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Mantra of the day : Turning frustration into motivation to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be. 👊🏼

Your vision board might seem so far away from your current reality, and you may also ignore the incredible strength within yourself that makes you capable of achieving yours goals. So I get it, it’s easy to feel discouraged, stuck, frozen…

If you need guidance and the help of a professional to take your life to the next level, apply for MARCH COACHING SESSIONS!! I have 3 spots left 🙌🏼

You will claim your power back, and use science based techniques to build an actionable action plan to keep you moving and make your vision a R-E-A-L-I-T-Y ✨

Spring is around the corner, it’s time for you to invest in yourself and flourish 💐



Completely off topic, am I obsessed with stripes in interior design. It’s a yes Ma’am! 😄

Have a lovely week, friends!!

We are all capable and deserving of creating a better future for ourselves 👊🏼⚡️

The faster we start to realize this, the sooner things will start to improve.

Hold yourself accountable for your behaviors and habits that work against your wellbeing.

Get uncomfortable and challenge yourself to do better and be better.

Be disciplined, stay committed and protect your energy by holding boundaries.

If there is one thing all my coaching clients have in common, is that ! A clear shift to an active mindset. And I see it do wonders…

🌈 Do you want to practice with us?

👉🏼 Start with that prompt: Which one of these do you want to focus on more ?

xx,

Léo


#2022

The other day during a coaching session I invited my client who recently started her coaching journey to reflect on her Personal Growth story of the past years.

Not a word…

I see her thinking… searching to the back of her mind and she says “I’m here because I haven’t grown in the past months. So the answer is I have no story to tell.” 💔

I hear that often, because my job and purpose is to help you accelerate your personal growth and give purpose to your life experience when you’re feeling stuck.

But let me tell you:

👉🏼 YOU DO GROW, even if it doesn’t feel like it. Even if your critical ego state says otherwise or tells you it’s not enough.

👉🏼 YOU DO GROW. Even if you’re not where or who you want to be… YET.

👉🏼 YOU DO GROW. Even if you are feeling stuck. Because the simple fact of realizing your stuck or on autopilot IS self awareness and self awareness is growth per se.

So I invited my client to think about all the tiny ways personal growth can show up in her life and she realized how much she’s achieved already.

With that new level of love and acceptance we’ll continue her journey and take her to the next level 🌱

(Can’t wait to see what’s next for you V. 😘)

👉🏼 Share with us, how does personal growth look for you

Summer is coming to an end, we’re all pumped up, ready to crush our goals, taking new resolutions, kicking ass… 🚀

but as I discuss with people around I feel so many of us are already tired and stressed out.

Let’s take a moment. Slow down. And remember that in between our goals, life has to be enjoyed. 🌈

What brings you joy this month?

Personally I feel Berlin is going back to normal. Plenty of art exhibitions and festivals, it makes me happy ☀️

Today one of my coachees told me that what she needs the most is “FOCUS” 👊🏼

Here are some start-of-the-week checkins to help all of us focus and ask ourselves the right questions 🧡

What do YOU need this week?

Mood on the 1 Year Anniversary of losing my job because of the Pandemic 👀

I remember feeling sad for about... no more than 40 minutes, after I realized that:

• I am privileged to have financial security and a great support system around me

• It’s the sign I was waiting for to finally make room for more purpose into my life

• I have me. A decade of personal growth and inner work that made me well aware of who I am, what I want and what I am capable of.

So I hugged myself, embraced my feelings (all of them, especially sadness, anger and fear) and asked myself “How can I make things happen?”

Let me tell you straight, the first thing on the roadmap was a few weeks of chill and meditation (and lockdown life) 😴

Here I am today, sitting at my desk reflecting on everything that I accomplished in this year of time.

Getting ICF certified, creating a business that keeps growing every month, meeting beautiful people, helping my clients to level up their lives & businesses, relaxing, overcoming a s**t load of stress and imposter syndrome, finding the next corporate adventure I will start in May, honoring my body, consolidating my inner world... Earning twice the salary I had a year ago all while doing what brings me the most joy in the world 🤯

Let’s keep it real, I often feel it’s not enough, I shouldn’t rest, I should do more.

But today I’m like “HEY GIRL, YOU’RE ONE BADASS LADY!” 💃🏻

👉🏼 Let’s celebrate together, what’s one (or more) achievement you are proud of ?

👉🏼 Sending all my love to everyone whose job or business is being affected by the Pandemic. If you need comfort, send me a DM. I stand with you.

To be honest, when I first heard these - it sounded rude to me 😟

Then I’ve read that quote : “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously” and my mind opened up!

Here is what Psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera (.holistic.psychologist ) says about boundaries and why we fear of upsetting people when we set them...

One of the most common questions I get in my community is: “How can I place boundaries without upsetting people?”

The answer is: you can’t.

People who haven’t been modeled boundaries + who don’t place boundaries in their own lives can become highly emotionally activated when we place them.

They might tell us we’re being “selfish” or attempt to shame or guilt us. This is important feedback on their level of emotional maturity.

Sometimes when I’m setting boundaries, I feel fear + my desire to people please coming up. This is all just part of the practice.

Some reminders as you set boundaries:

1️⃣ Boundaries are for YOU to set your own limits not to control or demand the behavior of another person

2️⃣ People who are attempting to control or demand things from you as you set are showing their own wounding. Practice holding the boundary without engaging in over-explaining or arguing your ‘side.’

3️⃣ Boundaries free us from feelings of resentment + being taken advantage of.

4️⃣ Women are conditioned from childhood to please + to be ‘polite’ that can make boundaries feel incredibly scary. This is all part of the process of releasing past conditioning + becoming your authentic self.

5️⃣ You are not responsible for the emotional state of others. You are responsible for your own emotions + how you respond to them



Drop a ✋🏻 if you commit to setting boundaries to equally love yourself and others.

Vision Boards, dreams and plans are nice, but ... 😬

One essential step is to make 👏🏼 things 👏🏼 happen. The good news is you have all it takes!

Seeing how much progress my clients are making when they consciously decide to take action is the best thing in the world. Not for me, for them. They own their success and they deserve every bits of it.

Their goals become mine, we are a team, we don’t let each other down.

That’s how a deep and long lasting transformation happens.

☀️ I am taking applications for April !

DM me or fill in the form on my website (link in bio) to request a Free Discovery Session

Love,

Léo

Positive sayings might appear benign, but for someone who is really struggling they can sting 🤕

Psychotherapist Whitney Goodman - which I love - points out the importance of ✨ VALIDATION ✨ in order to avoid toxic positivity.

Here are some powerful variations that inspire hope, but are validating.

👉🏼 Which toxic positivity comments are you tired of hearing ? How would you rephrase it ?

🎙 TGIF and my first podcast is out!

Almost a year ago, I became Léa’s Life Coach and helped her get out of her comfort zone to launch her own business and pursue her passion for podcasting and Workplace Wellbeing advocacy.

This year it’s her turn to invite me outside my comfort zone, to record my very first podcast together on a topic that is very important to both of us: career change, what it is and what it’s not !

🇫🇷 For those of you who speak French, head to .tilt to listen to this episode or search for it on your favorite podcast platform.

🇬🇧 For those of you who don’t speak French, I will be posting about the main topics that we discuss in this episode, including:
Energy drainers at work and how to act on them, how small changes you can negotiate with your boss can make a huge difference for you, demystifying the leap to entrepreneurship, all things social media and self comparison...

📌 If you need guidance to create a fulfilling professional and personal life, I still have 4 spots to start coaching in April! (Link in bio)

AUTO COACHING EXERCICE 📝 - Energy drainers/gainers

This popular coaching exercice is the perfect opportunity to assess how to preserve and nurture your emotional, mental and physical energy.

It also helps us to put things into perspective when we feel our day sucked, or that we hate our job and we end the day feeling drained.

🔋 How can you minimize/manage your energy drainers, and include more of your energy gainers in your everyday life ?

🔋 What are the things you do like in your job? What little changes could you bring to your work situation that would make you feel happier?

🔋Which relationships are draining your energy? What can you change in your habits in order to surround yourself more often with people who lift you up?

➡️ Swipe to the last slide for a valuable reminder

👉🏼 Tell us, what are your biggest energy drainers/gainers ?