Thrive with Nitya

No one wants to get into a toxic relationship but most of the people get into it.

Of course for various reasons.

Some people realize that a relationship is toxic and come out of it early. But others get stuck and keep suffering silently for a long time, sometimes even for a lifetime.

It can be due to many reasons like:-

〰️You love to stay in your comfort zone, with the things that you’re familiar with even if that gives you stress or hurts you.
〰️When you have low self-worth, you feel that it’s your fault and your partner is great because he/she hasn’t left you even when he/she can get a better person than you.
〰️You can’t stay alone and fear that it's ok to stay with a toxic person than to be alone
〰️ You fear that if you leave this person, a worse person can come into your life.
〰️ you fear that your partner might harm you

It's important to sit down and ask yourself some questions:

How will this relationship be after a few years? How will it impact me and my children? Am I truly happy?

Many stay in toxic relationships due to deep-rooted fears and patterns from childhood.

By healing our inner child, we can break free from these cycles, find our self-worth, and build healthier, happier connections. 🌟💪

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I used to wonder why I explained myself so much.

Even when no one’s blaming me, I feel this strong urge to prove that I’m not wrong, not careless, not incompetent.

If I made a mistake or had to take a day off, I would end up writing a long message or give the whole story explaining why I really needed the leave or made the mistake.

Even in casual moments — like if someone laughed at a song I was singing —
Instead of just saying, “I like it,”

I’d defend myself saying: “I don’t listen to these songs normally, I am singing them only today.”
… so that they wouldn’t judge me.

It took me a while to realise — this wasn’t a personality trait.
It was survival.

As a child, I often felt I had to explain myself to avoid being scolded, judged, or misunderstood.
That fear stayed in my body.

My nervous system started to protect me, thinking - I’ll be punished if I don’t explain.

Through healing, I’ve slowly started to learn:
I don’t need to explain everything, especially when it is not needed.

If you relate to this, DM me ICH— let’s talk about it.🧡

Many of us grew up never learning emotional regulation…

Not because our parents were bad— but because they didn't know this either.

The truth is, learning to manage your emotions can transform everything:

✨ Less stress
✨ Better health
✨ A calmer, more balanced you

💬 DM me ‘ICH’ if you're ready to break free from constant anxiety and truly understand your emotional patterns.

Many of us grew up never learning emotional regulation…
Not because our parents were bad— but because they didn't know this either.
The truth is, learning to manage your emotions can transform everything:
✨ Less stress
✨ Better health
✨ A calmer, more balanced you
💬 DM me ‘ICH’ if you're ready to break free from constant anxiety and truly understand your emotional patterns.

Let me share something personal—
I explored various careers, including HR, events, banking, IT, and more.

Not because I was lost…
But because I was searching for growth and didn't know what I wanted.

Observing this pattern, people around me said:
“Again? Another new thing?”
“You can have dreams, but not everyone can be successful.”

Slowly, I started believing what they said.

Maybe I’m not meant to succeed.
I still kept trying....
But even with all my hard work…
I could never succeed.

My confidence and self-worth were almost zero at that point.

But 🌱 things truly shifted when I discovered inner child healing in 2023 and started healing myself.

I realized—these thoughts weren’t just doubts.
They were old childhood wounds on repeat.

As I healed the parts scared of failure and judgment…
I felt free to dream again.
To trust myself again.

I still have a long road to go, but I’m no longer hiding.
💌 DM me “ICH” if this resonates.

You don’t have to carry it alone anymore.

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Fear of punishment doesn't just live in childhood — it follows us into adulthood in sneaky ways:

🔸 You panic if a task gets delayed at work.
🔸 You overthink after setting a boundary in a relationship.
🔸 You feel guilty for spending on yourself.
🔸 You force yourself to keep going, even when your body needs rest.

TBH, the fear of punishment is much more than just the fear of getting scolded or beaten.
It’s the deep belief that “I am not good enough, and if I am not perfect and mess up, something bad will happen.”

As kids, most of us weren’t allowed to make safe mistakes. We were shamed, ignored, yelled at — and that fear stayed deep inside our nervous system.

For years, I lived with this anxiety too.

But discovering inner child healing changed everything.

I began unlearning these survival patterns and started feeling SAFE.
I stopped punishing myself for just being HUMAN.

And now I help others unlearn the old patterns and live with freedom and not fear.

💛 If this feels like your story too, DM me “ICH” and let’s work on it together.

❤

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