Parenting doesn't have to be hard. It just has to be real. My Mid-Crisis L!FE on YouTube! And I realised, something about how we learn to parent needed to change.
As I parent of 2 boys since the age of 19, and a social worker for over a decade, I have seen so many parents struggle with knowing how to do parent "the right way". Having no clear understanding of who they are as a parent and where exactly their parenting stance comes from. Renegade Parenting was born out of the simple knowledge that your children can only ever be as emotionally intelligent as y
ou are. Which means, you can only teach them to understand themselves to the extent that you have begun to understand you. But how? It's about generating an awareness of how you have come to be, and all the things that influence your thoughts, feelings and actions. How your identity and your parenting identity has been formed. As it is only through knowing these things that we can begin to parent in a way that is real, from the heart, and not based on superficial tips and tricks that don't feel right for you, your children or your family. Renegade Parenting was created for parents, not children. It is here to serve as a community to support you to see that your child’s behaviour is only but a mirror of who you are right now. To help you to find the alternative. The real and authentic you. So that you can enjoy parenting your kids. With some self-awareness and the support of other Renegade Parents, you too can learn how to communicate and have more harmony at home with your child. As you become more harmonious with yourself. With workshops, talks, webinars, this community, as well as our specialist Renegade Parenting Programme running every 3 months, there is a wealth of insights and tools available to you to support in your growth as a parent. Feel free to explore our page. And join us for our free workshops and our online Renegade Parenting Programme. Send us a DM with any questions. Or book in a consultation to talk directly with me and find out more. What is a renegade? A renegade is someone outside of the system. Someone who doesn't bow to, become slave to or agree with conventionality. Who won't wear the uniform and won't toe the line. I think more and more the world is waking up to the realisation that the system is broken. That it doesn't necessarily work if you just put your head down and play your part. That if you're a good little worker bee you may finally be rewarded for your contributions. We've seen too many times now that this doesn't work. And I think that parenting is a lot like that. We think that if we keep doing the things we are told, the things that all the good parenting manuals say to do, then eventually it will pay off. Our children will respect us, listen to us, love us and behave how we want them to. So why is it that this isn't it working? It is likely that because what we do is usually highly influenced by our parents, our families, our culture and our society. We are not being ourselves when it comes to being a parent. We are listening to the rules of society, not our own values. We are buying into a systems approach that doesn't see us or our children as unique individuals. So because we never learn how to care for ourselves as a unique individuals, we lose our true sense of self and become overly influenced by whatever our parents didn't do enough of or did way too much of when we were little. And inevitably, because we're never taught what we needed to do to 'fix it', we end up doing the exact same thing to our kids. What's more, as usually we parent based off of how we were parented, and all the beliefs and ideals that come from your family, your culture and your society, even if you think you're unconventional, it's easy to find yourself lost and confused about how to deal with things. Or tired and frustrated about how you keep on dealing with things! It’s hard to feel confident in knowing what you should do and who you should be as a parent. Because ultimately, that confidence comes from knowing yourself. But if we can figure out who we are amongst all of this. The values we genuinely hold. And where maybe we've become a little conditioned. Then we can begin to parent from a more authentic space. Rather than the space we think we should be in. The parent we think we should be. The childhood we think we should provide. The discipline we think we should implement. Renegade Parenting helps you to find this. Helps you to re-remember who you are at your core so you can parent your children in a sensitive and responsive manner. Awareness is key but it's not always easy to find. Renegade Parenting can help you to do this in a way that ensures you are supported, loved, guided and empowered.
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31/10/2025
We’ve been taught that “love and light” means smiling through the chaos — keeping it positive, keeping it pretty.
But that’s toxic positivity.
Real love, real light, asks you to walk into the dark. To sit with the ache, the anger, the truth you’d rather skip over.
You can be grateful and grieving. Peaceful and pi**ed off. Joyful and afraid. They can all coexist.
🦋 What two feelings have you been trying to separate that might actually belong together?
26/10/2025
Accountability isn’t punishment — it’s the courage to feel what you’ve been avoiding.
This week’s Chrysalis Tools guides you through the layers beneath accountability — the tension, the defences, and the feelings that make us resist owning our truth.
You don’t have to fix it all. Just start by feeling it safely💭
20/10/2025
Grief doesn’t end, it transforms.
This week, we remembered that the people we lose don’t disappear. They become part of our reflection.
Their energy lives through every version of us they helped shape — the way we love, create, or tell the truth.
Remembrance is about continuing.
19/10/2025
Grief is never simple.
Sometimes it’s not even the loss itself that breaks you — it’s the circumstances around it. The family dynamics. The old wounds. The people who made you unsafe, suddenly showing up in the same space where you’re meant to say goodbye.
This week’s practice was for anyone who wants to honour someone they’ve lost, but can’t do it through the usual rituals.
It guides you to create your own moment of remembrance — to meet that person again, feel what they left you, and carry their gift forward.
Grief doesn’t always need a graveside.
Sometimes it just needs stillness, honesty, and a moment to remember what they gave you that still lives on in you.
✨ What part of someone you’ve lost still shows up in your life today?
18/10/2025
We think grief means the love stopped — but it’s the opposite.
Grief is just the body trying to metabolise love with nowhere left to go.
The energy of love doesn’t end. It moves, it transforms, it ripples through us.
16/10/2025
It’s not always one big thing that breaks you, it’s usually the slow drip of small stresses — the daily “I’ll deal with it later,” the quiet self-sacrifice, the moments you swallow frustration because “there’s no time.”
Until suddenly, the charger breaks, or the fridge won’t fit, or the door locks behind you… and you sob against the wall because it’s all just too much. That’s emotional overload — not weakness, but the body finally saying enough.
Healing isn’t about pretending you’re fine; it’s about learning to listen before your body screams.
🤍 Save this one for the days everything feels heavy.
11/10/2025
Ever have one of those weeks where everything goes wrong?
The car breaks down, the charger fails, you spill your coffee — and your brain whispers, “that’s what you get.”
That’s the voice of self-pity quietly shaping your reality. This week’s reflection is about noticing that whisper — and choosing something softer. Because gratitude isn’t about pretending it’s fine; it’s about remembering that even when it’s not, you’re still held.
Drop yours in the comments 👇
What’s one thing that’s been testing you — and one thing you’re still grateful for right now?
10/10/2025
When life feels unfair or heavy, we usually try to push gratitude.
This practice does the opposite — it slows you down enough to hear the story your mind is quietly writing underneath the chaos.
💭 Ask yourself:
What sentence is my inner narrator writing right now?
What emotion does it carry — shame, guilt, anger, helplessness?
And what need is really sitting beneath it?
Because when you answer the need instead of the narrator, that’s when real emotional resilience begins.
You stop forcing gratitude — and let it rise naturally from truth.
06/10/2025
Gratitude doesn’t come easily in those moments.
When your body’s in fight-or-flight, it’s scanning for danger, not blessings. But that’s exactly when gratitude works its magic - it shifts the body from survival to trust.
It’s not about pretending things are fine, it’s reminding yourself that even in pain, something is still working.
Gratitude isn’t a bypass, it’s a bridge back to yourself. Watch this week’s Monday Mindset to watch the full breakdown - link in bio!
05/10/2025
They say moving house is one of the three most stressful things you can do…
And honestly? They’re not lying.
6 car loads, 12 trips across London, half a sofa, no fridge, a broken boiler, and enough DIY plumbing to qualify for a trade.
By day eleven, I was running on fumes but also, gratitude. Because even when it feels like everything’s going wrong, it’s not everything.
There’s still a roof over my head, a son who helps, and the strength to keep going.
What are you grateful for this week — even in the chaos?
04/10/2025
This week we talked about emotional charge - how sometimes the “big things” barely touch us, but the small stuff? That’s what sets us off.
It’s not really about the event itself, it’s the label, the story, the backlog of associations we attach to it.
Where in your life do you notice you react more to the little things than the big ones? And what label might be fuelling that?
Watch this week’s videos on the link in bio!
03/10/2025
Ever notice how your mind, your heart, and your body don’t always agree?
This week’s practice was all about the Emotional Intelligence Process, moving from the stories in your head, into compassion in your heart, and finally into release in the body.
When we can trace where we get “stuck” — overthinking, judging, or holding onto pain — we can begin to soften it. Awareness is the first shift.
Try the self-screening tool and notice: are you more in your head, your heart, or your body today?
31/10/2025
16/10/2025