Michelle Panning

We are all going to experience different seasons.

Some seasons are hustle mode, some are chill TF out and rest mode. I personally am in the latter.

Don’t chastise yourself for the season you’re currently in, but DO honour it.

I did the hustle for 8 staright years to the point where my body physically gave out and I ended up in hospital.

I’m spilling all the details in my latest (and LAST) podcast episode. 🥲

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It’s the end of an era 🥲

I made a massive announcement in this weeks episode… one that I’m STILL not sure was the right move.

All I know is that I have to honour myself and the season I’m in.

If you’re like wtffff is going on?! then you need to listen to this weeks episode.

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Ep 245 is where we are getting down, dirty and fkn honest.

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Ep 245 of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast is now online!

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If your pain has become your identity, healing will feel like a threat.

Because who are you without the story.. without the:
— “I’m anxious attached”
— “this is just my pattern”
— the explanation for why it hasn’t worked yet?

As long as your wounds are the reason…you don’t have to fully own your choices.

But the healed version of you? She doesn’t get to hide behind that.

No more excuses, just you and what you choose.

This episode will call you out in the best way ❤️‍🔥

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You don’t need more awareness, you need to actually f*cking change.
Sorry not sorry for the reality check 😏

Understanding your wound is not closing it.
Naming your pattern is not ending it.

And knowing exactly why you do what you do… while still doing it? That’s not healing…

There’s a version of you that’s more comfortable being “in healing” than being fully responsible for what comes next.

Because as long as the wound is open… it explains everything.

This episode is your wake-up call if you’ve been doing the work but still stuck in the same patterns.

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Your partner isn’t the problem… It’s what they activate in you.

The one who’s “too needy”? That’s the part of you you’ve judged, suppressed, and decided is unacceptable.

The one who’s “too available”? That’s triggering the belief that your own needs are too much.

And the one who feels… “boring”? Yeah, that one stings.
Because your partner isn’t actually boring… They just don’t activate your nervous system the way chaos does.

If you’ve spent years equating anxiety with love…of course calm, consistent energy feels like nothing.

But read that again… The absence of drama is not the absence of love, it’s the presence of safety.

And safety feels unfamiliar when your system is wired for intensity. So what do you do?
You call them boring, lost interest and go back to what feels like chemistry (aka emotional rollercoaster).
And the cycle continues.

This episode is a wake-up call if you’re ready to stop rejecting the very thing you say you want.

Because secure love doesn’t feel like chaos, it feels like peace.
And if that feels uncomfortable… that’s your work.

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You don’t have “high standards” … You’ve built a f*cking fortress and now you’re calling it self-respect.

There’s a difference.

Real standards, the ones rooted in self-worth, don’t make you closed off.

They make you more open.

Because when you actually trust yourself…
You don’t need to eliminate every possible risk before it begins.
You know you’ll be okay if it doesn’t work out.

But when your “standards” are actually fear?
You’ll find something wrong every. single. time.
Like…. He was too eager or said one weird thing or the vibe was “off”
And just like that… you’re out.
Not because he wasn’t it, but because letting him get closer felt unsafe.

This is the part no one wants to admit…You’re not just filtering for compatibility, you’re filtering for protection.

This episode breaks down the difference between discernment and defence and why confusing the two is keeping you stuck in the same dating patterns 🔥

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