Petra Gordon

💃🏾🔥TAKING A BREAK FROM SOCIAL MEDIA

💁🏾‍♀️ I’ve been sensing for a while that I needed to take some time away from socials

💁🏾‍♀️ I’m currently in transition and getting ready to embark on something new, which is a pretty big deal for me personally and professionally

👉🏾 Social Media is a great tool. I’ve made some great connections here

👉🏾 Social Media can also be a time waster and a distraction if your time on here is not intentional

💁🏾‍♀️ This sabbatical is to give me some focused attention and time to spiritual, personal, and professional development without distractions

⬇️ WHAT TO EXPECT NEXT

📌 For the widows in my email community, I will continue to serve you with weekly newsletters and complimentary 1:1 coaching Fridays

📌 I will not be checking DM’s during this sabbatical. If you would like to connect, send me an email at [email protected]

💁🏾‍♀️ I’m excited for this time away. I genuinely believe I will come back better than ever as I work on myself and work on my craft so I can add more value to those of you that I am here to serve

🔥 P.S. If you are a widow, you can subscribe to the email community for widows. That is the community that will receive most of my time and attention in this season

👇🏾 Click the link 🔗 for the services and support I still have available during my absence from Social Media

https://linktr.ee/petragordon

💃🏾🔥 COURAGE TO LIVE FULLY: TRANSFORMING GRIEF INTO PURPOSE

💁🏾‍♀️ Before I became a widow, I would go around in cycles within my life

💁🏾‍♀️ I would write out lists and goals every year, and yet I didn’t see the personal growth or the needle moving forward toward my goals

💁🏾‍♀️ I had insecurities and fears that from the outside person looking in, they couldn’t tell

👉🏾 I looked confident and sounded confident when I spoke. In my heart, the truth was present, and I had no clue how to deal with it

👉🏾 I would read books and attend events. Listen to motivational speakers. I would get fired up and leave wanting to conquer the world

👉🏾 Then I would return to the reality of my life, and nothing changed

💁🏾‍♀️ Here is what I want you to know. The issue was never the information I was receiving

⬇️ MY ISSUES WERE

📌 Lack of belief

📌 Lack of a plan

📌 No application of what I learned in my life

👉🏾 Can we have an honest conversation? Of all the notes you have taken from events. All the podcasts you listen to. Have you implemented one ☝🏾 thing you have learned?

👉🏾 It’s natural if the answer is no. Life happens, and we get busy. Yet nothing in our life improves. WILL POWER is not enough

💁🏾‍♀️ This cycle broke for me when my husband died. What I was doing on my own was not working

💁🏾‍♀️ What SHIFT everything for me was joining a coaching community

📌 I felt seen

📌 My coach normalized my struggles

📌 I received tools that were practical to empower me to grow personally

💁🏾‍♀️ When I started to experience the healing and transformation even while grieving, I knew then that I wanted to create the same experience for widows

👉🏾 I will be launching a coaching membership for widows this year. If you would like to be added to the list for the details when I launch, send me a DM

🔥 P.S. The membership is in the development phase. If there are things you, as a widow, would like to see in this coaching community, send me a message. This community is being built for you, so I want to hear from
You

🔥 P.S.S If you are not a widow tag one in this post or share it with one. I’m here to serve

💃🏾🔥 THE COMPLEXITY OF GRIEF

💁🏾‍♀️ I wish grief was as straightforward as culture tries to paint it with the “5 stages of grief.”

💁🏾‍♀️ Truth is the five stages was never intended to be a framework for grief. It was created for folks who were dying and facing terminal illness

👉🏾 Somehow, it got turned into this trajectory for grief

👉🏾 Can I help you here? Grief is not linear. Though you may feel a number of those emotions that are described in the five stages, they will not be in order

👉🏾 you will loop around and revisit a number of those thoughts and feelings throughout your journey

💁🏾‍♀️ Sometimes you may feel like you are making strides in your grief journey, and then a memory or experience will trigger something within

💁🏾‍♀️ You may start crying uncontrollably in public or private and be confused

👉🏾 You may think I should have been over this by now. It’s been a year, it's been two years. Why does this still hurt?

👉🏾 We live in this microwave culture where the messaging is always around how you can do something QUICK and FAST

💁🏾‍♀️ The truth about grief is healing for most is not quick or fast

💁🏾‍♀️ What can be misinterpreted like it was for me. Just because you are functional and keeping busy doesn’t mean you are dealing with the grief

💁🏾‍♀️ Avoidance doesn’t bring healing or growth. It may help you cope temporarily, but when grief is left unattended, it has an impact on you and your life

👉🏾 Grief is a natural part of life, and yet we have never been shown how to work through our thoughts and feelings surrounding it

👉🏾 Those on the outside looking in would prefer you to hurry up and get back to normal

💁🏾‍♀️ NEWSFLASH: there is no going back to normal when you have a spouse, parent, child, etc, die

💁🏾‍♀️ I created the email widow community because, as a widow myself, I understand the complexities of grief and having a spouse die

👉🏾 If you are a widow, I invite you to join the widow email community. I don’t use bots to communicate with you. When I send out my newsletters, they are from me, and I respond personally to the replies from my subscribers

👉🏾 This is an email community to provide compassionate support, community, and education for widows

👇🏾 If you are a WIDOW subscribe to the email community

https://www.petragordon.com/newsletterforwidows

🔥 P.S Every widow that subscribes receives a free video resource on guilt in grief

🔥 P.S.S If you are not a widow, share with one that is

💃🏾🔥 THE WAIT IS ALMOST OVER!

💁🏾‍♀️ Join me along with other incredible speakers for this 3 day summit for widows and widowers

💁🏾‍♀️ PURPOSE RE-IMAGINED officially kicks off this Thursday May 30, 2024

💁🏾‍♀️ You still have time to REGISTER for this incredible event

👇🏾WHO IS THIS SUMMIT FOR

✅ This is for you if you are a widow or widower looking for practical ways to navigate loneliness after the death of your spouse

✅ This is for you if you are a widow or widower wanting to rebuild your financial future after loss

✅ This is for you if you are a widow or widower and you want to start dating again after loss and would like some guidance on how to do this

✅ This is for you if you want to know how to establish boundaries in grief

✅ If you struggle to get things done since the loss this summit is for you

👉🏾 There are so many incredible speakers and topics being covered specifically for widows and widowers you don’t want to miss this! REGISTER today. Click the link 🔗 below ⬇️

https://www.widowsquadpresents.com/purpose

🔥 P.S If you are not a widow or widower tag one or share this post with one

💃🏾🔥DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF: LIFE IS TOO SHORT

💁🏾‍♀️ This was 2017. The last time I would ever travel with my husband. We were in Jamaica for his brother’s wedding

💁🏾‍♀️ I never imagined the following year he would be dead

👉🏾 I think back to all the things that I allowed to create anxiety, and worry leading up to Ian’s death

👉🏾 When I think about it I wasted too much time worried about things that weren’t important

💁🏾‍♀️ Ian’s death has changed me in many ways. One of which is not “Sweating the small stuff” I let things go much quicker

👉🏾 I CHOOSE to trust in God

💁🏾‍♀️ I don’t remain in spaces that don’t bring out the best in me. I understand the value and worth of the life God has given and I take none of it for granted

👉🏾 I CHOOSE PEACE ALWAYS. No toxicity allowed 🙅🏾‍♀️

💁🏾‍♀️ The greatest way I can live out Ian’s legacy is continuing to move forward and fusing together the dreams we shared plus the new ones that have evolved for me personally over the years since his death

💁🏾‍♀️ I don’t know when my last day will be. Until that day I will LIVE OUT LOUD! How about you?

💃🏾🔥 PURPOSE RE-IMAGINED: REBUILDING YOUR LIFE AFTER LOSS

💁🏾‍♀️ There comes a time on your journey where you may ask the question What’s Next? Where do I go from here?

💁🏾‍♀️ After grief counselling/therapy or attending your grief support group you may be left wondering what will you do with the rest of your life?

💁🏾‍♀️ The wonderful thing is you get to CHOOSE how you want to live out the rest of your life after this loss

👉🏾 I’m honoured to link arms with the Widow Squad and all the incredible men and women that will be sharing during this summit

👉🏾 This summit is for widows and widowers. It’s completely 🆓

💁🏾‍♀️ You may not feel ready today to embrace purpose and meaning. REGISTER anyway!

💁🏾‍♀️ You never know what one thing can be shared that can profoundly shift how you experience your widowhood journey

👇🏾Click the link 🔗 REGISTER TODAY! I look forward to connecting with you

https://www.widowsquadpresents.com/purpose

🔥 P.S If you are not a widow or widower share the post with someone who is

💃🏾🔥ARE YOU A WIDOW FEELING LOST AND UNSURE HOW TO MOVE FORWARD AFTER YOUR HUSBAND’S PASSING?

💁🏾‍♀️ Learn how you can find peace and joy again without the weight of guilt...

💁🏾‍♀️ I specialize in guiding widows through their grief, helping them honour their husbands’ memories and reclaim their lives with renewed purpose.

👇🏾CONSIDER THIS:

✅ Living in harmony with what matters most to you now
✅ Waking up to a life that inspires and motivates you daily
✅ Fulfilling dreams that respect both your needs and your husband’s legacy

👇🏾 IF YOU’RE READY TO LEAVE BEHIND:

❎ Guilt for desiring a happy and fulfilling life
❎ Uncertainty about your identity and future direction
❎ Doubts about embracing new dreams and goals

💁🏾‍♀️ Don’t delay!

💁🏾‍♀️ Send me a DM to learn more about Specialized Grief Coaching for Widows!

🔥 P.S. If you are not a widow share with one that is in search of this type of support

💃🏾🔥 STRONG & STRESSED: BLACK WOMEN & MENTAL HEALTH

💁🏾‍♀️ Strong Black Woman…What happens when I become tired of having to be strong all the time?

💁🏾‍♀️ How many times do we hear “Be Strong, or You are so Strong”? This can be exhausting

💁🏾‍♀️ At what point do you get to be the person to lean on another for support?

👉🏾 The challenge with being perceived as so strong is that people look at you and feel you don’t need any support ever

👉🏾 I know for myself before the death of my husband it was hard to let my guard down and accept help. I haven’t expected people to be there for me when I need it the most

👉🏾 We learn without realizing it, how to just do things on our own. Encourage ourselves. Going through years like this is tiring

💁🏾‍♀️ How can we cultivate relationships with other emotionally healthy women that can be a soft landing? Women who can hold space for you when you are vulnerable and need someone else to be strong for a change

👉🏾 There is a cost to trying to do everything on your own. Stress left unchecked and unmanaged can impact your emotional, spiritual, relational, and physical well-being

💁🏾‍♀️ How can we better recognize the signs of stress and burnout and implement healthy practices and habits to manage it better?

💁🏾‍♀️ How can we redefine what it means to be a “Strong Black Women”? in a way that empowers and builds us up versus depleting us and breaking us down over time

💁🏾‍♀️ I have the honour and pleasure to be a guest on this podcast

💁🏾‍♀️ Mark your calendars for this Thursday, May 23, 2024 at 7 pm EST. You don’t want to miss this!

🔥 Join us for this conversation. We always have a powerful time in these episodes

P.S Click on the link 🔗 to the video podcast to be notified 👇🏾

https://www.youtube.com/live/9jc7EvpveEg?si=ZcoWu8gLEdHT2jO8

🔥💃🏾EMPOWERING WIDOWS AND WIDOWERS TO DISCOVER MEANING AFTER LOSS

💁🏾‍♀️ I’m so excited to share with you the PURPOSE RE-IMAGINED: REBUILDING YOUR LIFE AFTER LOSS Summit!

💁🏾‍♀️ This is an event for widows and widowers

👉🏾 What we know is that when you experience the death of a spouse there is a feeling of loneliness, and uncertainty about your life and what to do next

👉🏾 That first year after my husband died I wasn't thinking about meaning or purpose

💁🏾‍♀️ As I continued on this widowhood journey I started to learn more about myself and how I wanted to live my life and continue my late husband’s legacy even while grieving

💁🏾‍♀️ This event is being hosted by the Widow Squad who are widows helping other widows through their organization

👉🏾 I want to invite you to register for this event and share it with other widows

👉🏾 I have the honour of being one of the Grief and Widow experts sharing during this virtual event. We want you to be a part of this. You don’t have to navigate this widowhood journey alone. Community is important

👇🏾 P.S This event is FREE. Click on the link 🔗 to register Today!

https://www.widowsquadpresents.com/purpose

👉🏾 P.S.S If you are not a widow or widower share this with one that is

💃🏾🔥 ANTICIPATORY GRIEF: ALLOWING YOURSELF TO FEEL

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