Purple Eclipse Coaching

Doing what I do, I gain regular insight into people’s inner worlds.

This insight continues to show me that the struggles are very similar.

The most common struggles I see are that of ‘low confidence and imposter syndrome’ (even in the most outwardly confident of people)

I note them separately because while they are linked, there is a fundamental difference.

Triggered by a number of different things such as a promotion, new company, different boss, career change….the unfamiliar!

Or the lack of confidence that’s driven by a long standing poor sense of self worth that hums in the background, no matter what.

In either case there is a damaging inner narrative you unconsciously play out, by default!

If you can relate to this…..then ask yourself this…

what impact is this having on me?

how does this show up in my professional life?

Unearthing the reality is the key to making any change!

Take it from someone who was all too familiar with Imposter Syndrome & low self esteem.

I fought to mask it! Bloody exhausting!

It still raises its head at times, but it doesn’t have anywhere near the same impact it once had!

Keep in mind that your professional decisions, experiences & overall fulfilment are determined by ‘how you show up!’

So how are you showing up?

If you’re interested to learn more, go ahead and download my FREE 5 Powerful Ways to Elevate Confidence & Create Inpact in Your Career’ (link in comments👇)

These are some of the exact same steps I take my clients through.

Always on your side 👍🔥

Feeling lost?

This is a topic I know all too well!

I’ve had two or maybe even three occasions in my professional life where I felt this way & being super honest, once in my personal life too.

I know many of you have also experienced this feeling professionally & it’s likely that some of you are feeling this way now!

Just because you’re likely experienced, ambitious & have enjoyed success, doesn’t mean you won’t have times when you feel lost!

I’ve had 3 different conversations this week with ambitious women who each described themselves as ‘being lost’.

Even if you’re naturally brought to a crossroads or change is imposed upon you.

One example for me, was when I made a major career transition after a 10 year career, from the U.S to the U.K. It knocked me & my confidence.

I underestimated it’s impact.

When your landscape changes….you have to learn to evolve with it!

If you don’t….well, you’ll seriously run the risk of undermining your self confidence & your ability to gain future clarity.

That means letting go of your EGO & begin to👇

🔥spend focused time reflecting

🔥get curious

🔥explore your strengths

🔥quantify your value

🔥research

🔥be less judgy of your ideas

🔥connect to new people

🔥be willing to be open minded

🔥be flexible in your approach

🔥invest in your growth

🔥find a mentor

These are all key components to gaining clarity, but the key one to kick starting them all….is ‘reflecting’

If this resonates with you, then I invite you to join me for my ‘FREE’ 30-minute virtual workshop in March, to help kickstart you into getting UN-LOST & FOCUSED.

Let me guide you through key steps that will help you re-focus & ignite constructive reflection.

To register, just send me a msg or drop me a 🔥 in the comments.

Always on your side 👍

Happy Saturday 😁

Here’s a thought for you!

It’s only when you learn to ‘value your value’ that you’ll be able to show up confidently & often powerfully, in the face of any career challenges, changes or transitions you face.

‘Valuing your value’ helps you create greater impact, strengthens your resilience & encourages professional success!

Isn’t about time you stopped allowing others opinions of you to dictate your value.

Only you have the right to do this….period!

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So we reach the end of another week & I find myself berating myself a little!

Why? 🤷‍♀️

Because I realise I’ve just not given myself permission to step off the gas this week!

I have been in full on drive mode….

I’m not suggesting on the whole this is a bad thing because there are times, especially when you run your own gig or work within a highly pressurised environment, that it happens.

But the trick is not to wait until your mind & body are drained….before you give yourself permission to take your foot off the gas!

So take this as a gentle reminder & listen to your body…it gives you signs along the way but it’s up to you to listen!

Take mini pit stops to help you recharge rather than deplete your energy store before you recharge!

It’s a important daily habit!

Preventative action is always better!

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I do strongly believe ‘where there is change there is always opportunity’

BUT you have to be willing to create the change you want.

I mean you could sit, wait & hope things change for you. That’s one option, albeit not reliable!

Or you can TAKE action & EXPECT to achieve what you want!

The problem I see for many, is they FEAR change & I totally get this, having endured significant changes throughout my career, the biggest being a return to the U.K after a 10 year career working in the U.S.

It was a calculated decision but nonetheless my future was uncertain, there were no guarantees & quite frankly I felt scared!

When I look back I know I could have done with support, a mentor or a coach to help & guide me.

But I learned the hard way and I genuinely now do not fear change….I embrace it & look at it as growth, expansion & opportunity.

There is of course process & planning to follow when creating change but it starts with important reflection.

Top thoughts for creating successful change.

🔥 why is creating this change important to you?

🔥 get clear on what you want your outcome to be - visualise

🔥 identify your motivations driving this change.

Bare in mind….if your motivations are driven by the need to move away from something, as opposed to ‘towards’ what you want, this carries a negative connotation & this type of motivation will only take you so far & will eventually tail off.

You can respond to change in an empowered way or a negative way!

Which do you think might help you take that first step?

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“Thank you for everything this past year, you gave me the sentence that helped me make the change and for that I’m forever grateful”

‘You need to be excited about what you’re running to and not sad about what you’re leaving behind’.

“This sentence was a Lightbulb moment for me”

“Thank you for all your support”

A message I received from a client of mine days before Christmas!

You know you get just one shot at this thing we call life!

Don’t let your fear of the unknown or lack of guarantee dictate the trajectory of your confidence & your career progression & fulfilment!

There are no guarantees & you shouldn’t wait for guarantees to create the change you want.

You have it in you to create the way….you just need someone to unearth it for you 👍

When that happens, your light bulb moments will come & it will feel like you can genuinely do anything!

Now that’s what I am talking about!

Powerful 🔥

I said this earlier on in a post today but I feel it’s worth saying it again here….

“Please, please, please don’t let your fear of the unknown dictate your decisions about your future career”

Don’t leave your value & what is important to you on the table because your self doubt takes over!

Your value is non-negotiable!

Let that sink in.

And if you know this is what you run the risk of doing, reach out and let’s talk it out!

Always on your side 👍

My 10 year old son asked me a profound question at bedtime last night!

“Mummy, what would you do if you encounter a barrier in life?”

“Do you….”

“A. Run away from the situation?”

“B. Ask someone for help?”

“C. Deal with it as best you can?”

Me: “Oh wow great question Zachary!” “What would you do?”

“Well, I would deal with it as best I can but then if I couldn’t,
I would ask someone for help!”

That’s my boy! 👍🔥🔥

I think he could be a coach in the making!🤪

Often, the motivation behind why someone wants to create change for themselves is driven by what they don’t want anymore 🤷‍♀️

They’re looking behind at what they see as not desirable to find the drive & motivation to achieve what they believe is desirable!

It’s not that this is wrong…it’s common.

However, if your main motivator to achieve your goal is derived by the vision of what you ‘don’t want’ it’s highly likely that you won’t achieve what matters!

The thing is, the vision of what you ‘don’t want’ can be a good ‘fire starter’ & can take you so far, but the energy it requires to sustain the momentum & focus you need to achieve it will eventually tail off because it’s driven by a vision of what you DON’T WANT has a negative connotation & energy attached to it.

That’s why the vision of what you do WANT is golden!

So to give yourself the best chance at successfully creating the change you desire….you have to generate sustainable energy 🔥 action 🔥 & momentum 🔥

That means unravelling the detail & impact of what you want.

I spend a lot of time with my clients understanding the intricacies of their future vision because it creates the clarity & the fuel pull it off!

So remember this when you are setting yourself a new goal in 2023👍

🔥 Or you could always lean on my expertise & support to help you create the future vision that excites you, lights you up & is achievable in bite sized chunks! 👍👍

‘Future Vision’ is included within the 5 key elements I use with my clients to help them SHOW UP’ powerfully & achieve what matters!

🌟 Clairty
🌟 Confidence
🌟 Direction
🌟 Resilience
🌟 Accountability

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Guess what happens when you focus on what’s not working or focus on the things you can’t control?

It downgrades your mental state & inhibits your ability to move forward with clarity & energy.

You have the choice on where you place your focus!

To create a state of mind that energises you & ignites motivation & action, you have to create a shift in your focus!

Play ‘smart’ & create a habit of interrupting yourself each & every time you find yourself focusing & dwelling on the things that aren’t right & shift your focus onto the things that are right, that are working and that you can control.

This constant shift in focus upgrades your mental state & your ability to create positive action! 👍

The minute you compare yourself to someone else, to their status, career journey or success…

You squash your own confidence!

Do it too often & watch it plummet further!

The deeper it plummets, the harder it is to come back from!

Your number one responsibility is to learn to ‘cheerlead you’ 🎉