Separate Things: A Memoir

Separate Things: A Memoir Running from from a flood of mental illnesses and leaning heavily into humour to stay afloat...

10/03/2026

Do you know what abuse can cause? Autoimmune disease. Because surviving abuse does not end when the abuse ends.

The body remembers too. Years of living on high alert, in fight or flight, never feeling safe, keeps your immune system activated.

Above everything else, this can come crawling in years later.
Take care of yourself β™₯️


10/03/2026

πŸ’Ž Coping Thoughts. πŸ’Ž

πŸ’Ž Here is a list of some DBT coping thoughts that people have found helpful (McKay, Davis, & Fanning, 1997).

πŸ’Ž Check the ones that are helpful to youm make a note of them, practice using them, use them and also create or add your own.
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πŸ’Ž β€œThis situation won’t last forever.”

πŸ’Ž β€œI’ve already been through many other painful experiences, and I’ve survived.”

πŸ’Ž β€œThis too shall pass.”

πŸ’Ž β€œMy feelings make me uncomfortable right now, but I can accept them.”

πŸ’Ž β€œI can be anxious and still deal with the situation.”

πŸ’Ž β€œI’m strong enough to handle what’s happening to me right now.”

πŸ’Ž β€œThis is an opportunity for me to learn how to cope with my fears.”

πŸ’Ž β€œI can ride this out and not let it get to me.”

πŸ’Ž β€œI can take all the time I need right now to let go and relax.”

πŸ’Ž β€œI’ve survived other situations like this before, and I’ll survive this one too.”

πŸ’Ž β€œMy anxiety/fear/sadness won’t kill me; it just doesn’t feel good right now.”

πŸ’Ž β€œThese are just my feelings, and eventually they’ll go away.”

πŸ’Ž β€œIt’s okay to feel sad/anxious/afraid sometimes.”

πŸ’Ž β€œMy thoughts don’t control my life, I do.”

πŸ’Ž β€œI can think different thoughts if I want to.”

πŸ’Ž β€œI’m not in danger right now.”

πŸ’Ž β€œSo what?”

πŸ’Ž β€œThis situation sucks, but it’s only temporary.”

πŸ’Ž β€œI’m strong and I can deal with this.”

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These help tolerate distressing situations by giving strength + motivation to endure hard experiences.

You can begin using them immediately.

Write your 5 favourite coping thoughts on an index card or a sticky note and keep it with you in your wallet or purse.

Or put your coping thoughts in conspicuous places where you can see them every day, like on your refrigerator or mirror.

The more you see your coping thoughts, the more quickly they will become part of your automatic thought process.

From :
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook.
Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal
Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & Distress Tolerance by

Matthew McKay, PH.D. β€’ Jeffrey C.Wood , PSY.D. Jeffrey Brantley, MD . New Harbinger Publications. 2007.

DBT Skills. October 2nd 2026

10/02/2026
09/26/2026

Every child with OCD deserves the chance to live life on their own terms. 🩡

On October 1, IOCDF is releasing a new white paper focused on pediatric OCD, bringing together important information, insights, and resources for children with OCD and the families who support them.

Throughout OCD Awareness Week in October, we’ll be sharing more from the white paper, along with facts about pediatric OCD, helpful resources, and perspectives from the OCD community.

Stay tuned for the full launch on October 1. 🩡

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