16/04/2026
Reflections on what 15+ years working in SEND have taught me! š§”
I left mainstream secondary teaching in 2008, I went from mainly teaching GCSE and A level Philosophy in one of the biggest secondary schools in the UK, to having a KS3 class full time in a small SEND school, teaching.a mainly age adapted Primary curriculum, to children working on P scales to NC 2. (I still miss the old NC levels, when everyone knew exactly where a child was working at and what they needed to move on!).
It was a school for children with MLD (Moderate Learning Difficulties), and we had a lot of children with ābehaviourā challenges. (BESD was a category of need then and the precursor to SEMH). There was a āBehaviour Managerā, his background was in secure units for children, and he was feared by staff and students . Behaviour management consisted of threatening a child with going to see Mr X and his team and a lot of the time it worked, there was lots of restraints by a heavy handed, mainly male team.
This is where I learned that to protect my class, I had to keep them regulated, when I moved to Lead for KS4 and had a lot of children with behaviour support needs, mainly boys, it became even more important. I learned to look for small signs that they were struggling to cope, and I used lots of techniques to support them and keep them from becoming dysregulated and having to go to Mr X. We had walky-talkies, and a buzz on them had the behaviour team there in a flash! They also patrolled the school, looking and listening for signs of dysregulation, that they would āmanageā.
Thankfully, I left that school after 3 years, and moved to an amazing special school for the next 6 years, it embodied belonging, every staff member and every child was nurtured and truly mattered! It was OFSTED outstanding 3 times in a row. This is where I was taught how to support children to thrive and not just survive in an atmosphere of āFearā.
My first training that I delivered to NQTs, when I was Lead for SEND Outreach on secondment in 2016 for a Teaching School Alliance as an SLE in SEND, was mainly about knowing your children well, and noticing the small things, because they are the big things, have as many sensory rich, experiential, and fun learning experiences as possible.
I used to facilitate a SENDCo Network in Derby for the teaching school and delivered lots of SEND training on all different aspects of SEND but I still fell back on: know your kids, make them feel as at ease as possible, make sure they know you like them, and try to make their lives as lovely as possible while in your care!
As a LA Behaviour Advisor to schools, again my main advice could be summed up in the following; Be Kind and Be Curious, get to know the children, even though my report for the school might be 6-7 pages long! š
Being kind and being curious, costs nothing but time and energy! But it is much easier when your own nervous system, feels cared for, nurtured and valued. As my favourite and beloved headteacher used to say āif the staff are happy, then the kids are happyā. š§”