Unfold and Rise

Unfold and Rise I help men confidently reclaim their masculine power to move purposefully forward in life & love 👑

I help men reclaim their masculine power with confidence, so they can move purposefully forward in life, love and work 👑.

02/10/2026

This is a reminder that your life isn’t over when a relationship ends.

It’s an opportunity to start afresh, take care of yourself, and design the life you really want.

6 things that can result - and what I learned from my divorce and every relationship ending since:

1. You rediscover your own spark again, what makes you YOU. For me, that was my love for dancing, people, and feeling free and independent. Think solo trips and learning to dance salsa, kizomba, and bachata.

2. You find out who your real friends are and make new ones. For me, friends sat with me in the family lawyer’s office as I was told I had to sell the house, they cooked for me when I couldn’t, they listened. I was welcomed by new communities at work, dance, and business.

3. You follow your heart and do a career pivot. I re-trained from a scientific research career to a life coach.

4. You say f**k it, life is short and this is my life - then smash through everyone else’s fears and ‘shoulds’. I discovered my passion for men’s mental health and as a single mother with a day job, I steadily transitioned into my own business as a men’s coach over the course of 4 years.

5. You challenge yourself and get into the best shape you’ve ever been - maybe you’ll even sign up to a fitness event like the HYROX…

6. You work on yourself, enjoy life, and become the happiest and best version of yourself, whilst meeting and dating interesting people along the way.

30/09/2026

Talking about the problem matters. But what happens after you understand it?

I sat down with fitness coach Caelum to talk about a question I get asked a lot: should men use therapy?

There’s no one answer that fits every man. Sometimes you need a dedicated space to unpack what you’re carrying, understand where it’s coming from and simply get it out of your head.

Other times, you already know what needs to change. You need a plan, accountability and someone to help you actually move forward.

That’s where the difference between therapy and men’s coaching becomes an interesting conversation.

Watch the full discussion and let me know: what kind of support do you think men need more of?

28/09/2026

Dating can make even the most confident people question themselves.

You can be happy with your life, know what you want, and still have moments where you wonder why dating isn’t happening as easily as you thought it would. But being discerning isn’t the same as being difficult or ‘picky’. And being single isn’t a sign that something’s wrong.

Sometimes the person who clicks with you simply hasn’t crossed your path yet - and sometimes it takes a few dates with different people to realise what you value in terms of attraction, values, and compatibility.

The goal isn’t to fill the space, it’s to find someone who genuinely adds to a life you already enjoy.

If you’re dating again and finding yourself overthinking every match, date, or lack of response, what’s been the hardest part for you?

You’ve built the career, the home, the family. But what happened to the relationship?You can love her, have a good life ...
24/09/2026

You’ve built the career, the home, the family. But what happened to the relationship?

You can love her, have a good life together, and still feel like something has changed.

Of course, long-term relationships feel different. The novelty fades, while work, kids, responsibilities and everyday life take up more space.

But if you’ve stopped talking properly, being curious about each other, making time, showing affection, or addressing the things you’ve both been avoiding, it’s worth paying attention to.

You put time and effort into your health, career and goals. Your relationship needs attention too.

Are you nurturing your relationship, or just managing life alongside each other?

If this feels familiar, DM SPARK. This is exactly the work I help successful men with.

23/09/2026

Last year, burnout meant I had to pull out of the Two Castles 10K and put this fundraiser on hold. The donations stayed there while I took the time to recover and get well enough to train again.

Now, on 30th October, Scott and I are taking on our first HYROX at Birmingham NEC, raising money for the QE Brain Tumour Fund at University Hospitals Birmingham Charity. 🏃‍♀️💪🏽

This one is personal. My Dad has been through his own brain tumour journey and received care at the QE, so I’ve seen first-hand how much support for patients, families, research and specialist care can mean during an incredibly difficult time.

If you can, please donate, share our fundraising page, or send us some luck for race day! Every bit of support means a lot. ❤️

🔗 JustGiving fundraiser⁠: https://www.justgiving.com/page/su-lee-unfold-and-rise

20/09/2026

For men who are successful, busy and used to having things sorted, dating can still feel like a minefield - particularly when you're back out there after a long relationship or divorce.

You can be confident, sociable, and have a lot going for you, but women are picking up on far more during a date than whether you chose the right bar or whether there was physical attraction.

I’m sharing a few honest reflections from a recent first date in this reel. Have a watch, then let me know: Do you think there’s a difference between moving on and actually being ready for a new relationship?

19/09/2026

Acting single on a night out when you’re married? Let’s talk.

Life gets busy, marriage can feel same-y, and the attention can feel good. But what is that attention giving you that you’re not getting - or not asking for - at home?

Maybe you’re feeling lonely, unsupported, resentful, or avoiding a conversation that needs to happen.

No judgement. Just an honest question worth sitting with.

If you want your marriage to work, start by getting curious about what feels missing. You don’t need all the answers today, just be willing to start the conversation. 🙏🏽

If this is a pattern you recognise at home, which of the phrases in the carousel could you actually use?There is usually...
18/09/2026

If this is a pattern you recognise at home, which of the phrases in the carousel could you actually use?

There is usually more going on beneath an argument than the words that started it.

You’ve had a hard day, you’re already thinking about work or the to-do list, and then your partner raises something with you. She might say you’ve been distant, or maybe she wants more time together. Perhaps she’s upset about something you genuinely didn’t realise had affected her.

You can feel the defensiveness come up before you’ve even thought about it - you want to explain what you meant, defend your intentions, or point out why the conversation or her feedback is unfair.

I totally understand that.

It doesn’t mean you’re a bad guy or that you don’t care about her or your relationship. It just means something in you has heard criticism and gone straight into protection mode.

But if she regularly leaves these conversations feeling as though her experience has been dismissed, eventually she may stop raising things at all, and resentment may build.

That’s when the distance often gets bigger.

You don’t need to agree with every point she makes. You CAN take a pause if you need one. But naming what’s happening and coming back to the conversation gives you both a much better chance of moving forward together.

16/09/2026

Three dates with a genuinely lovely guy. No red flags, no obvious reason to walk away.

But I realised I was more worried about disappointing him than excited to see him again.

And that told me something.

Someone can be lovely and still not be your person. You don’t have to force a connection just because someone is nice, makes an effort, or ticks all the “on paper” boxes.

You deserve a woman who’s genuinely excited to see you too. A full-body yes, from both sides. ❤️

I ended things honestly, he took it graciously, and we both moved on. No drama, just a little more clarity about what I’m looking for.

The dating journey continues… 👀

Have you ever stayed longer than you wanted to because you didn’t want to disappoint someone?

13/09/2026

William went to a girl’s birthday party last week and, apparently, taking a gift was completely unnecessary 😂

We then had the classic mum-and-teenager trip around Sainsbury’s. He picked a notebook because he knows she likes revising and studying, which I thought was genuinely thoughtful. Then I suggested adding a nice boxed candle gift and he kept saying, “But I don’t like candles.”

So I reminded him: “It’s not about what you like, it’s about what she might like.”
He eventually agreed, and of course - she loved the candle and he basked in all the credit! I let him have it 🙂

It made me think about relationships more generally - thoughtfulness is not always a big gesture, expensive gift, or trying to impress someone. It’s noticing the details and remembering what matters to THEM. Considering their perspective, even when it’s not naturally the same as yours or doesn’t make sense to you.

That applies to a new date, a partner of ten years, your children, your friends and your clients. People remember when they feel genuinely understood and considered.

What’s the most thoughtful gift someone has given you - and why did it mean something?

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