Raval Kaur

Everything literally EVERYTHING is a habit.

The way you think the way you feel the way you act, all of it.

Comparison is also a habit.

And it starts from childhood where your parents compare you to someone else to teach you a lesson.

And when you grow up you start comparing yourself to others.

The key here is to be aware and have love and kindness for yourself just like you would for a child.

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You’re going to be shocked with this one.

It's SOOO easy to beat ourselves up.

“i hate how I look. My hair looks weird”.

“I am disappointed in myself. I knew I can’t do this”

“I can’t make friends. Something must be wrong with me”

These are phrases you may have used. This is called inner dialogue. Notice how it belittles you.

What if I told you these are just thoughts? Thoughts that feel like facts? Because you’ve collected so much evidence?

Which is why when you even REMOTELY try to talk positively, it feels downright fake.

Why is that?

It’s simple. Hard but simple. It’s a habit.

Just like anything else.

I am not saying you to COMPLETELY change your inner dialogue. Your brain will refuse it.

You can’t go from “I hate myself” to “I love myself”.

Instead, let me introduce you to THOUGHT LADDERS.

These are thoughts that take you one step closer to “I love myself”

It could be :

- I am learning to understand myself.
- I am human and I am not perfect. I love that.
- I take care of myself.
- I am so proud of trying.
- I am in the process of loving myself.

And then finally you can tell yourself :

- I love myself.
- I absolutely love myself!

It takes time and consistency to be able to get there. But I will tell you one thing.

It absolutely works.

I invite you to be my 1:1 client. I will be your life coach for 6 months. I can help you LOVE YOURSELF FULLY without the overwhelm or doubt.

When was the last time you felt that a program or a course isn’t working for you?

I have felt that. Many times.

And my thoughts around that have always been :

1. This doesn't work.
2. This is not for me.
3. I regret joining this program.
4. This is so hard!

But when I began to explore my thoughts and my feelings, I realized it’s not the program, it’s me not fully believing in it.

Not believing that “this is exactly what I need”

“I know this will work”

“i can make this program work for me”

“I am going to take it step by step and work on it”

The program doesn’t work for you. You have to work for the program.

Everytime we pay for a course, we’re not paying for it to magically work.

We’re simply given the tools and techniques so WE can make it work.

Believe in yourself and believe in your program

Do the work. And then watch how it starts working for you!

Some of my clients think it’s normal to wakeup and argue with your partners.

They’re just used to it. They think it’s normal. And their partner probably thinks the same.

And it’s HEARTBREAKING.

It’s heartbreaking when I tell my clients it’s not normal and their shocked. but for them it’s happened so many times they’ve just accepted it as their normalcy.

Sometimes we subconsciously choose partners that replicate a pattern that we’ve been a victim of when we were young.

If you’ve been around people that argue and raise their voice or even verbally abuse each other, chances are you would think it’s normal.

What I’m trying to say is YOU CAN have a partner and not have arguments at all if rarely.

You can have some that deeply cares for you and would have discussions with you instead of raising their voice at you.

I have that. And so can you.

PS : I invite you to work with me 1:1. If you want a relationship where you’re able to discuss through things without feeling overwhelmed then this is all you need. Book free consultation and let’s get started.

Or get help. Seriously.

The more you procrastinate the more mind drama you’ll have.

Which will lead you to both, waste of time and energy.

Social media is not in control. You are.

Here is the thing.

When you WAIT to make a decision, it’s usually because you want something external to happen to HELP you clarify the decision-making process.

And the reason you want something external to happen is because you do not trust yourself enough to make that decision.

But that never happens. Nobody is going to come and nothing magical is going to happen to help you make those decisions FOR YOU.

It’s like giving up control and allowing the circumstance to lead you when in actuality YOU are in control.

And contradictory to popular belief, decisions do not get easier, they get harder.

I fully 100% believe that our thoughts create our results.

So when you’re AFRAID to make a decision, It’s probably because you have thoughts such as “what if this doesn’t work?” OR “What if I don’t make it?”

These thoughts create doubt and therefore the indecision.

Being afraid to make decisions is WORSE than not making any. You’re losing valuable time and you get nothing done.

I have heard this many times from my clients before they decide to sign up with me, but as a coach, I show up fully 1000% BELIEVING In them.

If they show up believing in themselves 10% I show up believing in the 90%. BECAUSE IT’S 100% doable.

Book a consultation even if you don’t believe in yourself and let me show you how wrong you are.

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I have been told on many occasions I am very bold mostly because I don’t have much fear in me of what the other person would think. (This also makes me a great life coach because I am not afraid of calling out my client).

Which honestly I love about myself.

But it got me thinking.

A lot of people, when facing unexpected boldness from someone who isn’t afraid to speak up end up going into flight or fight mode.

So they either laugh it off or an argument takes place where now ego of two people are on the front seat driving in each of their cars.

People stop listening to understand. They listen to speak back.

Because now it’s the matter of being right (hence, ego is driving).

And when we don’t feel heard, we raise our voices. To be intimidating. So the other person can shut down.

This is how relationships are torn apart and broken down.

When being right comes into place you jeopardise your relationship.

Nobody wins.

I am not telling you to change yourself. There is a difference between confidently speaking (to stand up for yourself) and shouting because you weren’t heard.

This happens between parents and their kids all the time.

Also between lovers or any other relationship. Awareness is key. Choice is yours.

You or the relationship?

The decision is yours.

I recently went through a phase where I was blaming my instagram for not working for me.

My brain said :

it’s not working

The algorithm sucks

This page is broken

In the middle of that I decided to create a new page.

Because I couldn’t deal with my low engagement.

With all of the frustration, sadness and disappointment It clicked.

It’s not the page or the algorithm or my inactive followers.

It’s me.

And even if I create a new account I will have the same results IF i have the same thoughts and feelings.

And more importantly.

My main purpose is not a high engaging page.

It’s to help you. It’s to help you wake up and realise that you’re responsible for your thoughts, feelings and results.

You’re responsible for your decisions. Just like I am.