11/01/2025
Reminder!
Relationship & Life Wellness Coach
đ°đťââď¸Happily "Remarried"
đAuthor of book 'Happily Divorced'
11/01/2025
Reminder!
07/01/2025
When I got my first job at 22, I was so underconfident. From the moment I stepped into the office, my super boss became someone I looked up to - a true inspiration and guide. He was the kind of leader who didnât just manage people; he nurtured them, always seeing their potential, even when they couldnât see it themselves.
Back then, fear was my driving force, and I constantly questioned whether I was good enough. My self-worth? Practically non-existent. I even managed to dodge most presentations during my MBA, doing just two because they scared me to death.
When it was time to wrap up my management trainee program, I had to present my 8 months of work. I remember freezing right before I entered the boardroom. Thatâs when my super boss looked at me and asked, When will you believe in yourself? That question stuck with me. It echoed in my mind at various points in my life, and it took me 15 years to finally answer it.
Hereâs what I realized about that moment:
â¨He asked me the question I needed to hear.
â¨He saw potential in me, even when I was at my lowest.
â¨He made me feel like I was good enough.
â¨He believed in me, even when I couldnât.
Now, as a coach, I strive to do the same for my clients. I see their best selves, even when they canât. I believe in them when theyâre struggling to believe in themselves.
If he hadnât asked me that question, Iâm not sure what path my life wouldâve taken.
This is the beauty of having a mentor. As your coach and mentor, Iâm here to guide you and walk alongside you.
So, are you ready to take that step with me?
04/01/2025
Growing up I used to get super excited about my birthday. It was the one day I looked forward to all year. A new dress, cake cutting, and gifts were the highlights. I would start planning a month in advance.
But on January 4, 2013, an abusive incident changed everything. That day, the joy I felt for my birthday disappeared. It was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life. Since then, birthdays brought anxiety, though I still celebrated them, just more subtly.
In 2021, I faced a bigger loss, Iost five family members in ten days to COVID. Many of you might not know, but I was extremely close to my mother-in-law, and losing her to COVID broke me. Since then, birthdays, festivals, or any celebrations became incredibly hard. Thatâs why I donât post anything for festivals. 2022 was the toughest year. I forced myself out of the house to watch the movie 83. In 2023, I hid in the mountains, avoiding any phone signal. In 2024, I cried through the entire day.
By December, the anxiety started creeping in again. But as New Year approached, I began to calm down. My only wish was not to cry on my birthday. Over the past three days, I focused on healing from my birthday trauma. I decided to face my fear head-on, and guess what? The old Vidya showed up.
After a decade, I finally had a good birthday. My sister surprised me at 5 am coming all the way from Chennaj. I started the day in my happy place, my office room, with a client call. I spent quality time chatting with my sister, enjoyed good food, did some shopping, visited my parents, cut a cake with them and my sister, had dinner, and later returned home to see my husband after three long days. How could I miss his face? We cut another cake, just me, him, and my brother from another mother.
So many of you called, sent messages, cakes, and gifts. For the first time in a long while, I felt genuinely happy on my birthday. Thank you to everyone who celebrated me. This year, Iâve decided to celebrate my 40th throughout the year. I need to catch up on all those lost years. This year, Iâm finally ready to reclaim my birthdays and make new, happy memories.
02/01/2025
I watched The Matrix yesterday, and honestly, I canât believe how much more it made sense this time.
A couple of years ago, I tried watching it and gave up because I just couldnât get it. But after over a decade of being on this inner journey, it finally clicked. And wow, itâs not just a sci-fi movie, itâs so much deeper than that.
My sister was the one who convinced me to give it another shot. I told her how I didnât really understand it back then, and she said, âYouâve got to watch it again. Itâs more than just action, itâs spiritual.â She was so right!
The Matrix is such a brilliant reminder of how we get stuck in this illusion or what we call Maya. The fears, limiting beliefs, and societal conditioning we live with? Theyâre all part of this âmatrixâ that keeps us from seeing the truth.
But hereâs the thing, choosing to break free isnât easy.
In the movie, Neo hesitates before taking the red pill, and I think we all do that in real life too. Change is scary. The familiar, even if itâs uncomfortable, feels safe. Stepping into the unknown takes courage, because it means letting go of everything we thought was true.
Itâs such an intelligent movie, and it hit me hard. It reminded me so much of the work I do, helping people break out of their own âmatrix,â wake up to their truth, and live a life thatâs true to who they really are.
It also reminded me of who I was a decade back and how difficult it was to break free
So, let me ask you, are you ready to break free?
30/12/2024
This year, I chose ME!
For the last two years, Iâve started the year by choosing a word for myself. For 2024, the word was Vidya. So much happened this year, and Iâm so grateful I chose ME. Let me tell you why.
Iâve always put my familyâs needs before mine, and I was happy doing it. But at some point, it started to drain me. This year, I reversed the order. I chose me before anyone else and in a healthy way.
⨠I took better care of myself.
⨠Focused on what I wanted to do with my work.
⨠Experimented a lot, some things worked, and some left me with valuable lessons.
⨠I 2.5xâed my revenue! A lot of inner work on my money energy reflected in my results.
⨠Started a new vertical in my business.
I also worked with an amazing therapist on my ADHD. I learned how itâs my superpower and how to channel it better.
I stayed away from drama this year. If you like me, great. If you donât, thatâs okay too. I chose my people and my peace.
I rested more, said goodbye to my toxic masculinity, and worked on healing my masculine and feminine energy. The more I relaxed, the easier life got.
I rediscovered my creative side, showed myself so much compassion, and created safety within. I was really kind to myself this year and it made all the difference.
đ§ż Witnessed a kind year for our family after the testing times of 2019â2023.
I needed a kinder year, and 2024 gave me just that.
The word Iâve chosen for 2025 is growth. Iâm excited to see what the universe has in store for all of us.
What is your word for 2025?
Hereâs to a year of love, joy, and new beginnings. May 2025 bring you all the happiness, peace, and growth you deserve. Thank you for being part of my journey this year.
See you next year! â¤ď¸
23/12/2024
I absolutely love this time of year, itâs when you can truly believe in the goodness of people, the magic around us, and that thereâs a magician up there making things happen.
The minute December 1st hits, itâs like everything Christmas just falls into place!
When my client messaged me late at night saying she was at the airport on her way to Singapore, I couldnât help but smile from ear to ear.
Iâm so happy for her daughter, especially after everything sheâs been through this year, moving to a new country, changing homes, leaving family behind, starting a new school, making new friends, and understanding that her mom is working so hard. This little one truly deserves this gift.
Itâs funny how social media has complicated manifestation, but honestly, itâs as simple as just believing.
Wishing everyone a season full of magic and miracles!
. â¨
18/12/2024
This year, I discovered I have ADHD and it finally made sense of so much of my life.
For years, I felt different, out of sync, and like I was falling short no matter how hard I tried. But this diagnosis wasnât a label,it was a relief. It showed me I was never broken, just wired differently.
Now, Iâm learning to embrace my strengths, work with my brain, and let go of the idea that I need to be âlike everyone else.â
If youâve ever felt out of place, know this: youâre not broken. Youâre just beautifully different. And thatâs okay. â¤ď¸
18/12/2024
Had to say it!
Donât try to put a bandaid on a fracture.
18/12/2024
When I started my healing journey, I thought it would be this straight line, one step after another, always moving forward. I imagined progress would feel smooth, like climbing a staircase where each step took me closer to feeling better. But it was not like that at all.
Some days, I felt unstoppable, like I was finally free from all the pain I had been carrying for so long. I felt light, hopeful, and ready to move on. And then, out of nowhere, I would find myself back at square one - crying, angry, confused, and questioning if I was even making progress at all. It was exhausting and frustrating. I felt like I was stuck in a loop, taking two steps forward and one step back.
But here is what I have realised đ
âHealing is not about going back to who you were, it is about becoming who you are meant to be.â
Healing is not about perfection. It is messy. It is unpredictable. But when I look back now, I see the bigger picture, it was never a straight line, but it was a growing graph. Every setback, every hard day was a part of my growth.
Healing does not just happen, it takes intention, courage, and sometimes, someone to hold space for you. You are not meant to figure it all out alone.
If you are carrying pain and you are ready to release it, I would love to walk this journey with you. Together, we will create a safe, supportive space to help you find peace, happiness, and yourself again.
DM me âI am readyâ if this feels like what you need. Let us take the first step together. đż
17/12/2024
I remember a time when everything on the outside seemed perfectly fine, but something inside me was broken. It wasnât obvious to anyone, but deep down, I felt the weight of silent wounds I didnât know how to heal. The feeling of being stuck, overwhelmed, and unsure about what I even needed - it was heavy.
And then, someone shared something with me that changed my perspective. She told me, âYou donât have to have everything figured out. Itâs okay to feel lost. The real healing comes when you stop ignoring those wounds and start giving them space to breathe.â
It hit me. I realized I had been carrying so much without even acknowledging it.
We have all got our silent wounds, things we carry inside but donât always talk about. Maybe itâs grief, fear, rejection, or a past hurt that still lingers. We often think we need to push through, but what if healing starts when we actually stop and sit with those feelings, just for a moment?
So hereâs the thing, itâs okay to not have it all figured out. You donât have to pretend to be perfect. Take a deep breath, acknowledge whatâs been weighing on you, and let yourself feel. Whatâs one thing you can do today to give yourself the space to heal? No pressure, just listen to your heart.
If youâre ready to dive deeper into healing your silent wounds, drop a đ below or DM me. Letâs take this journey together.
14/12/2024
Healing isnât just an emotional journey, itâs also about your body.
Inside you, thereâs a constant conversation happening đ
- Your inner child, whoâs scared and desperately craving safety,
- Your inner teenager, whoâs angry and seeking justice,
- And your adult self, whoâs exhausted and just wants peace.
And then, thereâs your nervous system, the silent player in all of this. It can stay stuck in survival mode, holding onto tension and stress long after the storm has passed. Thatâs why you might feel constantly on edge, overwhelmed, or even disconnected from yourself, no matter how hard you try to âthinkâ your way out of it.
I want you to know something: this isnât your fault. Healing isnât just about willpower or fixing things mentally. Itâs about reconnecting with your body, calming your nervous system, and letting it know that itâs safe to let go.
đĄ Hereâs what weâll focus on together đ
- Gently guiding your nervous system out of fight-or-flight mode with simple, effective regulation practices.
- Using embodiment techniques to help you release the tension and stress stored in your body.
- Creating a space where your inner child, teenager, and adult self can finally feel seen, heard, and supported.
Healing doesnât happen all at once, and thatâs okay. Itâs a process - a series of small, consistent steps. Over time (usually around 3 months), youâll notice the shifts.
⨠Your body will feel lighter.
⨠Your mind will feel clearer.
⨠And youâll start to feel more at ease with yourself and your emotions.
Imagine waking up one day and realizing that you feel safe in your own skin again. That the heaviness youâve been carrying is finally starting to lift.
Itâs possible.
And you donât have to do it alone. Iâm here to guide you, step by step, with tools and practices that feel supportive and gentle.
If youâre ready to start this journey and reconnect with your body, mind, and nervous system, send me a message or book a consultation. Letâs create the peace and balance you deserve, together.
13/12/2024
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a loop of doubts about your relationship? Questions like, âDo I love them enough?â or âWhat if theyâre not the one?â can feel overwhelming.
Youâre not alone, and youâre definitely not broken. These thoughts donât mean your relationship is wrong, it just means fear and anxiety are running the show right now.
Healing from Relationship OCD (ROCD) is possible, but it takes time and small, consistent steps. Think of it like untangling a knot, gentle, patient effort is the key.
In this carousel, Iâve broken down what ROCD really is, why it happens, and how you can start finding clarity and peace in your relationship.
You donât have to let doubts control your love story. Letâs work on this together.
Ready to take the next step?
Drop me a message, and letâs talk about how I can help you untangle those doubts.