05/10/2026
It was my son’s birthday yesterday. He turned 12.
It was just after his 7th birthday that I had my last drink.
I’m so extremely grateful for these sober years and for the birthdays that have now passed without me drinking.
I remember on his 1st birthday having bubbly at lunch. I said it was to celebrate, but it wasn’t really, it was just because I didn’t know how to live differently back then. I relied on alcohol for social occasions, and for all emotions, good and bad. He had an Igglepiggle cake. It was such a gorgeous cake and I just remember feeling really sad that I didn’t feel able to just be fully present for it, and at peace with it. I had to have the w**e too. I remember knowing that the w**e wasn’t really a choice. I was past that point. Even then.
It took me 6 more years to work it out. I wish I’d done it sooner. I’m so glad I did it.
Sobriety has never, and will never be a sacrifice for me. It has been the greatest gift. It has enabled me to build the strongest relationships with both of my children. It wouldn’t have been the same if I’d still been drinking. I would have been physically there, but I would have been lost emotionally. I’m so grateful that I was able to set myself free.
I first reached for help with my drinking 15 years before I stopped. I then spent those 15 years going back and forth and trying everything – initially to try to be able to moderate, and then eventually to help me to stop drinking altogether. I found a solution and now I teach that solution to my clients.
I have worked with hundreds of people to change their relationship with alcohol, through my own coaching practice, alcohol-free programmes and community alcohol services. I understand alcohol and how much it can take hold – even for those who are outwardly holding it all together. And I understand the way out! There is always a way.
If you are stuck, book a free call and let’s talk. The link is in my bio (and on my website).
Yesterday we went to the amazing The Crocky Trail (Official) and had the best day full of nature, adventure and laughter – finished off with a birthday tea and cake. I felt at peace. That was all I ever wanted 💙
