16/05/2026
Worth a read if you want to become a better person, build a better life, and succeed in the journey you’ve chosen.
It’s free advice too… unless you scroll past for another reel that makes you laugh for 5 seconds and adds nothing to your life.
1 — Find exercise you genuinely enjoy.
It may take time, and you might not love it straight away, but perseverance matters. Learn to appreciate the ability to move your body because somewhere, someone who is paralysed would give anything to have that opportunity. Train because you can, not because you have to.
2 — Eat in a way you can actually sustain.
If your goal is fat loss, stay in a calorie deficit. If your goal is muscle gain, stay in a surplus. But don’t follow extreme diets you secretly hate because you’ll never maintain them long term. I’m personally eating in a surplus— and trust me, that’s a whole different ball game.
3 — Cut down on processed foods and eat more whole foods.
Your body, mind, energy, skin, sleep, and overall health will thank you for it. You don’t need perfection, just better choices more consistently.
4 — If you struggle with depression, give yourself a fighting chance. Jim Carey said it perfectly:
«“I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, consume positive material, and surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.”»
That quote hit me hard because I used to be massively depressed myself. My first instinct was to run straight to a doctor for medication before fixing any of the basic foundations in my life. Sometimes we look for the quickest solution while ignoring the things that truly help us heal.
5 — Be kinder to yourself, and help others when you can.
If you see someone struggling — even a stranger — ask if they’re okay. Ask how you can help. A small act of kindness can genuinely change someone’s day. And strangely enough, helping others often helps heal parts of ourselves too.
6 — Love your family and invest time into them.
We don’t have forever. One day the conversations, the laughs, the dinners, and the little moments will become memories you wish you could relive one more time. The people who love you most are usually the ones standing beside you during your darkest hours. Spend time with them while you still can.
7 — The partner you choose will shape your life.
Choose someone who supports your goals, brings peace instead of chaos, listens when you speak, asks about your day, and genuinely wants to see you win. Life is hard enough already — your relationship shouldn’t make it harder.
And if someone is physically or mentally abusive toward you, seek help immediately. Never convince yourself that you deserve it, because you don’t.
8 — If you’ve struggled with fertility or having children, please know your life still has purpose.
A lot of people followed me because of my own fertility journey, so this one is personal to me. Society makes us believe becoming a mother or father is the only path to fulfilment, but it isn’t. You are still a family. You are still complete.
For years, I wanted children more than anything. But over time, my perspective completely changed. I found happiness, peace, purpose, and freedom in a different life than the one I originally imagined. And that’s okay too.
9 - Get a pug, never see someone depressed with a pug 😆 Nellie mine is so funny, bloody love the loaf of bread I do
If you’ve read all of this and want help, advice, or just someone to talk to, feel free to message me.
I’m currently in 🇹🇭 so replies may take time, but I’ll always try to give people the time and respect they deserve.
