Equimotional Performance Coaching

Never give up on something that makes your soul feel alive. ❤️

I think sometimes we assume that if something is meant for us, it should be easy.

That if we’re good at it, we won’t struggle.
If we’re on the right path, we won’t doubt ourselves.
And if we truly love it, we’ll always feel motivated.

But I don’t think that’s how it works.

Sometimes the things we love the most are also the things that challenge us the most.

Especially with horses. 🐴❤️

There will be days when you question everything.
Days when your confidence disappears.
Days when everyone else seems to be progressing while you feel like you're standing still.

There will be setbacks, rubbish rides, unexpected vet bills, cancelled plans, disappointments and moments where you genuinely wonder why you put yourself through it. 🤣

But then there are those moments.

The ride where everything clicks.
The little breakthrough nobody else would even notice.
The quiet moment in the stable.
The horse who walks across the field because they’ve spotted you.
The feeling that reminds you exactly why you started.

And suddenly you remember…

Oh yeah. This is why I do it.

Success doesn't have to mean winning.

Sometimes success is simply continuing to show up for something you love, even when the journey looks completely different to the one you imagined.

So if it still brings you joy…

If it still gives you that little spark…

If somewhere underneath the frustration, doubt and occasional desire to sell everything and take up a cheaper hobby 🤣🤣🤣 you still absolutely love it…

Keep going. ❤️

You don't have to get there quickly.

You just have to keep finding your way back to the things that make you feel most like you. 🙏🐴❤️

Energy from this week that I feel like I HAVE to share 🤣🤣

And I swear it’s the moon… 🌙
She’s absolutely on one at the moment. 🤣

But seriously…

I really wish humans could just support other humans.

No jealousy.
No passive aggression.
No actual aggression.
No secretly hoping someone fails because their success makes you question your own.

Just… support. 🙏

Being able to look at someone doing well and think, “Good for you. I hope it keeps getting better.”

Because having to knock somebody else down to build yourself up just isn’t sustainable.

It takes SO much energy.

Watching what everyone else is doing.
Comparing.
Competing.
Criticising.
Trying to prove something.

Imagine what you could do with all that energy if you poured it back into your own life instead.

Someone else succeeding doesn’t mean you’re failing.

Someone else getting an opportunity doesn’t mean there are fewer opportunities for you.

Someone else being happy doesn’t take anything away from your happiness.

So focus on you. ❤️

Wish people well.
Clap when they win.
Keep working towards whatever it is you want.

And if you can’t clap for them yet… maybe just quietly keep walking your own path. 🤣🙏

There really is enough room for all of us to do well.

Less comparison.
Less competition.
Less weird energy.

More “good for you” and then getting on with our own bloody lives. 🤣🙏🌙

Today, I give myself permission to let go of the things I cannot control. ❤️

Sounds simple, doesn't it?

But for some of us, letting go is really bloody hard.

We replay conversations.
We try to predict outcomes.
We worry about what someone else thinks.
We wonder whether we should have done more, said less, tried harder.
We try to fix things that were never ours to fix.

Sometimes control feels like safety.

Our brains convince us that if we think about something for long enough, analyse it from every possible angle and prepare for every possible outcome… somehow we can protect ourselves.

But we can't control everything.

We can't control other people's opinions.
We can't control how someone chooses to behave.
We can't control the past.
We can't control every outcome.
We can't control whether life occasionally throws an enormous pile of 💩 directly into our carefully made plans. 🤣

What we can control is where we put our energy.

We can choose our boundaries.
Our response.
Our next step.
How kindly we speak to ourselves.
When we need to rest.
When we need to walk away.

And sometimes letting go isn't one big, peaceful, spiritual moment where you suddenly feel completely free. ✨

Sometimes it's simply noticing yourself picking the worry back up for the 47th time and gently saying...

"Nope. Still not mine to control."

And putting it back down again. ❤️

Maybe that's enough for today.

What are you giving yourself permission to put down? 👇

It officially rained last night. 🌧️🙌

Well done to every single one of you who joined hands, performed the slightly questionable rain dance and sent desperate thoughts towards the sky…

IT WORKED. 🤣🤣🤣

And this morning? 15 degrees. FIFTEEN. A beautiful little breeze. No sweating while mucking out. No wondering whether it's socially acceptable to stand in the supermarket freezer aisle for 45 minutes.

It feels almost…

..in a very quiet voice so Mother Nature doesn't hear us...

🍂 autumnal. 🍂

I said it quietly. Nobody panic. 🤫🤣

Because I'm absolutely NOT wishing summer away. I'm just appreciating being able to move without immediately becoming a sweaty, angry puddle. 🤣

The fields have had a drink.
The horses have had a break from the relentless heat.
We've had a break from the relentless heat.

And somewhere, Mother Nature is probably watching us thinking:

"You lot are NEVER bloody happy." 🤣🤣🤣

Happy Wednesday, you gorgeous lot. Enjoy the breeze while it lasts. 🌧️🍂🐴❤️

🥲 And just like that… our Equimotional training for this year is DONE! 🥲🐴❤️

Honestly, where did those 10 weeks go?!

Another absolutely amazing cohort of gorgeous humans have completed their training ... all bringing their own experiences, ideas, personalities and passion, but with one really important thing in common…

They want to help people. ❤️

And that's what Equimotional has always been about.

It's not just about horses.
It's not just about learning techniques or filling a toolbox with activities.

It's about understanding people.
Understanding emotions.
Understanding behaviour.
Understanding the nervous system.
And learning how we can work alongside these incredible animals to create spaces where people can feel safe enough to explore, grow and sometimes simply be.

Watching everyone's confidence grow over the 10 weeks is one of my favourite parts of running this training.

From those first slightly nervous introductions to the conversations, reflections, lightbulb moments and connections that happen along the way. 🥹

I'm genuinely going to miss our weekly evenings together!

But this isn't really the end…

It's another group joining our ever-growing 🐴❤️🌎

And I cannot wait to see where they take it.

Our next Equimotional training begins in March and we're now taking sign-ups.

If you've been watching from the sidelines thinking…

"I'd LOVE to do that..."

Maybe March is your time. ❤️

📧 For information or to sign up, email:
[email protected]

Here's to more gorgeous humans helping other humans… with a little help from some very special horses. 🐴❤️

Welcome to the Equimotional Army, Class of 2026. 🥹🙌

Be an encourager. ❤️

The world has plenty of critics already.

Plenty of people ready to tell you why something won't work.
Why you're doing it wrong.
Why they wouldn't do it that way.
Why you're not ready, good enough, experienced enough, talented enough... enough.

We don't need more of that.

We need more people who say:

“Go on, give it a go.”
“I'm proud of you.”
“I believe in you.”
“You might surprise yourself.”
“And if it all goes horribly wrong, I'll still be here.”

Especially in the horse world.

Because horses are hard enough without feeling like we're constantly being watched, judged and compared.

Sometimes someone doesn't need advice.
They don't need you to tell them what you would have done.

They just need someone standing at the side of the arena, metaphorically or literally, saying...

“You've got this.” ❤️

And here's the important bit...

Encouraging someone else doesn't take anything away from you.

Someone else's win isn't your loss.
Someone else's confidence doesn't diminish yours.
Someone else's moment in the sunshine doesn't put you in the shade.

So clap loudly.
Celebrate people.
Tell them when they're doing well.
Remind them how far they've come when they've forgotten.

Be the person who makes someone feel a little braver after they've spoken to you.

Because the world really does have plenty of critics already.

Let's be the encouragers. 🐴❤️

“If you are riding a horse you love, you have already won.”

Because sometimes we get so caught up in the results.

The rosettes.
The scores.
The qualifications.
Who beat us.
Who the judge preferred.
What went wrong.
What we should have done better.

And somewhere amongst all of that, we can forget the most important bit…

We get to do this.

We get to climb aboard an animal we adore.
We get to feel those ears underneath us.
We get to learn their quirks, earn their trust and build a partnership that can't be measured by a percentage or the colour of a rosette.

Of course it's okay to want to win.
It's okay to have goals.
It's okay to be disappointed when something you've worked bloody hard for doesn't go your way.

Those feelings don't make you ungrateful.

But perhaps the biggest win was never the placing anyway.

Maybe it's looking down between those ears and thinking…

Bloody hell, I love you.

Because one day, the competitions will be memories. The rosettes will gather dust. The results won't feel nearly as important as they once did.

But you'll remember them.

The horse who carried you through a chapter of your life.
The horse who taught you things about yourself that no human ever could.
The horse who made you laugh, cry, swear, dream and keep going. 🤣❤️

So chase the goals. Enter the classes. Want the rosette. Celebrate the wins and absolutely allow yourself to feel the disappointments.

But never forget…

If you're lucky enough to be riding a horse you truly love...

you've already got the best prize. 🐴❤️

My weather app says RAIN TONIGHT 🌧️👀

AND rain on FOUR DAYS this week.

Can I believe it though? 🤔🤣

Because quite frankly, me and the weather app have got trust issues at this point.

We've been promised rain before.
I've watched the little rain clouds appear on the forecast… 🌧️🌧️🌧️
I've got excited.
I've told the fields.
I've told the horses.
I've practically announced it to the entire population of Kent…

And then…

NOTHING. 🤣🤣🤣

The clouds split.
The rain disappears.

So this time I'm remaining calm.

I'm not getting excited.

I'm definitely not repeatedly refreshing the weather app.

And I absolutely haven't already started imagining lovely green grass growing again. 👀🌱🤣

But FOUR DAYS?!

Surely they can't be wrong about ALL of them?! 🤣🤣🤣

Come on Mother Nature… we don't need anything dramatic. No flooding, no biblical storms, no chaos.

Just some lovely, steady, boring, FIELD-SOAKING RAIN. 🌧️🌱🐴

Anyone else got rain showing this week?!

(And yes I am hiding in the back of the horse box to get some time out 🤣🤣)

Current state of affairs… 🤣🤣🤣

Cleaning out the back of the horsebox and apparently I have reached that very special stage of horse-show preparation where you think:

“WHY do I own all this sh*t?!” 🤣🤣🤣

Everything has been dragged out.
Everything is covered in hay.
There are things here I don't even remember buying.
Things I've been looking for for approximately 6 months.
And approximately 847 black bags that all look exactly the same but apparently contain VERY different things. 🤣

The sensible reason for doing this is that the back of the box desperately needed a proper sort out.

The actual reason?

I'M PACKING FOR CHAMPS. 🤣🤣🤣

Which would be completely reasonable…

Except I'm about A MONTH EARLY. 😂

But apparently my brain has decided that Champs is NOW and we must PREPARE IMMEDIATELY.

So here I am.

One minute clearing out rubbish, the next thinking…

“Oooooh, I'll put that there ready for Champs.”

“This can stay in the box because I'll need it for Champs.”

“Better start a Champs pile.”

🤣🤣🤣🤣

By the time we actually leave I'll either be the most organised person in the history of horse showing…

Or I'll have packed everything so early that I can't remember where I've put ANYTHING. 🤣🤣

Anyone else ridiculously early for things they're excited about… while simultaneously leaving normal everyday tasks until approximately 4 minutes before they need doing?! 👀😂🐴

I do have a few of these bad boys left if anyone would like...please pm 🥰