Gabriela Embon Coaching Academy

Happy friday 🥰!

You know when something happens…and your first reaction is:

“Why is this being taken from me?”

A relationship shifts.

An opportunity disappears.

A door closes without warning.

And everything in you wants to say: “This shouldn’t be happening.”

I’ve been there too.

But over the years through my marriage, through coaching, through life, I started noticing something that changed everything:

Nothing is ever taken… without something also being given.

Not always in the way you want.

Not always in the timing you would choose.

And definitely not wrapped in comfort.

But it’s there.

Sometimes what you “lose” is actually removing what was misaligned.

Sometimes what breaks… reveals what was already fragile.

Sometimes what hurts… awakens a part of you that was asleep.

And this is where leadership begins.

Because you don’t get to control what leaves.

But you do get to choose what you make of what arrives.

Rather than staying in the loss, replaying it or resenting it.

You are invited to ask a different question:

What is this here to give me?

Do you feel the difference in that?

One keeps you stuck. The other… opens something.

In relationships, I see this all the time.

-A conflict comes up and instead of seeing it as something “wrong,” it becomes the doorway to deeper understanding.

-A disconnect shows up and instead of panic, it becomes an invitation to rebuild with intention.

I don’t think anything is wasted.

I really don’t. Unless… we refuse to look for the gift.

Much ❤

🎙️ Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Even After Doing the Work (And How to Finally Break the Pattern)



Do you feel like you’re almost there in your life or relationships… but not quite?

What if the reason your life and especially your relationships still feel misaligned…is not because you haven’t done enough work… but because you’re still operating from an outdated identity?

In this powerful conversation at the Life Engineering, I get to chat with integrative neurosomatic practitioner Malia to unpack one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth:

Course correction doesn’t start with changing your life.

It starts with changing your internal architecture.

Even high-achieving, self-aware individuals, those who have done therapy, read the books, and committed to growth, often find themselves asking:

“Why does love still feel like the one place that isn’t aligned?”

This episode reveals why.



In This Episode, You’ll Discover:

✔️ Why you can do years of personal development… and still repeat the same relationship patterns

✔️How your subconscious identity (formed between ages 0–7) is still running your decisions today

✔️The difference between thinking you’re choosing… and actually choosing from freedom

✔️Why clarity not effort is what most people are missing

✔️The “Clear → Create → Claim” process to shift identity at the root

✔️A powerful 72-hour exercise to rewire your thinking and shift your reality fast



The Core Truth

💡You don’t get what you want.

You get who you are.

And until your identity matches your desires… you will keep recreating the same life in different forms.



This Episode Is For You If:

-You’ve done the work… but still feel “almost there”

-You keep attracting the same patterns in relationships

-You struggle to trust your decisions

-You want a life and love that actually feels aligned



🎧 Listen Now:

Youtube: https://youtu.be/NRNeTuDfrLE

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1mzBIhnHiSu3j6tUcNT1hO?si=nOtzUXz-SmCt6bt09-khXA



“All he did… was sleep shirtless.”

That’s what she told me in the session.

And I remember thinking…Wait, what?
Out of everything we could talk about, communication, intimacy, conflict, connection…this is what stood out?

Get the full scoop here:

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/all-he-did-sleep-shirtless-gabriela-embon-bsc-mjpde/?trackingId=CI2fpIwoe0lVtWPp%2Bv6cyQ%3D%3D

Happy Friday🥰!

Yesterday, at the SCN Canada Champion meeting, our chairman Gerry Lalonde, closed the call with a quote from Jim Carrey:

✨ “Don’t let your memories be bigger than your dreams.”

I loved it so much… that I decided to share it with all of you.🤗

Not just as a quote but as something to really sit with.

Because the more I reflected on it, the more I realized…this is not about “thinking positive” or “letting go of the past.”

It’s something much deeper. We tend to look at our memories as evidence.🤔
Proof of what is possible.
Proof of who we are.
Proof of how life works.

And here’s the shift that changed something for me:
The past is not what limits us. It’s the authority we give it.

Two people can live the same experience…and walk away with completely different futures.

One sees limitation. The other sees direction.
One says: “This is why I can’t.”
The other says: “This showed me what matters.”

Same memory. Different meaning. Different life.

🤔So maybe the real question is not: What happened to me?

But: What meaning have I been giving it… and is that meaning still serving the life I want to create?

Because the moment you stop asking your past for permission…your future becomes available in a completely different way.🙏

Much ❤
Gabriela

OMG! so excited to share this episode!

🎙️What Submarines Teach About Leadership, Trust, and Engineering a Life with No Regrets

What does it take to lead when there is no escape, no room for ego, and no margin for error?

In this powerful episode of the Life Engineer Podcast, I chat with Jon Rennie, former U.S. Navy nuclear submarine officer turned CEO, leadership expert, and author, to explore what real leadership looks like under pressure and how those lessons apply to business, relationships, and life.

From earning trust in life-or-death environments to building unity in organizations and families, this conversation reveals what it truly means to lead with accountability, presence, and integrity.



What You’ll Learn in This Episode

✔️ Why leadership is not about authority, but earned trust

✔️ The meaning of “earn your oxygen” and how it applies to your life

✔️ How to lead when you can’t escape your problems

✔️ Why great leaders create unity, not internal conflict

✔️ The difference between learning leadership vs. living leadership

✔️ How to let people fail without making them failures

✔️ The mindset shift that transforms teams into “we’re in this together”

✔️ What leadership in business and marriage have in common

This episode will challenge you to rethink: how you show up, how you lead

and who you are becoming

🎧 Listen Now



https://open.spotify.com/episode/1jG2RqBDCc7RF9CcvLDP1y?si=XUcSESOLR2yaiI3yli4IgA

https://youtu.be/T-7T5xpuyJM

I really love teaching couples how to increase their
Relational Index.

But What Does It Mean to Be Relational?

Being relational is not about being nice or about avoiding
conflict. It’s not about giving more, fixing more, or trying harder.

Being relational is: The conscious practice of staying connected to
ourselves, to the other person, and to the relationship we are building while
choosing responses that serve all three.

And your Relational Index is….

👉 Continue reading here: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-relational-you-your-index-might-surprise-gabriela-embon-bsc-n4jve/

“I treat people lovingly, whether they deserve it or not. If I make the love that’s in me dependent on somebody else, then I’m losing control over what’s so important to me.” Jack Barsky

Jacks's words made me reflect on how most of us love. Not just in marriage…but in life.

We love in response. We love when people are kind, when they show up, when they meet our expectations.

And when they don’t…we pull back.

We protect.

We give less.

As if love is something we give only when it’s earned.

But what if love was never meant to be a reaction?🤔

What if it was meant to be a decision?

The moment your love becomes dependent on someone else’s behavior, you hand over control of something deeply yours.

Now, bring this into marriage.

Over time, couples start loving less not because they have less love…but because they are reacting more.

“If they don’t show up, why should I?”

“If they don’t make the effort, why would I?”

And slowly and gradually , love becomes conditional. Measured. Transactional...Until both people are waiting for the other to go first.

But what if love in a relationship was not a reaction…but a way of being?🤔

This doesn’t mean you tolerate everything.

It doesn’t mean you abandon boundaries or self-respect.

But it does mean this:👉 You don’t let your partner’s moment define your capacity to love.

Because the strongest relationships are not built on perfect behavior. They are built on two people who choose, again and again,who they want to be in the relationship.

And maybe the question shifts from: “Do they deserve my love right now?”

to: “Who do I choose to be in this relationship regardless?”