05/09/2024
Thank you Tanya for creating this very important post and bringing awareness to this sad but very real fact 🙏
Posted • .your.heart.here ✨Your life matters more than you can comprehend in this moment✨
Thoughts of su***de are not simply “I want to die” and in fact, they may want to live but want to escape feeling the way they do.
For people who wanted kids and can’t have them thoughts can look like:
💔There is no future I want to live in. I can’t imagine a life without children.
💔I am in such agony and I can’t bear to feel this way any longer.
💔No one understands me or my pain and I’ve never felt so alone.
💔My life is worthless and has no meaning. What’s the point in going on.
💔No one will care about me when I’m older I might as well end it now.
💔I have let down my partner and they are better off without me.
None of these things are true and you have a full life to live on the other side of grief. Your life is profoundly important🤍
Thoughts of su***de are the result of overwhelming emotional pain and/or mental health struggles. Part of why involuntary childlessness contributes to such pain is the disenfranchised nature of the grief and a sense of hopelessness.
If you identify with this please know there is help and it won’t always be this way. One of the reasons there are few voices about this is because people feel better and move on, it no longer dominates their experience. Reach out for support from someone who understands the specific struggle, where the enormity of your pain will not be bypassed or trivialized.
There are many therapists, coaches, online communities, podcasts and events where you can find support and feel less alone. The following hashtags are a good starting point:
If you know someone who is childless not by choice, listen to them and offer space to see the unique loss they are having to grapple with. You will not fully understand it but showing that you want to, and reflecting that it truly is a massive loss in life, will go a long way.
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