14/07/2026
A few years ago I was working with a group of students in mainland China, all around fourteen. I asked them what the biggest stress in their lives was. The exams, they said, straight away.
So I asked why. They didn't feel prepared, didn't feel they knew enough. So I suggested the obvious: why not form study groups, help each other out, cover each other's weak spots?
Their answer stopped me. "We've been told we're not allowed to do that."
They're marked on a bell curve. It doesn't only matter how well you do β it matters how well you do compared to everyone else. Helping a classmate is helping a rival. They'd been told that explicitly.
Is it any wonder so many young people feel isolated, under pressure, with no one to turn to?
I've been thinking about this since last week, when the best part of a whole programme turned out to be twenty minutes in a rock pool β kids building a dam out of stones, talking, laughing, nobody performing for anyone. Just being kids.
So I've written a piece about the honesty of what we actually offer young people on these programmes β and why the part we tend to file as "downtime" might be the part that matters most.
Read it here πhttps://www.outside-in.online/_files/ugd/7d0f1f_baad20bf2c804ddd8c9976cd2e287ed0.pdf