Motherkind

Some things I WISHED I’d known.

What would you add?

I had an incredible response to last weeks solo episode on anger - so I’ve managed to find someone who’s written A WHOLE BOOK on it and the episode is out tomorrow. It’s vital listening 💫💫

We need to normalise and understand anger in motherhood.

When we understand WHY we lose it, we can firstly have compassion for ourselves and secondly get to know our unique warning signs to take a moment.

Like reversing a car - we have to know what our green, amber and red warning signs are - so we can push the break (and take a break.)

Anger is misunderstood in motherhood.

It’s rarely just ONE thing. It’s ALL the things.

We have a window of tolerance and by bedtime - we’ve regulated ourselves all day and we simply can’t anymore - so we lose it. Especially as we’ve talking about on stories- many of us don’t even get an evening to ourselves.

Comment “pod” and I’ll send you this weeks episode with me where I reveal exactly what you need to know about your anger AND what to do about it ⬇️⬇️

I created Motherkind because I felt like no one was talking about this.

Once I became a mother many of the ways I navigated life: working hard, trying to control everything, trying to be perfect and ‘successful’ .....stopped working.

Because children can’t be controlled, and it doesn’t work to try and do motherhood perfectly (impossible) and ‘success’ took on a totally different meaning - at work and home.

If this resonates, you’ll LOVE these episodes of the Motherkind Podcast

on perfectionism
on matrescence
crawford on surrender
on redefining success

Just search ‘Motherkind’ wherever you get your podcasts 🎧❤️

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HELP ME CHOOSE A NEW PODCAST COVER ⭐️

After 6 years I’ve decided it’s finally time to claim my space and put my face on the podcast cover 🔥

We’re going to relaunch on the 4th March with some exciting changes and a new cover….but which one I just can’t decide so I need your help ➡️

Which one feels most Motherkind? (Supportive, credible and kind).

Thank you 🙏

(And thank you to my dream team for the incredible shoot)

Which one resonates with you most? 👇👇

“You can do it, I believe in you” she said to HERSELF. I couldn’t hold back the tears.

For most my life I had a harsh, unkind relationship with myself. My inner dialogue was like living with an inner bully. Always focusing on what I was doing wrong, why I was failing, how I couldn’t do it.

When I learned how we speak to ourselves is generational I decided it had to STOP.

I’ve worked so hard at completely changing my inner dialogue- thanks to many of my incredible guests over the years .holistic.psychologist it has now completely changed.

My inner voice is now kind, supportive and compassionate. It’s changed my life.

And it might just have changed my children’s lives too. ❤️

Comment “KIND” and I send you a link this weeks podcast where I reveal the exact steps I took to completely change my inner voice.

I read this and instantly thought about the process of becoming a mother. These words have never been more true 💔

Tag in your mum friend who could really use these words of encouragement 👇🏻

I’ve been getting a bit lost with social media recently.

It’s changed so much since I started on here. It’s all 4 second reels and trending audios and fun as that is sometimes, I miss the days when it used to be just you and me chatting about our motherhoods. Remember those days? When it was in the moment, spontaneous thoughts and imperfect photos.

So here’s a pic of me right NOW in my messy, amazing acoustic wardrobe recording a podcast, trying to get it finished before the girls come home from school. Because even through this platform is unrecognisable from my early days - my mission is exactly the same to help us feel more empowered and confident in motherhood.

Who has been here since the start?! 👇👇👇

Here’s what I know: The more discomfort we feel with our own emotions, the harder we find it to sit with someone else’s. That’s why so many people unconsciously try to shut down someone’s feelings with advice, platitudes, or toxic positivity.

It’s hard to see someone you care about struggling, we so want to offer advice or ideas, but what worked for us, might not work for someone else.

The greatest gift you can offer someone who is struggling is your presence and practical support (food, childcare, washing, cleaning).

What’s the best support you’ve ever been given?

Save this post to come back to and share it to your stories, we have to change how we support each other.

Zoe x

Stop wasting your precious energy trying to go backwards. Life doesn’t work that way.

Have the courage to step into the woman you’re becoming.

Be brave enough to ask yourself:

What matters to me now?
What qualities have I developed in motherhood?
How has it changed me?

Drop a heart in the comments if you’re ready to embrace the woman you’re becoming ❤️

When said to me back in 2019 “the most important thing a parent can do is take care of themselves”. I knew I had to change. I was putting myself at the bottom of my priorities in life, and it wasn’t working. I was exhausted, and struggled to manage my 4 year old’s emotions. Of course I did, I had no emotional bandwidth.

It was only when I started looking after myself TOO that everything changed.

It is never selfish to take care of yourself too, it’s vital ❤️