ADHD Insight Hub

08/09/2026

“I don’t understand myself. I really wanted to do it.”

I hear versions of this sentence surprisingly often in coaching.

A new project. A course. A job. A hobby. Even something someone genuinely cares about.

At first, there is energy, curiosity, ideas.

And then… nothing.

The interest disappears, and very quickly the explanation becomes personal:

I never finish anything.
I’m unreliable.
Why can't I just make myself do things?

But I’ve learned that one of the most useful questions we can ask in coaching isn't:

“How do we make you try harder?”

It's:

“What changed?”

Was the novelty gone?
Did it become repetitive?
Did the challenge disappear—or become overwhelming?
Did something that felt chosen start feeling like an obligation?

That conversation is often much more revealing than another productivity strategy.

I wrote about ADHD and interest some time ago, but increasingly I think understanding our relationship with interest is one of the most important pieces of understanding an ADHD brain.

🔗https://adhdinsighthub.com/adults/how-to-keep-someone-with-adhd-interested/

29/08/2026

Many of my AuDHD clients tell me the same thing:
“I crave the buzz…but then I need to escape”.
It’s not about being inconsistent. It’s about the nervous system changing state faster than we expect.
That’s the AuDHD stimulation paradox.
In my latest article, I explore why this happens, why it’s so misunderstood, and what actually helps.
Link in the comments👇

06/08/2026

One of the things I've learned through coaching neurodivergent women is that what looks like a midlife crisis is often something very different.

Many women tell me they suddenly feel lost, disconnected from themselves, or unsure who they are anymore.

But as we begin to explore their experiences, a different picture often emerges.

Years of adapting.
Years of meeting other people's expectations.
Years of not fully understanding their own neurodivergence.

What they're experiencing isn't simply a crisis. It's often the point where the old ways of coping stop working, and they begin asking a very important question:

"Who am I when I stop trying to be who everyone else expects me to be?"

I wrote more about this in my latest article because I think this experience deserves far more recognition than it currently gets.

I hope it helps some women feel understood—and perhaps a little less alone.

Explore the challenges of neurodivergent women facing a midlife identity crisis shaped by their unique neurological experiences.

31/07/2026

Everyone thinks you're coping.

You're hitting deadlines.
You're smiling in meetings.
You're producing good work.

So why does it feel like your entire working day is held together by stress, panic, and invisible effort?

Many successful professionals aren't struggling because they're lazy or incapable.

They're working twice as hard just to appear "normal."

I wrote about one of the most misunderstood experiences I see in coaching.

🔗Link in the comments

02/07/2026

For years, we've explained why neurodivergent people find everyday life exhausting through the lens of executive functioning.

That's certainly part of the picture.

But I think there's another layer we rarely talk about.

Many neurodivergent people don't just complete tasks - they spend much of the day translating the way their brain naturally thinks into systems designed around a different cognitive style.

Turning big-picture thinking into bullet points.

Turning natural rhythms into fixed schedules.

Turning creativity into measurable outputs.

After a while, it's not just the work that's exhausting.

It's the constant translation.

This idea became the starting point for my latest article, where I explore what I call translation fatigue - the hidden cognitive effort of navigating a world that often wasn't designed with neurodivergent minds in mind.

I'd love to know whether this resonates with your experience.

🔗Link to the article is in the first comment.

29/06/2026

Most people think anger starts with shouting.

It usually starts much earlier.

It starts when you're trying to stay patient...
while filtering out noise,
remembering ten things at once,
switching between tasks,
holding back frustration,
and pretending you're coping.

By the time someone says,
"Why are you overreacting?"

they're often seeing the final 5%.

Not the 95% that came before it.

This is one of the reasons anger can look different in people with ADHD. It isn't simply about having a "short temper." More often, it's the result of a brain that has been working overtime long before anyone notices.

Understanding that doesn't excuse hurtful behaviour.

But it does change the conversation from:
"What's wrong with you?"
to
"What pushed your nervous system beyond its capacity?"

Whether you're someone who experiences this, loves someone who does, or simply wants to understand emotional regulation better, I hope this article offers a different perspective.

Link in the comments.

29/06/2026

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17/06/2026

Have you ever spent 30 minutes preparing for a conversation that never happened?

Or replayed one from three years ago and finally come up with the perfect response?

Many neurodivergent people do this so often that they assume it's just anxiety or overthinking.

I'm not convinced.

After working with hundreds of neurodivergent adults, I think something deeper is often happening.

What if rehearsing conversations isn't a sign that you're broken?

What if it's your brain trying to protect you from being misunderstood?

I explore why so many of us have imaginary conversations in our heads, what they reveal about our experiences, and why they can be so exhausting.

👇 Article link in comments

09/06/2026

Many people think AuDHD masking is about hiding autistic or ADHD traits.

I think the bigger question is:

What happens when masking works?

When people like you.
Trust you.
See you as confident, capable, and socially skilled.

But underneath, you're no longer sure where adaptation ends and you begin.

The hidden cost of AuDHD masking isn't just exhaustion.

It's the gradual loss of connection with your own needs, preferences, and identity.

I've explored this in my latest article:

Socially Skilled but Internally Lost: The Hidden Cost of AuDHD Masking

🔗Link in the comments.

06/06/2026

"You seem fine."

For many high-functioning neurodivergent adults, those three words are not reassuring.

They're invalidating.

Because what people often see is:

✔ The career
✔ The qualifications
✔ The organised calendar
✔ The ability to cope

What they don't see is:

• The exhaustion behind the competence
• The constant self-monitoring
• The hours spent recovering after appearing "fine"
• The years of wondering why everything feels harder than it seems to be for everyone else

One of the most common experiences I hear from late-diagnosed ADHD and autistic adults isn't overt discrimination.

It's being repeatedly told that their struggles aren't real because they are successful.

The better you become at hiding your difficulties, the less likely people are to believe they exist.

And over time, many people start believing it themselves.

This article explores the hidden gaslighting experienced by high-functioning neurodivergent adults, why it happens, and the impact it can have on identity, self-trust, and burnout.

🔗Read the full article in comments

Have you ever been told, "But you seem fine" when you absolutely weren't?