Riverley Coaching

𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀?

You’ve got a high performer, they challenge the status quo, they question everything, they think differently to the rest of the team.

Some senior leaders recruit deliberate diversity of thinking into an existing team to shake it up. The intention is good but not executed well it can be destructive.

Recognise that group think is like a tanker, and to change it’s direction you might need more than one tug boat.

And that tug boat needs support. Or they will end up suffering from stress and imposter syndrome. So arrange for a senior leader as a mentor, or an external coach, to help them build resilience.

And perhaps recruit similar disrupters to add more tug boats to your fleet.

Either way if the distrupter isn’t supported they will leave, their mental health may suffer, their experience of working altered.

I’ve seen this before, the new blood disrupter leaves and whilst their working their notice someone else puts their notice in; because secretly the second person wanted the changes they could see the first person might catalyse.

And interestingly this might just be the start of the domino rally. Because although their “different” way of thinking might not have obvious support it might very well have support, from above and below.

Perhaps it is you, you’ve joined a team to bring in a different perspective and at first it was great, those challenges brought change and improvement but recently the atmosphere has changed. When you speak there is a beat before anyone speaks or reacts, you feel unwelcome.

If you can see what is needed and how it can be delivered but it’s not the message the organisation wants?

The organisation has people who promise delivery, even though you know the data you have gathered tells a different story. Your integrity is being compromised in meetings when you hear what you know is a tall tale being shared with stakeholders. But everyone just wants to hear “it will all be ok”

And how do you recover if it is you?

Without some level of intervention protecting your mental health is difficult; you have two choices, put up or shut up. But what if there is a third? That you can

𝗜𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗧𝗮𝘆𝗹𝗼𝗿 𝗦𝘄𝗶𝗳𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗶𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝘁?

I like Taylor Swift. I bought her first album when it first came out, before anyone had ever coined the phrase “Swiftie” and I love her lyrics. When the fanbase became mainstream I stepped away, it became competative about who the biggest fan was and Eros tour, no thanks, too much for me.

But I still like her music and her lyrics. I find them thought provoking and uplifting.

I’ve used shake it off to get people moving when presenting planning in post lunch (Graveyard) shift of an away day to get the energy going again.

I’ve used her messaging in Guide meetings. I’ve cited her as a role model for doing good things.

But you don’t need to be a teenage girl to be able to relate……just take a moment and think; what do you need to shake off? 𝗥𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘄. Moving your body is the quickest way to change your internal state.

What are you holding on to which isn’t serving you?
Can you identify it?
Sometimes it’s just a feeling, something anchoring you in those old patterns, those old ways of working.

Maybe it is a belief linked to your success, it might be a product you lovingly developed, but your clients are no longer showing interest in. Or perhaps a software which is no longer the best suited to your needs.

Or maybe it is a belief you hold.

Take some time today to review it, to examine it and look for a tweak, a change or an alternative.
Is it time to enlist some help? A deep dive Self Strategy day is me and you, 1:21 looking at your foundations, your strategy and where they need to align. Want to know more?

Just book a call to explore https://pages.riverley.co.uk/riverleyenquiry30min

𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗿𝗲𝗾𝘂𝗶𝗿𝗲𝘀 𝗮 𝗹𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗹 𝗼𝗳 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗲, 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘁𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘃𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗽 𝗲𝗻𝘃𝗶𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁

This is particularly relevant when they work in silos, in a masculine organisation (that is not the same as them being male) or where there is internal rivalry.

So why would you want your leaders to have group coaching?

Well they don’t need to bare their soul in the room to get the changes they need. And a good coach/facillitator provokes thought and internal reflection. which intern leads to changed behaviours.

And there are significant benefits when you bring a group of senior leaders together.

It can help to breakdown those silos and rivalry, be a conduit for knowledge sharing, aid whole picture thinking. Networks grow.

It’s not just coaching;

It is facilitated change

It’s provoking reflection

It’s shifting beliefs deeper than surface level

It’s a higher collaboration between teams.

It’s greater productivity

It’s enhanced problem soliving

It’s innovation.

I have two group coaching programmes; The Confident Leader Programme and The newly devleoped Exemplar Leadership C.O.M.P.A.S.S.

Want to know more? Details on my website https://www.riverley.co.uk or just book a call

𝗗𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗺𝗲 𝘂𝗻𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗲𝗻
I’m not your average coach.

I have always had the most amazing ability to see people, and I mean REALLY SEE them, not the performative version they portray but their essence.

This means as a coach I am powerful, transformative and incredible to work with.

I see patterns, very completely, apparently it is called Hyperphantasia but I see it all.

Including the dark murky corners, where you might want to go but we need to. But it’s ok, I’ll hold your hand, be your cheerleader and even turn up with my torch so we can clear out those old dust covered beliefs in the corners of your mind which no longer serve you.

When you work with me expect great things.

Expect transformations you never voiced before.

I’m highly skilled and experienced and I have enough courage for both of us.

So if you have had enough of your own BS, are done with the drama triangle and are ready to embrace your creator self. Apply now,

My clients apply to work with me because I am not for the faint hearted, I am for the bold, the brave and the restless, those who want more but in a way which is authentic to their values, those who aren’t prepared to step on others to get to the top but who are happy to go and clear the way.

Want to know more? Book a call today, 30 minutes I promise will be worthwhile.

https://pages.riverley.co.uk/riverleyenquiry30min

𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗮 𝘁𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗹𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗱

Have you heard of the drama triangle? The one with the Victim, Perpertrator, and Rescuer? It’s a model often used in management training, counsellin,g and personal development.

But it has it’s limits….

For starters it is passive; someone is a victim.

It’s also aggressive; there is a perpetrator.

In a world where we talk about mindset being the cornerstone of success and resilience why do we keep insisting that they idenfity in a dynamic which includes identifying themselves as a victim. So what is the alternative?

Let me introduce you to the empowerment dynamic.

This is a dynamic much better suited to our modern world. Where we have options and choices,

It also has 3 roles:

The Creator

The Challenge (or Catalyst)

The Coach (or as I like to prefer to refer to it; the Cheerleader).

This whole dynamic is based on decision and responsibility, rather than disempowering the “victim”, no one is rescuing, no one is taking the situation away, the onus is on the protagonist to take ownership and make decisions to address their situation.

So when things aren’t where you want them to be ask yourself “am I being the victim here? What would be different if I were the creator, with choices, what would those choices be? Which would be my likely route?”

Not sure? Why not join me on a clarity connection session? 90 min, let’s look at your choices and plot your route.

Book here https://pages.riverley.co.uk/clarityconnection90

Are you stuck?

Do you feel overwhelmed, you've got loads to do but no clue what to do first or how to fit in those tasks which are always there, you know the ones, the ones which benefit YOU. The ones which will futher your career or business, the ones which will help you grow.

Why not invest 90 minutes, with me, to help you gain clarity and move forward, with a Clarity Connection session?

Book now!
https://pages.riverley.co.uk/clarityconnection90

Imposter syndrome doesn’t always fade as you rise. It just gets smarter.

At mid-career, it stops saying “you’re not good enough” and starts saying “you’ve just been lucky.” It minimises your experience, reframes your success, and keeps you playing small.

But here’s the truth, self-doubt thrives in silence.

This is your permission to speak it aloud, unpack it, and dismantle it. You’ve earned more than success. You’ve earned the right to believe in it.

Visit my website to find out how I can help you rebuild confidence from the inside out.

https://riverley.co.uk/work-with-us

At some point, you have to stop collecting external evidence and start trusting your own.

You’ve done the work. You’ve led teams. You’ve made decisions others wouldn’t dare to make. The fear that you’ll be “found out” doesn’t come from reality, it comes from years of internalising impossible standards.

The confidence you’re looking for isn’t on the next rung of the ladder. It’s already within your experience, your insight, and your ability to handle complex situations.

Visit my website to find out how I can help you build self-belief that finally feels real.

https://riverley.co.uk/work-with-us

You’ve done everything they said would make you feel confident.

The qualifications. The promotions. The years of experience. The reputation.

So why does self-doubt still whisper that you’re one mistake away from being exposed?

This is the confidence paradox. The more you achieve, the more pressure you feel to maintain the image. And the harder it is to believe you belong.

It’s not because you’re broken. It’s because you’re human. And there are ways to stop this cycle.

Visit my website to find out how I can help you silence the inner critic and lead with confidence that’s grounded in truth, not perfection.

https://riverley.co.uk/riverley-coaching-services