Your Sexual Journey

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Here’s the thing about rope and consent:

A person who is tied up is not in a position to give consent. NOTHING that was not pre-negotiated should happen after a person is tied.

If a person believes they are being tied in a platonic circumstance, for example a photo shoot or to experience rope for the sake of rope alone, they should not have their ge****ls touched at all. By you, your toys, or other. You may not ask them to touch your ge****ls when they are in rope, they can not give active consent in that position.

If you do ask them while in this position, even if they say yes, they are giving coerced consent. If you touch them in any s*xual way while in ropes that was not pre-negotiated, you are s*xually assaulting them, and the same goes for pain play, it must be pre-negotiated or it is not consensual. Coerced consent is not consent. Only consent given on equal footing is consent.

Consensual non consent is pre-negotiated and is not the same as the above, it is saying no with an active safe word in play, that allows the submissive or bottom to stop if needed. The above is describing non-consensual consent, a person saying yes because it feels safer than no. Not because they want to but because they feel they can’t say no. This may be due to past trauma or past experience with the individual getting angry or visibly upset when they don’t get what they want, or just plain nerves. This is why you do not negotiate mid scene within b**m, with ropes or otherwise. Never assume they feel safe saying no to s*x once they are in a vulnerable position such as rope or other bo***ge.

After a rope scene, a bottom may feel a high from all the endorphins and other hormones that flood the system. So even immediately after a scene, is not the time to ask for further types of play.

You should debrief with the bottom about their experience after any rope or other b**m scene. This can happen the same day, but there should also be follow up the next day to see how they feel after coming down from the high.

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@ Winnipeg, Manitoba

Your S*xual Journey supports International S*x Worker Rights Day.
We believe that s*x work is real work, like any other job. There are people who do s*x work out of survival to ensure they have a roof over their head, or to support any of their favourite habits; there are s*x workers who love their jobs and there are s*x workers who look forward to the day that they do another type of work instead... just like coal miners, cashiers or lawyers. All jobs have inherent risk, however most jobs come with some security or protections. If you are a coal miner and a tunnel caves in and you injure your leg, there is insurance to cover your expenses and bills while you recover; if you are a cashier and your employer s*xually assaults you, you can reach out to the police or your union and have repercussions for the individual; and if you are a lawyer and you are attacked while at work, there are security measures in place and there will be repercussions for the offender. The reason s*x work is considered more dangerous than these other lines of work has nothing to do with the profession itself. Like at any other job you can get injured, s*xually assaulted, or attacked, the reason it’s considered riskier is the fact that if you do s*x work and any of these things happen to you, there is no safe legal course of action to protect yourself, due to stigma and poorly formulated laws. There will always be s*x workers, the only way to make it safe is to decriminalize it and give better access to the legal protections you may have in any other trade. This will better provide safety to s*x workers (people doing this work of their own volition) as well as make it safer and easier for individuals who are victims of trafficking to come forward for help.
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Your nakedness
Is a part of you
It is neither the best part
Nor
The most important.
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Your value comes from who you are to the world. What you give back and the act of deliberate kindness.
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If people have seen your n**e image, it is not the entirety of you, and most certainly takes nothing away from what you have to share with a partner you choose.
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Know that your value comes from within and that the skin bag you live in is a very small part of you. When you know your worth, those who are worthy are easier to see.
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You deserve love. Mind, body, soul, and s*xuality.
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