11/05/2026
Children do not develop linearly.
This is one of the deepest insights I have come to through years of observing children, teaching, learning, and living alongside them.
And yet, much of the modern school system is built on the assumption that children should develop linearly: at the same time, in the same sequence, in similar ways, with similar interests,
and at a similar pace.
But life does not work that way.
Some children will develop practical skills very early: working with the earth, caring for animals, woodworking, cooking, repairing machines, building, movement. Only later might they become interested in history, mathematics, philosophy, or languages. Perhaps.
Others will live in a world of books, ideas, questions, and observation from a very young age. They will read and explore.
They will be fascinated by the human body, history, psychology, or the universe. And only later will they begin developing more practical skills. Perhaps.
Some will remain more practical throughout life. Others more academic. And some will move fluidly between both worlds.
All of this is normal. Child development is not an assembly line.
It is a living process.
When children are given enough freedom, a secure relationship, and an environment where they can explore the world without excessive pressure, they often begin to develop in a deeply natural way: through curiosity, through inner motivation, through a sense of meaning.
Such children usually do not need constant external pressure, rewards, or fear in order to learn. Because development itself pulls them forward from within.
This does not mean children do not need boundaries, structure, or challenges. It simply means that challenges should follow the child’s life and development — not the other way around.
When pressure becomes too strong, when children constantly have to catch up with an external norm, they often do not develop a love of learning, but rather defense mechanisms:
anxiety, inner restlessness, excessive competitiveness, feelings of inadequacy, disconnection from themselves.
Perhaps it is time to allow ourselves to think differently.
Not: “Is this child developing fast enough?” But: “How does this child want to develop?”
This is one of the themes we will explore together at the 2026 European Homeschooling Conference in Slovenia, where families, educators, and speakers from across Europe will gather to rethink learning, childhood, and human development.
We are also deeply honored that André Stern will join us as one of the main speakers, bringing his inspiring perspective on trust, natural learning, and the ecology of childhood.
Because perhaps the future of education begins the moment we stop trying to standardize human growth — and start learning how to truly see the child.
Mateja de Laat, Slovenia
A few impressions from last year’s conference in Romania: