Adularia Therapies and Consultancy

Artfully Vague Communication

Sometimes communication isn’t an outright lie. Instead, someone communicates only part of what they know, while keeping the wider context to themselves.

That can be completely appropriate when the information is genuinely private and doesn’t affect anyone else.

But when information is deliberately withheld because revealing it could change another person’s decision, participation, responsibility or willingness to help, the situation becomes very different.

Artfully vague communication can leave people feeling confused, insecure and uncertain because they know there is something they haven’t been told, but they don’t know what it is.

The important distinction is between protecting your privacy and controlling someone else’s choices through incomplete information.

You don’t owe everyone every detail of your life.

But when other people are being asked to participate, contribute, make decisions or carry consequences, they deserve enough information to make an informed choice.

The question isn’t simply:

“Did I technically tell the truth?”

It is:

“Did I communicate honestly enough for the other person to understand what they were actually agreeing to?”

Because sometimes what is left unsaid can be just as influential as what is said.

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WHERE AM I NOW?

RELEASING THE EXPECTATION & CHOOSING OUR RESPONSE

Over the past seven days, we’ve explored expectations from different perspectives.

What we expect.

What we never say.

How we can expect others to be like us.

Where expectation becomes boundary.

How expectation can become disappointment.

Why communicating what we need matters.

And now, the final question:

What happens when we accept that we cannot control whether another person meets our expectations?

Releasing an expectation doesn’t mean lowering our standards.

It doesn’t mean accepting disrespect, dishonesty, dysfunction or behaviour that compromises our values.

Sometimes it means accepting the reality that another person may not change.

That a relationship may not become what we imagined.

That a friendship may not be mutual.

That continuing to participate in a particular dynamic may be costing us more than we are willing to give.

And this is where self-accountability becomes important.

We cannot control another person’s choices.

But we can take responsibility for our own.

Our boundaries.

Our integrity.

Our participation.

Our response.

Our decision to stay, step back, renegotiate, change the relationship or walk away.

Sometimes the most difficult part isn’t knowing what we want.

It’s accepting that we may not get it from the person we wanted it from.

And sometimes the most powerful response isn’t to try harder to make someone change.

It’s to stop trying to control the outcome and choose what is right for us.

Releasing the expectation doesn’t mean giving up.

It means accepting reality and choosing our response.

And perhaps that is the real answer to:

WHERE AM I NOW?

Not necessarily where I expected to be.

But now I can see where I actually am.

And from there, I can choose where I go next.