Grow your love: workshops to learn how to let go of self cricitism.

16/10/2025

Hello, I have summarised here what I think the possibilities of Essence(TM) Coaching are, do please spread the word.

Thank you!

Hettie

15/08/2024

In my Essence (TM) coaching practice I have witnessed how a seemingly very simple change in response towards feelings - from pushing them away - telling yourself you shouldn’t feel that way, you should be over it, it should be different’ or avoiding them to learning how to welcome and dissolve them can have deep and profound effects on someone. From anxiety to authenticity, from conflict and hurt in close relationships to communication and love, from blame and anger to acceptance and love, from fear and reactivity to grounded response in life.

This is how one of my client's described her experience:
"The changes and positive benefits I have experienced were immediate. From the first session, I was given techniques for allowing and receiving painful thoughts, feelings, and sensations and then letting them go. Over time, I have noticed that I feel lighter, younger, more energetic, and certainly freer. My relationships with family, friends, and colleagues are happier and more trusting and open. Most significantly, I now have tools for finding strength and courage in moments of extreme anxiety or upset, greater confidence in myself and an awareness of negative self talk. Life-changing events have happened since I started my sessions, which I believe have been greatly enabled or opened up by the healing process of coaching."

I have one place left at the 'Learn to let go of painful thoughts and feelings' workshop this Saturday afternoon. Do PM me if you would like to know more, or book a place.

I am very grateful to be trained and supervised in this powerful, simple, healing Essence (TM) practice by its founder, Joy Hicklin-Bailey, of Secret Garden.

03/08/2024

If you are someone who tells yourself you should feel differently than you do; or you spend a lot of time and energy dealing with your feelings or managing them ‘Learning to let go’, a workshop I am offering in two weeks time, may be of interest.

The afternoon will give you experience and practice of how to accept the whole gamut of human emotions you experience - anger, shame, guilt, fear, sadness etc, etc.

There is a simplicity to the Essence (TM) approach that means it can be used anytime, in any situation to bring:
Courage where there is fear
Peace where there is hurt
Compassion where there is anger
Self acceptance where there is guilt

Equipping you to be able respond to situations and people with integrity, truth and love.

Please get in touch to find out more, or book a place

❤️

29/07/2024

I am looking forward to sharing some principles and practical tools of the Essence (TM) Approach in a few weeks time. The impact of the Essence (TM) approach on my life has been profound.

I am sensitive, I feel things strongly and I use this simple way of responding to emotions every day. In the moment they help me find space around whatever I am feeling - fear, anger, frustration, overwhelm or hurt. Over time, there is a cumulative effect - I am more and more able to bring consciousness to what I do, to how I communicate with people, to how I treat myself and the choices and decisions I make in my life. I find I have more capacity for delight and aliveness, even, when I am faced with the realities of painful situations that are a part of life.

I am lucky enough to have trained with Joy Hicklin- Bailey, founder of the Essence (TM) approach and am delighted to introduce people to this simple but profound method.

27/09/2023

You can read more about my journey with the Essence (TM) approach and the workshops I am offering here:

Letting go of the inner critic; creating space to be who we truly are

22/09/2023

Good morning, I thought I would share some of the wider context for these workshops. Growing my love is a journey I have been on for a long time, with plant connections and with the Essence approach to healing.

By love I mean a felt sense of the interconnection and rightful or natural interdependence of all things - for me it encapsulates respect, trust, acceptance and enjoyment of life, just as it is.

As a species, many of us have lost our connection to nature, our knowing that we are completely and utterly part of it - vulnerably dependent on it, and guardians of it.

This shows itself in how we relate to ourselves. We have been trained, especially in the dominating western culture to treat ourselves as machines - that need to consume and produce when actually what we need as human beings is to connect, to create, to breathe.

In my experience, how that has shown up in my everyday life is a separation from my true self - my animal body, my naturally joyful spirit and conscious mind. My mind had become the enemy of my self, giving me a constant barrage of criticism and judgement. Enacting the opposition our culture teaches us between mind and body; rational logic and natural intuition. Turning me into a perfectionist, workaholic and sometimes a complete ma*****st - punishing myself in obvious and subtle ways, enacting the fight I learnt is necessary for survival.

And so, this return to nature, to love and connection has come through insights and teachings from plants and through Essence (TM) inner work to gently, steadily dismantle the beliefs and conditioning I held, largely unconsciously about my worth, my deservedness, my function, my abilities.

20/09/2023

Here is the leaflet with more details of what each workshop will involve. Do ask any questions you might have ....thank you

20/09/2023

I am pleased to share this poster with the practical details of the workshops I am offering. Thank you to everyone who gave me feedback and helped me make it.

16/09/2023

So many of us have a strong inner critic - self criticism and self blame that can result in perfectionism, being too busy, being stressed all the time or beating yourself up. I am offering two workshops to share simple Essence TM techniques that can be taken into every day life to dissolve these patterns.

In the first workshop we will learn and practice the approach so the dissolving of beliefs and patterns will begin there and then. People will leave with tools they can take into their everyday lives to continue the process of growing self love.

The second workshop will be an invitation into Ho'o Pono Pono, a forgiveness ritual taught to me by my teacher, Joy Hicklin-Bailey. It is part of the Huna, an ancient and deep philosophy of life that believes all is love and very simply can be reconnected, healed, brought back into the unconditional wholeness that is life.

People will bring a happening, or way of being that they find it difficult to stop blaming themselves for - that they feel ready to bring into forgiveness.

Over these two workshops we will create space to be our essential and natural selves: more able to connect with others in truth; and act with integrity.