11/01/2021
I, AN ORIGINAL FEMINIST.
Generally speaking, women today--especially in developed countries--are treated better than women in any society in the History of mankind. That's not because of the efforts of radical feminists, but of original feminists like you and me: Every decent person wants to see women treated right.
Original feminists just wanted certain basic rights for women: women to be able to vote, to get jobs for which they are qualified, to make their decisions about marriage and child bearing for themselves.
However, the original feminist movement was hijacked by radicals--as it's often the case with most movements. It moved from being about achieving those basic rights for women into something bizarrely different, viz: 1). Men & women are absolutely identical. It is no longer about equal rights and opportunities for men and women, but that there's no differences between men and women. 2). The institutions of modern society are an offshoot of an evil patriarchial system. That the patriarchy is responsible for every evil in society --especially those against women, thus we must tear down the patriarchy and replace it with a feminist ideal society.
Let's look at one example, s*x. Reality is, on average, men and women have different attitudes towards s*x. But in the culture of the radicals where men and women are sopossedly identical, a truly modern woman must go about s*x in ways which, on average, used to be considered [by the evil patriarchy] as male attitudes towards s*x.
Institutionally speaking, since our modern institutions are products of the evil patriarchy, take marriage e.g. it must be destroyed. Marriage is essentially evil, a product of the patriarchy.
Reality is, marriage is inately a very good institution for women, more so to women than men--speaking of healthy monogamous mutually consentual marriage. Radical feminists say things like "marriage is a comfortable concentration camp," "a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle." A women loving or needing emotional support from a man is perceived as weakness.
Marriage used to be primarily about having and raising kids together. However, if a woman must get married, these radicals propose the so-called ideal feminist marriage--it hardly works. One way a feminist marriage differs from traditional marriage is, the feminist is disconnected from having and raising kids; it's essentially about sharing pleasure, economic burdens and career ambitions. A truly feminine woman doesn't need marriage to have kids. A feminist icon is single mother who is also a career woman in a high-powered male dominant career. She's the ideal all young women must aspire to become.
Some people assume that the spike in the divorce rates of modern society is due to the fact that women are now economically empowered and thus no longer suffer an oppressive marriage for fear of their economic impoverishment.To the radicals, the spike in divorce rates is a sign that woman are empowered, women no longer need men or that evil patriarchial instition, marriage. Studies have shown different, people with higher income tend to stay married than people with lower income. Studies point towards that, the spike in divorce rates is more as a result of how we as a culture think about marriage (thanks to radical feminism), rather than socioeconomic factors.
Who needs archaic patriarchial ideas that s*x and having kids should be within the context of marriage. A truly feminine or modern woman doesn't need marriage to have s*x or kids. The radical feminist culture insists that women must now behave towards s*x like what used to be averegly masculine behaviors. God forbid a woman is caught acting feminine; upholding the average standards of feminine modesty and dignity, she'll be branded as a primitive and uncivilized slave to archaic patriarchal ideas.
The radical feminists are more oppressive towards women than the old systems the original feminists fought against. The respond a woman gets from these radicals when she says she's getting married: “I can’t believe you are getting married!” usually laced with a lot of covert judgment, the condenscending ‘Oh!’ and 'aah' expressions.
As an original feminist, I want women to have choices just as men. But for radical feminists, women should not be free to choose as they wish. A woman who chooses marriage and raising her kids over pursuing a high-powered career, she's branded a failure and demeaned for her choices. She's acting like an uncivilized woman.
I think a woman should be free to choose whether to be a stay at home mother or a career women. As long as it's her choice. Fine. For radicals chosing marriage and raising a family, being a stay at home mother, or disciplining oneself for s*x within marriage, is the path for failures. It should never be one of the choices for modern women. A radical feminist actually advocated that government should ban women from staying at home to raise their kids, because if government doesn't step in and stop them, women will continue making such choices which is not good for them.
Studies upon studies continue to show that women trying to live by the principles of radical feminism, has led to rather more unhappiness for women. The radical feminists declaration of the dead of marriage or making marriage solely about pleasure --not what it used to be, about primarily having and raising kids or s*x within the security of a healthy marriage-- didn't stop kids from being born or women from having [random, uncommitted] s*x [in a way that used to be averagely considered a (toxic) male bahavior,] have led to devastating consequences for both men and women, and above all, for children having to be raised without the security of a healthy traditional family.
Radical feminists think of abortion and po*******hy as an essential part of women empowerment. Any culture or system that condemns abortion, po*******hy, indecent behavior(dressing) of women, is part of the evil patriarchy, it must be torn down and replaced.
My Rabbi always advice young men, don't waste your time with women who have forfeited reality and their feminity for radical feminists principles. A real man wants a woman that's truly feminine. Sadly, today, it seems many women and sadly even men, don't know what it truly means to be feminine or masculine.
I, an original feminist. Want women treated well according to the principles of original feminism. I strenuously reject radical feminism. You should too, or at least, as a young man seeking a female partner to marry, don't waste your time with women who seriously embrace such radical ideas.