Anomaly Coaching

Hate her, love her

There is no denying her unbelievable work ethic. doesn’t need to work anymore. She has shares in Kanye west’s company, she has a make up line, clothing line ect. She could stop working and she would be sorted.

Yet she continues. I find this fascinating. What could drive someone to continue pushing even harder? Even though they have everything that most of us would want. Why does this level of drive come from? How do you sustain it?

Anger transference

Relationship books

Story time:

Last summer, I thought it might be fun to have my DNA analyzed. Two companies, 23andMe and Ancestry.com, had popped up again and again in my social feeds, so I decided to join the party and see if I could blame my penchant for salty food on my genes. And as a journalist, I was just naturally curious.

So like 26 million other people, I ordered a testing kit online, spat into a tube, and sent my saliva off to Silicon Valley. Any concerns I had were around privacy. I checked all of the boxes to keep my results as secret as possible and went back to my normal life.

Privacy, it turned out, was the least of my worries.

I had just gotten home from the gym when I opened the email from 23andMe, saying a report was ready for me to read. That click changed my life forever: To my utter shock, the results showed that I have a mutation in a gene called BRCA1, which puts me at a huge risk of developing breast and ovarian cancer. I broke into tears.

At first, I didn’t believe what I was seeing. My father’s sister died of breast cancer when she was 37, but her mother (my grandmother) and her sisters all lived long healthy lives. My aunt’s death was always talked about as an unforeseeable tragedy, not a family legacy. I knew that being an Ashkenazi Jew (100%, according to 23andMe) put me at a higher risk of BRCA but at 1 in 40 that’s still only 2.5% of my tribe.

Full story: https://www.statnews.com/2019/08/08/23andme-genetic-test-revealed-high-cancer-risk/

What common mistake should I avoid before 30?

1. Don’t choose who you surround with based on loyalty choose them based on their value to you in regards to the vision you have for your life
2. Prepare for your life and strategically think about it. Don’t just wing it
3. Don’t waste your money on things like gambling, scratch cards, lottery. This is a high risk strategy for wealth building
4. When making decisions think 10 years ahead and be vigilant of the price you will have to pay in about 10 years for a choice made today
5. Buy a house or at least put 30-50% of your income in a separate account and don’t touch it
6. Find your partner as soon as you can. You will have longer to learn about their character. The later you leave it to find a partner the higher the stakes and pressure which means you won’t focus on their character as much as just finding someone.

Decision

People under estimate it. Benjamin Desrali once said that nothing can resist the human will that will stake its existence on a Single purpose. Humans can see the finish before it’s already here.

In the next decade most of us will be in our 40s…ish. Are you gonna be better off then you are today? If so what’s your plan to ensure you are. If you have £250 in your bank account, how much is gonna be in there in 2031? What’s your plan? If you are broke, ugly and depressed. What’s your plan on the next 10 years to change that? If you are single, what are you going to need to do to position yourself in such a way that you find a partner, have kids ect. What’s your plan? Are you going to wing the next 10 years? I hope not. Who are you going to need to recruit to help you? What skills are you going to need to acquire? What disciplines are going to be present in your life in the next decade? What would happen if you genuinely tried, and actually put effort into getting the things that mean a lot to you over the next decade? Don’t wing the next decade, don’t wing it. Plan it out. Be strategic. Think.

“LUXURY BELIEFS”

“ideas and opinions that confer status on the rich at very little cost, while taking a toll on the lower class.” You can afford to believe in defunding the police, for example, if you live in a safe neighborhood that's unlikely to be negatively

The social hierarchy

Different approaches to psychotherapy

Psychodynamic therapy approach: The psychodynamic approach focuses on an individual’s unconscious thoughts that stem from childhood experiences and now affect their current behaviour and thoughts. The urges that drive us to emanate from our unconscious and we are driven by them to repeat patterns of behaviour.

Person centred therapy approach: The person-centred approach focuses on the belief that we are all born with an innate ability for psychological growth if external circumstances allow us to do so

Cognitive behavioural Therapy approach: CBT focuses on how an individual’s thoughts and perceptions affect the way they feel (emotions) and behave. We are reactive beings who respond to a variety of external stimuli and our behaviour is a result of learning and conditioning. Because our behaviour is viewed as having being learned, it can, therefore, be unlearned.

In highlighting the differences in theoretical rationale between the psychodynamic approach and cognitive behavioural therapy, the psychodynamic approach encourages the client to uncover the past and early childhood in order to bring to memory significant events. Cognitive behavioural therapy, however, focuses on the here and now and is goal orientated. The psychodynamic approach sees us as being driven by unconscious urges whereas cognitive behavioural approach sees our behaviour as being a learned response

I personally do not lean into anyone of these approaches and instead use the pluralistic approach which draws from the best parts of all these approaches.