Return to Wellness

Given all the challenges 2020 and 2021 brought, let's keep our expectations light, within our control and manageable for 2022. And by this time next year, may we all be gently surprised. 😊 Happy New Year everyone! 🎉 I wish you health (of course!), lots of good people around you in your life, laughter and joy. 😘

It has been a loooong time since I last posted. Between studying family therapy full time, dealing with a house refurb that had gone pear shaped and been very difficult, and juggling the other stuff life throws at you (all against the backdrop of a pandemic), there wasn’t time. 🥺🥺🥺

But I still have dreams, hopes, wants, desires, all that good stuff. I want to share my skills to benefit the world. I want to share all the interesting stuff I am learning about family therapy. And when I saw the quote below, which a friend shared earlier today, that reminded me that I can take things slowly and do things in the tiniest of chunks. I needed that reminder.

So I thought, I have the time today to do this post. This one small thing to get me closer to where I want to be. Which is to possibly work in the NHS part-time. And have a thriving private coaching and family therapy practice.

What about you? Where do you want to be? What is the one smallest of things you could do today or this weekend to move yourself towards that? Share below.

P.S. I don't want to promise I will post regularly. But I will make an effort to be more present here. 🙂

Why you need a f**k it list this year. A different take on And I'm using strong language for a reason. Read more here

Why you need a f**k it list this year – Return to Wellness® You probably have a bucket list, but do you have a f**k it list? Click thru to learn what a f**k it list is and how to create it

When you think of emotions, what do you think of? Do you think that there are 'good' and 'bad' emotions? It's common in our society to think like that. It's ok to feel the 'good' emotions of joy, happiness, etc. And not ok to feel any negative emotions like sadness, anger, etc. The bias against negative emotions is so strong that we can be very quick to 'put a lid on them' and push them down.

Those negative emotions can end up getting lodged in us. Whenever they see a crack, they try to seep out. But our fear of them is so strong, we seal that crack quickly. The emotions remain inside. Stuck. As a result, we can feel stuck. Regarding a specific issue, our health, relationships, our jobs or our life in general.

To loosen that stuck-ness and restore healthy movement, you have to let the emotions move through you. That helps to restore a sense of wellness.

If you're looking for counselling and coaching support to feel less stuck and to have a plan for moving forward with your life, get in touch for a free Wellness Discovery call. https://bit.ly/ReturnToWellnessDiscoveryCall

The 10 challenges of trying to fit in at work when returning after illness or injury and what you can do about them

How to fit in at work when returning after illness – Return to Wellness® Click thru to read the challenges that can get in the way of feeling like you fit in at work when returning after illness and what you can do

This post focuses on the unconscious biases that hinder an employee's return to work after illness or injury. It s the fifth and final post in this series for line managers who have a team member returning to work after a serious health issue, and are wondering how they can best support their employee. Rather than focus on HR policies and employment law, what I am sharing here are the subtle and often unseen aspects which can help the employee’s return to work or derail it. [ 1,594 more word ]

Unconscious biases that hinder an employee's return to work after illness Click here to read about uncovering the unconscious biases that can hinder an employee's return to work after illness.

How to have a life purpose when living with or caring responsibilities

How to have a life purpose when living with chronic illness If you've been thinking that having a life purpose when living with chronic illness is no longer possible, but that somehow feels wrong, then read this blog

Feeling like you get left behind in life due to your or responsibilities can feel hard. Learn the 5 things you can do to move beyond that feeling.

When you get left behind in life due to your illness – Return to Wellness® Click thru to learn the 5 things you can do to reduce feeling like you get left behind in life due to your illness, injury or caring role.

After several false starts, we're finally moving back into our home. 🏡 It's a new start on several levels.

1. Newly refurbed house. This has been a project since 2013 but we had to put it on the back burner due to a challenging health issue. 🤒

2. Starting a new chapter with our marital relationship. A challenging health issue (and other stuff) can really test a relationship. We entered into this relationship with the expressed intention it's for life. But you can’t take the other person or the relationship for granted. It requires ongoing maintenance and every now and then an overhaul. 👫

3. A new study for me. And the other half gets his too. May the beauty of these new spaces be a source of inspiration and creative productivity! 🖥️

4. The Systemic & Family Therapy course and all that represents for me and the work I do with you all. Have induction next week and 10 days until the actual course starts. 📖

5. September is a month of new beginnings due to starting a new school year. Even though many of us are past that phase, that feeling of a new beginning often remains. 💫

When things settle on my end, am going to take some time out to reflect on how to make good stuff come out of these new beginnings. What about you? How do you make the most of new beginnings?

This page is part of a project for Return to Wellness® I’ve been working on. I successfully did a bit of coding to get the page to look like this. I love it I when I figure something out that I’m not a specialist in. My inner geek goddess is most pleased with herself! And I didn’t break my website either. 🙌😀

You know why I’m sharing this? When we achieve something small or large, we can be quick to dismiss it. We then rush to achieve the next thing. We can end up in this cycle of achieve – dismiss – rush to achieve, etc. It’s tiring and draining.

Instead, sit with your achievement, let yourself feel really proud of it. Take time with this. You want to feel it deep in your body. You want your body to know what these good feelings feel like so it remembers it.

Recount to yourself what you did to obtain this achievement, your strengths and what you learned. This helps you build your ability to recognise yourself, which in turn builds your self-esteem. Important stuff.

So, what have you done recently that you’re really proud of? Share here so we can applaud and support you. 👏 Because external recognition helps too. 😊

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