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Death's Apprentice What can you learn from life’s greatest teacher?

Death's Apprentice provides advance care and transition planning, corporate education, keynotes and public speaking to help you prepare for life's challenging certainties.

10/05/2026

And I’m also someone who will never stop reminding you that the work death doulas do isn’t new at all.

It’s ancient work, mostly done by women.

However, it’s an emerging profession.

That part is new.

10/04/2026

I’m also someone who will keep asking a very important question:

In a push to “regulate” this ancient practice, who will get to decide what aspects of my work are legitimate?

Whose knowledge and ways of knowing will be prioritized?

What will be pushed out, disallowed, or deemed unimportant?

I can take some guesses. And if you think about it, I bet you can too.

End of life doulas have been around forever. It’s an ancient practice, but only recently is it becoming a profession.

There are a LOT of very credible and important professions that aren’t subject to licensing or regulation. This isn’t the only way to ensure standards are met (or exceeded).

It’s one way. And kind of a lazy one at that.

10/01/2026

Here’s how to clap back 👏🩷

“Well I won’t be, and I love you: this is going to be a really hard time for me and knowing a little bit more about what matters to you, and what doesn’t, will help me so much. Also, I promise you this…talking about it won’t make it happen any faster!😂🩷”

Seriously. Lead with love. Lead with curiosity, and let them know it will help YOU…after all, they’re right! This isn’t really about them at all, is it?

Save this for when you want to show up, even if you’re worried you’ll mess up.There’s no magic words here. It’s well int...
09/30/2026

Save this for when you want to show up, even if you’re worried you’ll mess up.

There’s no magic words here.

It’s well intentioned. But it can often be really hard to hear, because it can be almost impossible to respond to.

I can’t stress this enough: there’s no magic words…but see if any of these resonate.

The key here is letting folks know they don’t have to engage with you if they don’t want to/aren’t up for that yet.

“Company” doesn’t need to be noisy, sometimes grieving people want to be near folks but they don’t want to have to be “on”.

Saying something like this at a funeral or memorial can be a great way to let people know you understand that they are still going to need support.

It’s ok to say you don’t know what to say. I promise.

Say their name. Ask about them. Share your stories, and ask the person closest to them if they can share stories too.

You’re not doing it wrong, even if you say “what can I do to help”. This is messy stuff, and we don’t get a lot of chances to practice.

Just keep showing up.

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09/25/2026

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I’m Christa, a funeral director, embalmer, and end of life doula who thinks it’s high time we started treating death like part of life.

Does this resonate? Come along!

09/22/2026

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Join us for a life-changing conversation 🩷

09/20/2026

How much does a funeral cost? 💸🪦⤵️

That’s kind of like asking how much a wedding costs. You could elope or get married at city hall with no reception and a borrowed dress, or you could have a destination wedding with an all-you-can-eat lobster bar.

At a funeral, you might have cemetery costs. You’ll have them for sure if you’re doing a full body burial. But you might have them if you’re doing a cremation if you choose to bury or inter the cremated remains.

I’ve chosen in-ground burial for my cremated remains.

I bought my plot last year. It’s a double plot, it can fit up to 2 sets of remains.

I’ve chosen Vancouver’s only cemetery, which is a beautiful city-owned (not private) cemetery.

Cemetery costs include 3 considerations:

1️⃣the plot itself. In-ground burial or interment in a masouleum (full body) or niche (cremated remains). Costs will vary depending on where you live and whether you’re in a private or civic cemetery. A few years ago in rural Manitoba you could still get a full body burial plot for $200!! Where I live, a 2-person cremation plot is 6k. You can’t pay but this in advance in most places!

2️⃣ grave preparation fees. These are known as opening and closing fees. It’s what it costs to have the crew dig, and then fill in, the grave. Likely to be several hundred dollars to a couple of thousand, depending on the size of the opening (full body or cremated remains) and depth of the grave. You can’t pay for this in advance in most places.

3️⃣ the cost of a marker. This will depend on size and material, plus labour, delivery, and installation. Typically this isn’t purchased in advance but you can’t pay see it sometimes, when you have a name with a birthdate but no final date listed.

Cemeteries aren’t everyone’s choice, but it’s what I’ve chosen for me. And I’ve pre-purchased as much as I can, set money aside for what I can’t, and even left suggestions about what to put on the marker.

I want this to be as easy as possible for the people I love whenever it happens! ❤️

09/17/2026

Can you see it??

This is my first day of school dress…I wear it every time I teach Prep School!

Can you see why it’s my favourite “back to school” outfit? 😂🩷

Let me know if you can tell! ⤵️

What do YOU want to be remembered for?And how will you be sure you are?
09/17/2026

What do YOU want to be remembered for?

And how will you be sure you are?

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