Mary Klovance Consulting & Public Speaking

✨ I am beyond excited to share that HELD: A Group for Mothers of Neurodivergent Children is officially FULL after only two weeks! 🤍

To me, this says something incredibly important: mothers of neurodivergent children are carrying so much, and they are craving spaces where they feel understood, supported, and don’t have to do it all alone.

I can’t wait to walk alongside these amazing women over the coming months. 💛

If you were hoping to join us, don’t worry—we’ve opened a waitlist and are already exploring the possibility of running a second cohort due to the overwhelming interest. Be sure to join the waitlist through the link in our bio/website so you don’t miss out!

One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn is this:

Understanding doesn’t automatically lead to agreement.

Sometimes, we keep explaining ourselves over and over because we’re hoping that if we just find the right words, the other person will finally see our perspective and agree with us.

But here’s the thing: someone can fully understand where you’re coming from… and still disagree.

When you keep trying to convince someone after they’ve already understood you, it often has the opposite effect. Most people don’t like feeling pressured or persuaded, and the more we push, the more they may pull away.

Your job isn’t to make everyone agree with you. Your job is to communicate your truth clearly and respectfully. After that, allow others the freedom to have their own perspective—even if it’s different from yours.

Healthy relationships aren’t built on always agreeing. They’re built on mutual respect, curiosity, and allowing each other to think differently without trying to force a different outcome.

Sometimes the most regulated thing we can do is say, “I’ve explained my perspective, and it’s okay if we don’t see this the same way.” ❤️

✨ Have you ever caught yourself over-explaining because you wanted to feel understood?

You can’t make a child do anything.
And the more you try… the more resistance you get.

Especially with neurodivergent kids.

✨ The shift?
Stop focusing on control → start focusing on connection + direction

Instead of:
“Just do your homework.”

Try this 👇
“What’s something you want right now?”

💡 They want money → they need a job
💡 To get a job → they need a resume
💡 To write a resume → they need English skills
💡 To build that → what’s ONE assignment you can do today?

Now it feels doable.
Now it feels theirs.
Now you’ve got momentum.

Same with:
🧠 “I want to be more organized” → start with ONE drawer
🧠 “I want better grades” → start with ONE task
🧠 “I want independence” → start with ONE small step

This is how we support executive functioning without power struggles.

👉 Break it down
👉 Make it achievable
👉 Build momentum

That’s where the magic happens.

Let me know in the comments how this worked for you or if you have any questions.

Follow for more neurodiversity-affirming parenting & support 💛

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Sleep & ADHD – Why It’s Tough & How Food Plays a Role 🌙✨

Hey friends! ADHD often affects our sleep, whether it’s falling asleep or staying asleep. 😴 But did you know eating right before bed could make it harder? When you snack late, it can trigger hormone shifts, sugar spikes, and energy fluctuations that tell your body, “Hey, we’re still in energy mode!” when you’re trying to wind down. 🛌

I’m not a doctor or nutritionist—so do your own research—but giving yourself at least an hour after your last bite can help signal your body: “It’s time to rest.” 🌛 Let’s get that sleep routine on point! 🧠💤

✨ I have THREE book ideas in my heart right now and I need your help deciding where to start…

1️⃣ A book for late-diagnosed ADHD women — the grief, the relief, the identity shifts, and learning how to finally work with your brain instead of against it.

2️⃣ A book for ADHD moms raising neurodivergent kids — real-life, compassionate, neurodiversity-affirming parenting without the pressure to “fix” your child while also navigating your own brain.

3️⃣ A more “woo-woo” workbook — think inner child healing, shadow work, and powerful journaling prompts ✨
→ This could be a standalone or something that pairs with either of the other books.

Honestly… I feel lit up by ALL of them 🔥
But I want to create what will support YOU the most.

💬 Tell me:
Which one would you read first?
Which one do you need right now?

Your voice will help shape what comes next 🤍

Self-care isn’t a luxury.
It’s an ADHD hack. 🧠✨

If you have extended medical benefits, STOP waiting until you’re burnt out.

Do the math.
✔️ How much coverage do you get for RMT?
✔️ Acupuncture?
✔️ Counselling?

Now divide it up and pre-book those appointments for the YEAR.

Every 2–3 weeks.
Non-negotiable.

Because here’s the truth:
ADHD brains struggle with initiation, decision fatigue, and future planning.

So remove the decision.

Put it in the calendar.
Automate your care.
Let structure hold you when motivation won’t.

This isn’t indulgent.
It’s nervous system regulation.
It’s executive functioning support.
It’s preventative mental health.

Make yourself accountable.
Show up for yourself first. 💛

Your future regulated self will thank you.