Jordana Lauren

What if nothing is wrong with you?
And there’s nothing to fix?
And all you needed right now was a deep breath, an “it’s ok” and space to feel exactly how you’re feeling?

What makes dating SO hard?

There’s one belief we’ve been sold by society that makes dating and maintaining good relationships a lot harder than it needs to be.

It’s the belief that keeps us from asking for help. It’s the belief that causes a lot of relationships to end prematurely.

Tune in to Episode 15 of the Ditch Your Dating Drama Podcast (linked in bio) first thing tomorrow morning to learn what this belief is, how it’s impacting your single life or relationship and what to do about it.

It’s a belief I’m pretty sure you’re unaware of. See you tomorrow!

P.S Got some feedback on the podcast? I’d love to hear it! Send me a DM or rate and review the podcast on Apple. You’re the bessssssst.❤️

Exhausted by your dating life? Here’s the top 2 things to work on👇

❣️Practice making clear, thoughtful, time efficient decisions. If you’re spending a lot of time flip flopping back and fourth about someone or often drag things out to “see what happens,” you haven’t made any clear, intentional decisions.

The more tabs you have open in your brain, the harder it is to see which ones are important and which can be closed. The less tabs open, the easier it is to move forward.

❣️Let yourself be bothered by the little things. You think you shouldn’t be bothered by them ghosting you after a week of texting back and fourth, so you tell yourself it’s no big deal, you didn’t even meet in person yet. You think you’re overreacting over something they said, so you pretend it doesn’t bother you.

Not letting yourself feel the “little things,” is adding up. 1,000 little things gone unacknowledged, is exhausting.

Get really good at these two things and watch how much more emotional energy you have!

Dating isn’t inherently exhausting and burn out isn’t normal. Let’s raise the standard.

We have to stop believing that dating and relationships shouldn’t include disappointment, hurt, pain, etc.

A LOT of it, even.

Y’all know I am BIG on exceptional, effortless, wonderful relationships.

AND,

To get that… to get THERE,

You have to stop resisting and avoiding the parts that feel terrible.

They’re part of it. It doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong or that something is wrong with you.

It’s means you’re doing it right, because it’s guaranteed. Being a human and dating another human, MEANS feeling uncertain, disappointment, hurt, all of it.

And exceptional relationships, require an EVEN DEEPER willingness to feel negative emotion,

because they require an even higher level of emotional resiliency.

Emotional resiliency is developed… by feeling. Specifically 👉 feeling difficult emotion.

It’s the resistance and the unwillingness to building that resiliency, that makes your dating life feel like an emotional rollercoaster.

But you’re capable.

All of your power lies in learning not to bully yourself for feeling.

All of your power lies in giving your body permission to feel howeverrrrrr it’s feeling.

Your mind is a powerhouse of analytical genius,

AND

you can’t change your mindset if you’re gaslighting your body.

I have several coaching spots open right now and you can get $300 off your first 3 months of coaching with me, until they’re all filled.

If you’ve been trying to change your dating mindset for too long now without success, this is the solution.

If you’ve been on that emotional rollercoaster for forever now, it’s time to step off.

Now is the best time to start. Send me a message to book a free consultation.❣️

Ever get a little overwhelmed by all of the things you're "supposed to do" in your dating life?

Like should you only date one person at a time or is it better to have multiple people on the go? How soon should I tell them how I feel? Is it better to split the bill or should I always expect them to pay?

If your mind feels like it might explode trying to figure out which “dating rules” you should follow and which ones aren't actually that important, tomorrow’s podcast episode is for you!

Tune in to learn:
•Why so many dating coaches/etc talk about what TO do and what NOT to do in dating
•The ONE thing you need to focus on to know what’s for you and what isn’t

Episode drops first thing tomorrow AM. Tune in, rate & review the podcast and then let me know if it helped you!❣️

Ever get a little overwhelmed by all of the things you're "supposed to do" in your dating life?

Like should you only date one person at a time or is it better to have multiple people on the go? How soon should I tell them how I feel? Is it better to split the bill or should I always expect them to pay?

If your mind feels like it might explode trying to figure out which “dating rules” you should follow and which ones aren't actually that important, tomorrow’s podcast episode is for you!

Tune in to learn:
•Why so many dating coaches/etc talk about what TO do and what NOT to do in dating
•The ONE thing you need to focus on to know what’s for you and what isn’t

Episode drops first thing tomorrow AM. Tune in, rate & review the podcast and then let me know if it helped you!❣️

I’ve been forgetting to practice one of my favourite thoughts:

What was, was great. And what’s coming, is even better.

I love this thought because my brain has a habit of telling me things were better in the past.

Like if only I could get back to how things “used to be.”

But the truth is, striving for how things used to be is robbing you of all you have now AND all that’s to come.

It may seem so, so true that “there” was better than here.

I think there’s two ways to approach it:

1. Agree and commit: there was better than here AND that stops now. I’m committed to making my here exceptional, from here on out.

2. Notice what you’re were missing: I didn’t realize all that I have here, because I was so focused on what was. When I pause and refocus, I notice it’s not actually true that there was better than here.

I love reminiscing on great memories and celebrating the past, but notice if you start feeling like everything good has already happened and it’s too hard to get back.

It’s not true. It’s just a sneaky lil lie that will leave you confused and spinning, and you can step out of that right now.

Make here the best possible place to live.

Are you having any fun?

Or are you telling yourself it just is what it is.

It’s fine.

It’ll be better in the future.

My brain loves to tell me to just wait.

Like, it’s ok! Everything will work out.

And you know what happens when I believe that?

I take almost no action. I wait for something to happen. I pretend everything is ok when really everything kinda sucks. I don’t get where I wanna go.

Days, weeks, months pass and nothing changes.

Because when you tell yourself everything is fine, everything STAYS fine.

Fine doesn’t have to be what you go for anymore.

You don’t have to make it work.
You don’t have to give it more time.
You don’t have to just see where it goes.

More is available to you, and I can show you how to get there without feeling selfish or guilty.

More life is waiting for you.

All you have to do is decide you want it.

Send me a message and I’ll take it from there.❣️

You might not be ready for a relationship.

And you don’t need to be.

You just need to be committed.

Commitment is so much more powerful than waiting to be ready.

If you’re committed to having a relationship that feels like coming home, you’re ready.

Send me a message and let’s go get it.

P.S Commitment doesn’t mean never wavering or always feeling certain. Commitment is choosing to believe you’re going to get there, no matter how many times it doesn’t work out. As soon as you decide you’re committed, you are. Don’t judge or doubt yourself around this.

PSA: highly recommend doing a home shoot with because not only will it be so cozy and fun, but you’ll have photos of your home together to last forever 😭😍

This is such a special way for us to remember our first year living together and I can’t recommend Lisa enough. The last one of our lil fam is 🥺🥰

Do you ever feel like you can’t trust even the “good guys?”

Like you’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop or thinking there’s something they’re hiding?

And then you judge yourself, because they don’t always deserve the interrogation.

OR you feel defeated, because somehow they always prove your hesitations right.

This cycle is exhausting, but dating doesn’t have to be.

I can teach you how to know who is right for you and who isn’t.

You’ll learn to trust the decisions you make so you don’t have to question everything.

No more constantly wondering if they’re *actually* interested in you.

No more worrying about who else they’re talking to when they haven’t replied to your text.

No more wasted time.

I’ll teach you how to cut the exhaustion in half and move towards your ideal relationship sooo much quicker.

The link is in my bio to book a call with me, come learn how.

You don’t need more self-love, self-trust or self-confidence to get into a relationship.

Do you ever tell yourself something like:
• I just need more self-confidence, and then I’ll be able to put myself out there
• If I trusted myself more, I’d be able to stay in this relationship
• Once I love myself more, I’ll be able to attract healthier relationships

Thinking you need to be better before you can get into a relationship, IS what’s keeping you from it.

Because self-confidence is developed after you take the risk and realize you’re ok.

The same is true with self-trust and self-love. You take action first, and then choose to give yourself more (or less) love/trust regardless the outcome.

The first step is not to wait until you can “be better” from will power or force.

The first step is to decide that you’re ready now, worthy now, capable now, and then take the first step.

You don’t need to be a better person to have a great relationship.

You can come as you are. Grow and fall in love at the same time.

Love is not a reward for being a good enough person.

You’re ready for a relationship now, and I’d love to help you find it. Send me a message and let’s chat about how I can help.❣️