10/10/2026
There’s quite a bit of discussion around gender roles, and how “women” or “men” should act and exist.
I’ve heard and seen countless of interpretations and beliefs about gender roles throughout my life.
When I grew up, the world just started moving away from the unspoken understanding that women have more rights in the kitchen, and men in a business or an office.
When I got involved in spiritual methods and groups many years ago, the main understanding was that female energy is accepting and passive, while men’s energy must be active and teaching or doing.
Over time I developed my own solid understanding of “women’s role, and men’s role”. So when my clients ask, this is what I say:
Regardless of gender, everyone is responsible for their own emotions. This isn’t spoken about enough, even though our emotions and how we relate to them create our behaviours and personality.
I believe Women and Men should learn and know how to live and relate to themselves and each other with true compassion. Until this isn’t taught in schools, this should be every individual’s own personal responsibility; to learn compassion by understanding their own Self.
Because in an ideal relationship or relation amongst two people, the baseline should be compassion instead of shame and fear.
So back to the gender roles: I truly and deeply believe, that a man’s role besides all the above is to protect the woman’s emotional wellbeing. And as for women, I believe their role is also to nurture the man’s emotional wellbeing.
Both sides should be emotionally mature enough to provide emotional safety for each other through compassion, because emotional safety results in a regulated nervous system, and a space to be your true Self.
A regulated nervous system with that deep understanding of true Self will then result in the unquestionable ability and confidence for each of them to be whoever and whatever they want to be.
Because you are not a canvas for other’s expectations. You already ARE who you should be, you might just not know it yet.🤍