27/08/2026
🪞 Before you decide that “all the good men are taken” or “women are impossible"...
Get the MOP out.
No, not because your dating life needs a spring clean.
Although, if you keep stepping into the same puddle and blaming the weather, we should probably talk 😏
I’m talking about your MOP:
The Mirror Of Patterns 🪞
Relationships are remarkably good mirrors.
Annoyingly good, actually.
You can change cities, change dating apps, change hairstyles, change your “type”, swear you’re never doing THAT again…
Then seven and a half months later you’re sitting opposite a completely different human being having a suspiciously familiar argument.
Different face.
Different name.
Same bloody movie.
At some point, it becomes worth asking a slightly more interesting question than:
“What is wrong with these people?”
Let's try:
“What keeps happening around me?”
That does not mean everything somebody else does is your fault.
If someone lies, cheats, manipulates or behaves badly, that belongs to them.
But if you repeatedly find yourself dating people you cannot trust…
If every woman eventually starts micromanaging you…
If every man you choose becomes emotionally unavailable…
If you keep becoming the rescuer, the pleaser, the chaser, the parent, the disappearing act…
There may be something in the mirror worth looking at.
This is where it gets rather Bond-like.
The sophisticated move isn’t pretending you don’t have patterns. We all do, by the way.
It’s being able to look directly at the evidence without panicking, blaming half the human race or dramatically moving to a Monastery.
You look.
You notice.
You get curious.
“Interesting. I seem to keep ending up here.”
That little moment of self-awareness can change everything.
Because the mirror is not there to imprison you.
It’s there to show you the operating system you’ve been running.
Then comes the really juicy part.
You eventually have to learn how to see through the mirror.
That’s what I wanted this image to capture.
On one side, people are still wrestling with the reflection.
Same attractions.
Same defences.
Same arguments.
Same relationship wearing a new outfit.
On the other side is an entirely different landscape.
People in relationships.
People happily single.
People flirting.
People loving.
People choosing differently.
Nobody has graduated into Perfect Human Land.
They’ve simply become more capable of recognising what they’re doing while they’re doing it.
That changes what becomes possible.
So when someone asks:
“Where are all the conscious men?”
or
“Where are all the emotionally available women?”
Part of my answer is:
Some of them are already over here.
Come through the mirror.
We’ve kept you a seat 😎
The mirror is diagnostic.
It is not destiny.
Gentlemen, there is another reason I’m particularly interested in this right now.
Your relationship patterns do not politely wait outside the bedroom while you take your trousers off.
They come in with you.
Your confidence comes in.
Your insecurity comes in.
Your relationship with desire comes in.
Your ability to listen, lead, receive, attune and stay present comes in.
The bedroom has an inconvenient habit of removing the dinner jacket from patterns we can hide quite successfully everywhere else.
Which is exactly where we’re going this Sunday 🔥
Secrets of Bedroom Mastery For Men
📅 Sunday • 30 August 2026
🕖 10am PT • 12pm CT • 1pm ET • 6pm BST (London) • 7pm CEST (Central Europe)
If you’re a man who wants to understand what you’re actually bringing into intimacy, rather than simply collecting more techniques…
Hit the comments below for the link to your free VIP Golden Pass.
Ryan,
The Soul Mechanic ✨
The Attraxion Playhouse
