17/08/2026
Just moved my sofa to hoover behind and this whopper was on the back of the chair, did I flinch, scream, run out of the house - nope!
And this got me thinking about something I've been talking alot about over summer with new and existing 1-2-1's: OVERLAYS, now you're confused, let me explain.
When we are born we have no story, just a name infact when you look at the character traits of a young child they ARE pure Growth Mindset in action!
🧠embracing challenge
🧠deliberate practice again, and again, and again
🧠find humour, especially when it comes to themselves
🧠no self judgement or judgement of others
🧠resilience - the world would be a very different place if we stopped learning to walk after 2 attempts.
🧠exploring, being curious, asking questions why? why? why?
Then the overlays are added layer by layer:
🕷I am this culture that culture
🕷I'm this nationality
🕷I'm supposed to act this way
🕷Ooooh I didn't like that, I'm not doing that again
🕷You're good at that / not good at that
🕷Why can't you be more like.....
🕷What if....??
🕷Labels are given, you're a shy person, angry person, anxious, clever, a natural, sporty, a maths person.
This impacts our perception of ourselves and the world in which we live, so much so by the age of 10 we're 80% fixed mindset... I know bonkers isn't it!
So why the spider? Because I wonder how many of you out there have an overlay linked to a fear of spiders?
Where did that overlay come from? A book you read, a YouTube Video, a film you watched (that Harry Potter scene in the woods 😲), a sister, brother, parent who hates spiders, stories you've heard?
Understanding your overlays is what I'm about delving into the fixed mindset that creates fear, avoidance, worry, judgement, anxiety. Getting to the root cause and any overlays that are not serving you it's about you taking back control as opposed to your thoughts re-running the programme. Some of the conversations have been really interesting lately.
It's time for you to find your INNER BABY we've all got one, the overlays have just got in the way.