
✨ How to overcome upsets without letting them derail you
✨ Practical tools you can use RIGHT NOW to raise your happiness
And here's the best part — Anil is offering his book completely FREE to my audience. 🎁
If you've been feeling like happiness keeps slipping through your fingers lately… this episode is for you.
🎧 Click the link below to listen — and grab Anil's free book while you're there.
https://youtu.be/p-rWVJAybm0

The women who find lasting love aren't the ones who waited for the perfect moment.
They're the ones who stopped waiting to feel worthy first.
Here's what I see again and again in the women I coach:
They're brilliant. Beautiful. Successful. And yet they're stuck in a loop — waiting for the right man to finally make them feel chosen, seen, and loved.

But here's the truth nobody tells you:
When you wait for someone else to make you feel worthy of love, you unconsciously push away the very love you're longing for.
The shift happens when you learn to receive love — from yourself, from life, from the small beautiful moments happening around you right now — before he shows up.
That's when everything changes. That's when soul-shaking love becomes possible. ✨

I just recorded an interview as part of a FREE 22-speaker summit called "𝐈𝐭'𝐬 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐓𝐮𝐫𝐧" where I go deep into exactly this.
If you've been feeling the nudge that something in your love life is ready to shift… this is your sign. ❤️

Click below to grab your free seat for April 10:
https://spirit.bethosmer.com/a/2148247897/bGSrCAES

Easter (or Passover, or whatever Spring holiday you celebrate) can be a beautiful reminder to pause… and receive the goodness that’s right in front of us. ✨
In our busy lives we so often rush past the sweet moments — the warmth of sitting together, the smell of good food, the sound of laughter in the room.
Holidays are an invitation to slow down. To be present. To honor the people in your life and let yourself actually feel the love that’s already here.
Not the perfect version of it. Just the real, beautiful, imperfect version that’s showing up right now.
That’s enough. You are enough. And you deserve to receive every bit of goodness life is offering you today. 🌷
Wishing you a peaceful, heart-filled season. 💐

Even I feel lonely sometimes. ❤️
My husband isn't always available when I want to connect. And in those moments, I have a choice — I can focus on what's missing… or I can open my heart to all the love that's already here.
That shift? That's feminine energy. That's receiving.
It's not about pretending. It's about turning towards yourself with the same empathy you'd offer a dear friend.
Because love isn't just romance. It's the tiny everyday moments that fill us up — if we let them.
I shared more on this topic that I think will speak to you —
https://coachvaleriegreene.com/becoming-aware-of-love/ ✨

I also shared a free 10-minute meditation that I think you'll love. 🎧

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Something beautiful is coming, and I want you to be part of it. 💫

I'm one of 22 speakers in a brand new FREE online event hosted by Beth Osmer called:
𝐈𝐭'𝐬 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐓𝐮𝐫𝐧: 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐖𝐚𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐒𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞
We're having real conversations about courage, love, reinvention, and what it actually takes to move forward when life feels uncertain.
In my interview I share about how soul-shaking love doesn't begin when your circumstances are perfect — it begins the moment YOU decide you're worthy of receiving it. ❤️
If you've been feeling the nudge to open your heart and finally claim the love you deserve… this is for you.
It's completely free to join.

👉 Reserve your spot for April 10: https://spirit.bethosmer.com/a/2148247897/bGSrCAES