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I find myself fleeting from one task to the next. I have difficulties concentrating on one thing at a time.

My mind is an incredible organizer. I can manage a lot of tasks and they'll all get done. I love ticking those task boxes ✅

But when I'm checking boxes, I'm never truly present in the moment. I miss out on so much by planning and scheming the next thing 🏝📝🏕🥾...

Sometimes I am doing the thing I had planned for months and I'm all ready on to the next plan 🙃

I am a product of this society.
I take the blame for not putting my foot down, but really it is what is expected of me as a nurse, a mother, a social being...

Computers, social media, cell phones, emails beacon me when I'm alone or in my place of business.

I have no solution and I'm trying to be more present these days. Putting down my devices, telling myself to stay put where I am.

It isn't easy, even as I write this, my mind wanders to the next thing on my list...
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Valentine's Day is a good day to show yourself some love 💕

You don't need anyone else in your life because you are all you need to be complete.

You don't have to prove anything because you are enough just as you are.

So celebrate yourself ✨

Give yourself some love today 💞

As mid January rolls around how are those are those goals you made for the New Year coming along?

For me, not so good. I keep telling myself I'll start next week.

I know what the problem is, I'm not committed to my goals.

You see, there is a difference between wanting something and being committed to making it happen.

Wanting something is safe and less confrontational.

Wanting is passive and really requires no action.

It often follows 'should' statements and might not be even your true desire.

And wanting will never produce results because it won't push you through the hard parts of change.

Wanting doesn't like to deal with discomfort.

On the other hand, when you are committed to a goal you will know that you will make every effort towards that goal .

You'll be willing to feel discomfort knowing that the goal is your number one priority.

So knowing the difference, ask yourself are you willing to commit to this goal no matter how hard it gets or is that goal something you hope for some day.

It's good to be wise to yourself 😉
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As 2022 begins I'm thinking about what I want for this year.

Honestly, all I really want is to slow down and embrace whatever the universe wishes to offer.

It's funny because when I write this I feel I'm saying it with more of an energy of conviction than one of peace (teeth-gritting conviction).

I'm thinking the world has to slow down for me and then I can be at peace.

I want everything to change on the outside in order to be at peace on the inside.

But the opposite is true; being at peace starts from within.

And being at peace doesn't mean we have to change in anyway.

Being at peace means we need to embrace ourselves, in all our complexity, leaving nothing behind.

Accepting where we are at right now.

Expecting nothing except pure love for ourselves.

That is where true peace begins💞

Today the black cloud that I felt l had been walking under for a few weeks has lifted.

I feel woke up lighter and feeling joyful.

I don't know the difference between today and yesterday...

I'm still moving. I'm still overwhelmed with work, but all that doesn't seem so heavy today.

Something has shifted. ✨

My thought was 'I wish I could remember it is temporary when I'm going through it'.

But a wise friend ( ) reminded me to give myself permission to be in those moods once in awhile. And not to feel pressured to change them.

And of course she is so right! 🎯

There is nothing wrong with having negative feelings.

In fact, negative feelings are a normal part of being human.

So next time I'm going to allow the negative feelings and not add to them by wishing they were gone.







Photo- TMueller, unfiltered

We are taught from a young age that happiness comes from something outside ourselves.

Marketing and media depends on us believing this.

If you just get the right education; buy in the right neighborhood; get the right job; or buy the right vehicle then you will be happy.

But nothing outside us controls how we feel.

It's the thought we think about our circumstances that produces the feeling.

Nothing external will bring you the joy you hope for.

So stop thinking something is going to make your situation better and start trying to find ways to believe your circumstances are perfect for you.

It all begins with your thoughts 💥

The only reason we ever want anything is because of how we believe it will make us feel when we attain it.

We think being thin, rich, in a relationship.... will bring us happiness.

Whatever it is that you want in life, it's because you believe that you will feel better because you have it.

So, what you need to identify is how do you really want to feel?

Then ask yourself what do you think will give you that feeling.

Are you focused on something external?

If you are, then I want you to understand that something outside yourself will never give you that feeling.

And if it does it WILL be short lived.

When you understand that it is really your thinking that gives you your feelings you can create any feeling you want.

You can think a thought that will create joy, love or contentment.

Because our feelings are created in our thoughts.💥

We spend our lives thinking we can control our circumstances and get all indignant when we don't.

I spent a majority of my life waiting for something to happen thinking when it did all would be perfect.

I waited to finish school, for the kids to get older; to own a house; to find a the perfect job....

Even as I got all those things I'd find myself turning to the next goal.

But it turns out meeting the goals didn't bring me the satisfaction I hope for.

I figured out that it's how I choose to think about my life that brought me the satisfaction I wanted so badly.

I can be always striving for the next thing or I can appreciate what I have right now.

I'm choosing the latter these days.

I am so grateful for all I have and all I have accomplished in life.

I feel so very blessed 🧚‍♂️

Did you know that you are worthy exactly as you are?

You don't need to be richer, thinner, calmer, generous, successful or creative in order to be worthy.

And the only one that needs to believe you are worthy is yourself ✨

It all starts with yourself, no one else can determine your worthiness.

So stop hustling for other people's approval.

Stop pleasing others in order to win their approval.

Just believe you are amazing and worthy just as you are 💞

The sooner you do so, the sooner you will start leading a more authentic life.