Life Coaching with Paula Blake-Ottley

At some point in our life without realising it we’ve adapted the role of taking on all the responsibilities of our relationships & we are constantly in our masculine era.
Being the Queens that we are we’re doing a really good fu***ng job at it too. This s**t is messing up our wellbeing, energy system & entire self.

We disregard our Feminine Self & ignore our boundaries and walk around constantly saying “I’m Fine, it’s just how it is”

We resent our Husbands/boyfriends/partners
Years into your relationship & now you’re just fu***ng tired your entire femininity has been replaced by masculinity & is somehow your whole existence.

⚡️Queens NO WAY am I telling you to settle!!!!
Part of maturing & growth is knowing that a good relationship takes work & commitment, it takes effort, patience willingness & a whole lot of LOVE!

⚡️It’s time to have a brutal honest conversation with ur partner, explain in great depth how you’ve been feeling, what’s truly been on your mind, explain the tightness on your chest & what you’ve been holding on for so long.

Having this type of conversation could reveal childhood trauma that they haven’t been able to heal from which is blocking their ability to express themselves & love you the way you want to be loved.

⚡️Introduce them to the new layers of your ongoing healing, strength & sexy self who wants to regain femininity.
If your partner truly loves cares and values you they will listen & act immediately.

⚡️⚡️DM Me- let’s work together & build your confidence - No Fluff just grow ppl s**t

Stay Blessed Sexy & Hydrated ✌🏾

Hey Queens…looooordyy it’s been a while
So lemme say Hiiiii & welcome to a couple of new beautiful souls
Thank you and I appreciate all of you
Probably thinking who is this and what does she do again???
Well I’m a Lifecoach & I want to help others find their way in life and navigate through all overwhelming blessings and challenges.
Because shiiiit 2025 life is just lifing at times.

✨I’m a Mother of ✌🏾, A Wife (23 years of being Queen to my King)
An Empowered 42 yr old Woman & a whole crazy grown bitch. I love being happy and being at peace. It took me a while to get here but now that I am ..
I want to help others & create a safe environment without judgement
A space where you can share your feelings, stuff you’re going through and help you achieve & unlock a new level of happiness and confidence in yourself.
✨Regain power of your own life, identifying the dead weight that is holding you back from becoming the strong improved version that you were always meant to be.

✨I will help you identify your Big life Goal & together we will set & work on how to achieve smaller goals that will help you get there. We will set boundaries & shake off the comfort zone blanket & work on ways for you to challenge yourself.

✨DM me to find out more or to book your first 30min Discovery session
No fluff - just grown ppl s**t!✨

Stay Blessed Sexy & Hydrated ✌🏾

We’re 4 months in!
April is here
How them Goals looking that you’d set yourself since the beginning of year?
If you’re on track, keep going and keep pushing yourself.
I know some days are hard, lord knows I have them too but keep focusing it’s going to be so fu*$ing worth it!

If for whatever the reasons you fell off your journey or would like to start reaching your goals then that’s where I come in!

I’m here to help you be accountable for achieving your goals dreams and the life you want. Together we’ll identify your wants and desires and formulate a strategy to get you there.
I’ll create a safe environment where you can be your unique self.

It’s not too late to start over or create a new version of yourself. It’s your life - so let me help you live and enjoy it!

I thought that turning 40 would be the end of me I’m now 42 and I’m enjoying every single day- yes some days get dark and there can be setbacks but those are only temporary and I know how to get out of them. Let me show and help you too! There’s no shame in getting a little help.

⚡️DM me for a free 1-1 30min discovery call
Your first step to a confident version of yourself.

Stay Blessed Sexy & Hydrated ✌🏾

“Paula I’m just too old to start over!” I’ve heard this several times this week.
If it’s in work, love or friendship,
Queens & Kings you’re NEVER too old for anything that you want in Your life! You owe it to yourself to start over if you’re unhappy, unfulfilled, & not F%*$ing valued.

If you’re giving the workplace your all & they don’t appreciate the effort dedication & time you give & instead being taken advantage of then that’s your cue.
Of course we all have responsibilities & ppl that depend on you so I’m not saying be irresponsible but please know your worth & work on your escape plan.

I believe Relationships only work with real honest communication. If you voice your love language & your partner doesn’t want to cater to that then Honey it’s time! I’m not talking about material stuff, I know you’re working hard on getting them coins, No I mean being there, making time, believing in your dreams, holding you when feel like giving up, pouring Love & support into your soul. If you’re out here having to ask for a simple Hug, their time and affection then you know what to do….

Your age does not define who we are or limits us to what we can achieve.
This month I’ve celebrated turning 42
And I can honestly say this is probably the healthiest, happiest & most content I’ve been in my life. But trust when I say it’s not been easy and there’s still a few layers I need to peel back but I’m so grateful to be where I’m at today.

Be selfish & pour into You.

Apply for that new job - and be yourself in the interview- confident & tell them the type of boss mode package they’re getting with you.

Go to that Gym & start working on your mind & body like you say you’re going to do every Monday! Stop the procrastination

If you want people around you to treat you a certain way then YOU have to take control & start to treat yourself better.

Stop compromising to comfort others
Set boundaries & set the standards on how you want to be treated

Stay Blessed Sexy & Hydrated ✌🏾

It’s amazing how someone will call you “difficult” “She’s Changed” all because you have found Confidence in your soul & Gratitude in heart.

When your “Friend” can’t be happy for you over your small & big wins has no interest in your new journey, not cheering you on or encouraging you to peruse your big dreams…are they really?

Pay more attention to that “Friend” who feeds off of your problems with your partner, things not going well at work, you not making your big break -this time.
Those who feed of your unhappiness pretending to “be there for you”
But then things go well for you, you found new love or have managed to work through your current relationship and couldn’t be happier, things are going well at work you finally got that deserved promotion they don’t want to hear anything about that.

Same way they always call/msg you with all the drama some of it not even theirs, constantly bringing up old drama. All that Negativity they come and dump it on you.
Then something good happens in their lives & you’re the last to know not wanting to share that with you. But you find out & they throw in the old classic “ Ohhh did I not tell you”

Queens Take a step back & be mindful about certain people in your life & how they make you feel.
Words like Happy, Loved, No Judgement, Kind Honesty, Gratitude, Supportive,Pure, Peace should be what comes to mind when thinking of your true friend.

Stay Blessed Sexy & Hydrated ✌🏾

What in the 90 days of January was that?!? Apart from my Daughters birthday seeing her happy and growing into her fine young Queen self
It’s been rough AF!!

But wait what’s this Hellooo February, is it really you!!!
Let’s get straight to it ,waste no time & dominate the mood for this month
Let’s leave behind ppl overlooking our worth and how they refuse to see the true dedication commitment and value we bring each and every day.
Let’s dial all the way back on that s**t & instead pour all our efforts energy hard work love & dedication into our own good self.

Life is hard enough at times so then let’s not add to that by making ourselves uncomfortable to make others comfortable.
Let’s normalise saying No, because circumstances beyond our control have put us in that position.
Let’s normalise saying No without over explaining why.

Those bad days, month are in the past!
Regain focus of your life and the situation & try learn from them.
Be proud of yourself for staying strong & not giving up! With time we will be able to handle those better, by continuing to work on ourselves.

Now’s time to shine baby!!
Welcome only those who want to brighten our darkness & are happy for our growth.
Everyone else, respectfully, can F$%¥ Off

Good things are coming Queens & Kings but make sure put in the work; don’t just sit back waiting for the good lord to bless you -do your part- it’s for YOU

Show Gratitude
Have Patience
Trust the Process

Stay Blessed Sexy & Hydrated ✌🏾


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Well sweet Lord Mary and the baby
This year is not going as planed at all!
It’s been a bit of a s**t show from January 1st tbh. The devil is in full force trying to bring my blessed ass down - got me inna chokehold for real

So what am I to do?? Stop and give up right here and now with my newly set goals for 2025?
Shut it all down, sit back and say oh well they’re always next year and that’s where I’ll shine!!

No F$%&ing way! The Goal(s) are set for a reason. Let’s stay focused and committed.
Switch up the plan for the goal.
Stay connected, work on a new strategy, get back to it and be Consistent.

Don’t let nothing and no one knock you off your path for 2025! Stay on your journey and be positive with it.
Have your guard up that S**t just may go down from time to time so be ready & include that in your plan. So that when it happens you’re not overly surprised!

Positivity effort and dedication are key to your Goals. You’re doing this for You!!
Couple of bad weeks cannot & will not take over this brand new year.

Queens, Kings rewrite your strategy get back out there kick some ass and achieve your goals

Stay Blessed Sexy & Hydrated
✌🏾

#2025

If you’re looking to set and achieve your Goals this year then Confidence is crucial.

Stop constantly comparing yourself to others picking apart your body & mind every chance you get. The constant negative talk you give yourself is destroying any small progress you may have made.
Enough of that and let’s wrap that s**t up

My Queens be kind & love yourself
How do you expect others to love you if you don’t. Start showing up and love You
Building a true love relationship with yourself is power

For me my main Confidence killer was having issues with my weight for as long as I can remember. Constantly criticising myself and looking for faults I never hated myself but didn’t fully love myself either.
One day I got butt naked and stared at myself in the mirror for a long time - it was my emotional 1st step to a better me
I appreciated what my body allowed me to do & I felt gratitude I spoke positive words out loud to myself
Started to set boundaries & goals to get a grip on the mindless eating & drinking

For me I gained a big part of my Confidence by going to the gym. I was so much bigger than I am now and was nervous as hell
Initially I felt uncomfortable and I thought ppl are looking at me. They probably did but I thought so what well actually I thought F**k It!
I’m here for me and I’m working on myself
It has now become my happy place clears my mind and a big part of my daily routine And my change in body composition is a welcomed positive bonus.
Now now hold on ….!!!
I’m not saying everyone needs to get down the gym but YES exercise will benefit & help with your Confidence There’s no point spending all that money on SavageXFenty, Victoria’s Secret Skimms etc if you’re not feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin. These ain’t no magic knickers, but they can unlock and enhance your love for yourself
And you and other’s can then benefit from that😉 Buying new clothes alone won’t make you feel sexy if you don’t have Confidence inside.

Let me tell you when I was 38 the stress I put myself through that I’m so close to 40 and hadn’t reached where I wanted to in life scared me. I had a mental list of all the things I wanted and thought I had to accomplish by 40! As after that it would be “too late”

I had just gotten out of a toxic work environment into a new job where they actually cared about me as a person.
But it wasn’t enough- I craved a job that allowed me to help others- I knew that is my purpose.

Becoming a Life Coach at that time of my life meant I was “Just in time” to turning 40! So all is perfect- but nothing is as life will never be perfect and it will throw all it can at you at times.

I had to process my Father’s death who I didn’t have the best relationship with and watching My Mother the strongest person I know, dealing with her grief which ate at me to see and hear in her voice daily!

So here I was ignoring my feeling and pain and continued pouring in everyone else’s cups, my friends, family and clients and not looking after myself. How could I knowing people needed my help right?

We need to take a step back from the
Self-Sabotaging and realise that this is not our best version to present to others- s**t neither ourselves!
We need to realise that it’s time to focus on us and that the initial goal before any other goal is to look after ourselves, love ourselves, be kind to ourselves and work on ourselves!

I’m nowhere near of being perfect but fu***ng hell am I trying hardest to be my own version of!!!
I’m being unapologetically Self-ish and showing up for myself. Small consistent steps are transforming my life.

And I want to help you do the same. Do not let the pressure of New Year - New Me or the portrayal of a “perfect Life” on Socials get into your head.

If you’re reading this it’s not too late!
This is your sign to start and Invest in your Transformation and I want to Help you!
Together we’ll work on your Confidence and Goals to get you what you want from Life.

DM me so we can get started ✌🏾

Sometimes we find it difficult to get up and go with the plans we’ve been making for days, weeks months or even years?
It should be so easy!? “I know exactly what I want but it just feels difficult for me to do it!”

Often we don’t recognise that we have some smaller things to work on before we can move to our next goal.
We need to learn to challenge ourselves and hold ourselves accountable!

What are your plans & goals for your tomorrow?
Let me help you identify your own strengths and use that power to create the changes you seek.

ITS TIME TO GROW