Hannah Mia Coaching

I’ve been in swimwear a lot lately.

Granted, a lot of it has been in my garden with only an audience of my boyfriend and the dog because we got a stock tank pool (in love).

But, also, out and about, in front of people and strangers.

I’ve been actively inviting people over to dip in our stock tank, without another thought to how it might feel to be in a bikini in front of them.

It’s funny trying to articulate how it feels to NOT think about something.

Because the reality is, I just don’t think about it any more. Bikini shopping was a pleasure. Being in the water, throwing myself down water slides…an unbridled delight without any thoughts about how fat I am to sour it.

And while I’m busy over here not caring, I’m aware of how it used to feel, how many of you are avoiding doing things that would be so much fun because you don’t want to get your jiggly bits out.

I didn’t get here by accident. It was a deliberate effort to stop my hate for my body ruining my life.

And I hope you can take a deep breath, put on that swimsuit and keep your mind on how good it is to cool down and frolic in the water, instead of what others might be thinking.

It’s too hot - and life is too short - not to.

My recent expedition into tucking my shirts into my jeans has been surprisingly transformative.

Letting the full size and outline of my belly be out there on display is my small way of sticking two fingers up at everything I know about wearing “flattering” clothes.

Oh and it’s confronting seeing the belly I’ve spent basically the last 30 years doing everything to hide and get rid of.

But here’s the thing, it’s also kind of exhilarating to have reached a point where I am actively choosing to show the bits of me I was ashamed of. And to choose dressing the way I like over dressing to hide myself.

I never thought I’d be here.

When I started working on accepting my body, I gave myself a ton of caveats - I could still try to lose weight, I could still dress to hide my size, I wouldn’t be posting photos that showed how big I was on the Internet, I wouldn’t love my body, I’d just accept it as neutral.

These made the job feel more doable. I gave myself stepping stones.

And I never saw this coming. This level of confidence, not just acceptance but love of my body.

This might feel so far from where you are. Or kind of horrifyingly embarrassing.

But, it’s incredible over here. Without shame. And I urge you to take the first little steps towards feeling good in your body.

Do you know what I’ve been off doing? Really f-ing enjoying my life!

I’ve reached this point where I care so little about how big my body is or what other people think of it, that I kind of ran out of things to say about body acceptance.

Until I started listening to everyone around me…and here’s what I heard…

- how much weight can I lose before this wedding?
- will I ever be able to have s*x without thinking about my belly?
- I’m dating men I don’t find attractive because I think I’m not attractive
- I don’t want to accept my clothing size has gone up
- I haven’t felt myself since gaining weight…5 years ago
- I haven’t got any photos of myself with my kids when they were young because I didn’t like looking at myself
- I’m going on a beach holiday, but, I don’t want to wear a swimsuit, so I won’t go in the water

All these things are said so casually. Like they’re normal. Like they’re fact. Like compromising your life because you’re “too fat” is unavoidable.

But that’s not true.

It doesn’t have to be normal for you.

I’m a walking, talking, jiggling example that you can do all the things without your weight being a deciding factor.

If you’ve said any of these things to yourself lately, DM me and I’ll give you some quick coaching right in your inbox to change that.

OH HEEEEEEY

I’m back after an incredibly long, unplanned hiatus. More ready than ever to fight your just-plain-wrong ideas about your body.

But, for now, let’s talk about what I’ve been up to…

🕶️ I just got laser eye surgery so I’m wearing oversized sunglasses everywhere
👩🏻‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏻 Got me a boyfriend, moved him into my house, he parents the dog better than me
👙 Wore a bikini on holiday…and have photos of it!
⚒️ Spend 90% of my time either doing or thinking about DIY (I love being in my 30s)
🎧 Been recording my podcast without telling anyone, it’s in all the places, go find it! (Done Weighting Podcast)

How are you doing?? What have I missed?! Tell me everything!

My friend got his wedding photos the other day
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Let’s talk about how confronting it is to see pictures of yourself
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For a long time, I probably wouldn’t have looked at the photos
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Or I would have had a cry when I wasn’t magically thin in them
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My first thought (about myself) was, “wow, I pull that weird face a lot,” followed by, “I look like I’m having so much fun”
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And this is a huge accomplishment because I have about 10 chins in most of the photos
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Here’s the thing…
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It doesn’t matter
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The wedding is done. I was the weight I was on that day. There’s no changing that
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Not every photo of me fat is a “before” photo
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Or ammunition for me to punish myself with
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Or the wake up call in need to finally get my sh*t together
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Even if in a years time I’m half the size (and I’m not working on that, for the record)…why would I want to view my friends wedding photos as an example of how fat and broken I once was?
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Was it any less of a great day or less significant because I did it fat?
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Here’s a little re-frame I’d love you to use next time you’re looking at photos from an event:
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Those photos are a record of the event, the relationships, the emotions, the fact you were experiencing this thing together at a certain point in time
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You looked the way you did in that moment and you felt all the feelings and had all those relationships in the body you had that day
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Photos aren't a record of how “imperfect” your body is. Or a measure of your value
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Don’t erase yourself from events or deny yourself the memories because you’re unable to separate how you look in the photos from the joy you experienced as the photos were taken
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Consider me your sweary fairy godmother. 🧚🏻‍♀️ I’m going to wave a magic wand and you’re going to…
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🌟 Feel beautiful without losing a pound
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🌟 Feel successful without making a penny more
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🌟 Feel lovable while single
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🌟 Feel likeable without growing your friendship circle
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🌟 Feel interesting without anyone telling you so
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OK, so, I’m not actually magic. 😬 But, I don’t need to be.
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These are all side-effects of falling in love with yourself and going cold turkey on external validation.
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When you stop looking for approval from the outside.
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And you genuinely, unconditionally love yourself (the way I know you love lots of other people...and your dog).
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You don’t need to be different, to have more, to get compliments…to know that you are EVERYTHING.
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Oh and…for the record…it’s much easier to change and get the things you want, once you love yourself.
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Join me for a 1:1 3 month External Validation Detox, to finally fall in love with yourself and stop caring what everyone else thinks.
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Link in the bio for more info.

Most of us give FAR too much weight to how what we do is going to look from the outside.
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And nowhere near enough to how we feel about it.
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Swipe for simple re-frames to re-focus on how YOU feel about what you're up to. And take the emphasis off everyone watching (because, who is really watching anyway?).

I NEED ZERO PROOF TO KNOW YOU'RE WORTHY
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How much proof do you need?
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How many compliments?
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How many accolades?
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How much 💸 in the bank?
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How much do you need to weigh (or not weigh)?
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If you need proof that you're smart/beautiful/lovable/capable/worthy/enough...then you are finding all your value outside yourself.
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Self-love doesn't come with caveats.
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It doesn't need proof.
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You're the best because you ARE.
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I don't need proof.
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And you shouldn't either.
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➡️ Pssst...if you're looking for proof you're worthy from outside yourself, I've got something you're going to want to check out.
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My new 1:1 3 month External Validation Detox programme. You'll learn to love yourself UNCONDITIONALLY and finally stop looking for the world/other people to give you the thumbs up.
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Check out the link in the bio or message me.

It’s not the most nuanced argument I’ve ever made.
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But, you’re the best. 😍
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So they're wrong.
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And it doesn't serve you to believe anything else.
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PS - I'm coming here with the BFF energy we all need.
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I'm not saying you need to be liked by everyone, you don't like everyone either.
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What I'm saying is...you don't need to agonise over why people don't like you. It's not for you to fix those things. Or make a list of things to change.

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Relying on other people to make you feel worthy, beautiful, interesting, good at your job, whatever it is, is the most miserable rollercoaster ride of your life.
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You're not only as amazing as your last compliment
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You're not only as interesting as your last unanswered text
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You're not only as successful as the last sale you made
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Stop letting other people - who don't have any skin in the game - dictate how you feel about yourself.
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You get to know that you're incredible, even if no one tells you so
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That you're very funny, even if no one laughs at your jokes
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That you're great at your job, even if a potential client hires someone else
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You're not here for other peoples approval. You're here to enjoy your own company and do the sh*t you want to do.

YOUR DATING DROUGHT RESCUE REMEDY IS LIVE!
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Spend the next 6 weeks focusing on making dating FUN for you
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We're not going to be deep-diving into your relationship woes
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We'll be doing one thing...
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Getting you from awkward, fizzling small talk to the 2nd date & beyond
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WITH PEOPLE YOU ACTUALLY WANT TO DATE
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Including:
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💥 The Self-Love Explosion
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Making sure you know you're a mutha'ucking catch & deserve to date people who tick ALL the boxes
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💥 Perfect Profiles
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Personalised profile audits so you're attracting the YOUR people
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💥 Swiping with Intention
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I know you're swiping right on people who may as well have "red flag" stamped on their forehead...that stops here, learn to swipe with your goals in mind
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💥 Not-Boring Small Talk
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No more being stuck in the small talk wasteland...learn to show off your own brand of amazing...& quickly transition to a date
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💥 1st Dates & Boundaries
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You'll be having super fun first dates - yup, even if they're through a phone screen - & learn to draw boundaries, without making the conversation feel too serious
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💥 Saying No & Handling Rejection
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You're not going to like everyone & they're not all going to like you
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Start ending things with integrity so you can walk away feeling like a badass
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& for the dates who didn't get the memo on being a decent human, you'll learn coping strategies for the ghosters & d1ckheads
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All of this, plus weekly live coaching...& community support
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It'll be a lot more fun than pestering your married friends with screenshots of your Whatsapp convos, that's for sure
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Link in the bio 💥