08/06/2026
To my younger self.
The regular questions I usually hear people asking are "what advice can you give to your younger self?", or "if you could go back in time, what would you do, or what choices would you make or avoid?".
To say the truth, I usually thank that small girl for her mistakes, failures, and disappointments. It helped her shape who I am now, and that is true.
For instance, after fighting so much to be accepted by others, the rejected young girl of yesterday taught the lady of today how to love and accept herself first.
No one will ever love you more than yourself, no matter what you do.
The reality is that we do not grow backwards. We will never have the opportunity to reverse time and correct our past mistakes or choices.
Life is lived forwards. Keep your eyes on the future. Your projects, visions, and dreams are what help you define with precision your future. Or at least to an extent.
However, your past is a teacher, a mirror of what life looks like when you do or don't.
Your younger self experienced failure within certain circumstances and framework.
Your present self now knows that "these particular circumstances and framework will definitely lead to failure, so I'd rather avoid it.
Your younger self experienced success under some conditions gathered, so your present self knows that "if I want to succeed in life, I'll have to create those conditions and use them as basics that I can improve on".
Your younger self experienced heartbreak, pain, remorse, loneliness, rejection...
So your present self knows best what might easily hurt others or bless them, what are the dos and don'ts in a relationship.
So, it is high time we stop looking at and advising our younger selves and start teaching our present selves how to embrace our future selves with grace, love, and determination.
See you