Mary Bradley Wellbeing

When we perceive a threat up ahead(ie. Failing the LC) and we don't have the confidence in ourselves to handle that threat, anxiety and fear thrive!

So this thought experiment is not about lowering expectations or saying that they will fail, it's about tapping into their resilience and building up their confidence that even if things don't work out and their worst case scenario transpires - they can handle it- they'll be sad/disappointed angry- but they'll handle it and explore a different path.

Let them problem solve and tease out creative alternatives and solutions so that the potential of failing doesn't seem as terrifying. This really eases the anxiety and boosts their confidence so that study, focus, and exam performance can get back on track.

Be sure to also play around with the best case scenario and most likely case for balance!

Guilt has its place, it's an important indicator that we've done something bad, something outside of our moral code or values, something that harmed someone else.

But sometimes guilt is misplaced, especially when it comes to parenting.

Ask yourself:
Have I actually done something wrong here?

Most parents are doing their absolute best to support their young people but it can be difficult when everyone in the house is under pressure.

If you want to talk about how to support yourself and your young person through the pressure of exam time, DM EXAM and we'll go from there.

So your brain went blank.
Here's what actually helps. 👇
(These tips are backed by research)

1 Acknowledge and accept
Acknowledge that you're thinking brain has temporarily gone offline, you haven't forgotten everything, remember you have the tools to access that part of your brain again.

2.Cold Water/Ice
If the situation allows, get out and run your wrists under cold water or use ice from your water bottle. This gives your nervous system a shock and brings up back into the present. Follow this up with some breathing.

3.Breathe first, think second.
Try the 4-7-8 technique: inhale for 4, hold for 7, exhale for 8.
It directly signals your nervous system to stand down and brings your thinking brain back online.

4. Ground yourself in the room.
Name 3 things you can see. 2 you can hear. 1 you can feel. Or pick a colour and pick out as many objects in that colour.
This pulls you out of threat mode and back into the present moment.

5. Write it out before you go in.
Research shows that brain-dumping your worries onto paper before an exam or presentation frees up the mental space you need to actually perform.

6. Memory Dump
In an exam situation, write down everything you're scared you'll forget- formulas, equations, quotes- before getting stuck into the questions. This is great for reminding you of everything you know and giving you a confidence boost.

7. Rename the feeling.
Racing heart. Shallow breath. Sweaty palms. That's not panic, that's your body getting ready for meeting the high stakes.
It isn't poor preparation or not working hard enough.
It's a deeply intelligent, if badly timed, biological protection system doing exactly what it was built to do.

Simple but effective!

"He was completely overwhelmed but with your help we got him back on track and he got the results he needed, honestly cannot thank you enough"

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Time is of the essence so get in touch today and we'll get you and your young person the support you deserve.

Exam anxiety and overwhelm should not dictate any student's potential to move on to the next chapter, so let's equip you and them with the support and strategies to thrive this exam season

I understand this is a stressful time for parents too so my packages include support for not only the students but the parents too.

DM 'Exam' and we'll go from there